Tag Archives: Behavior

Falling in Place

15 Mar

It’s a great feeling to accomplish a goal we’ve worked hard for. There may be great pride in the work we’ve done to achieve what we set out to do and we may feel relieved and satisfied when we reach the end of a long road. Hard work and determination can bring us great fulfillment and happiness when we’ve endured all the challenges before us and reached success. Few goals will come without effort and if we want to accomplish the things most important to us we must plan our way forward. Simply hoping things will happen or trusting in life to merely roll accomplishments our way is futile. It’s unlikely things will automatically fall in place the way we want them to. We must actively pursue what we really want to accomplish and then chart a course to achieve it. There isn’t anything we can’t do and all our dreams can become reality but it’s up to us to make them happen. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any road ahead of us. We can decide what we want and then begin forward to reach the goal. Life is filled with possibilities and we are the only ones who can keep us from any destination. There is no complication too difficult, no problem too complex, or situation so extreme we can’t find the way around it. If we want something badly enough we can have it. Everything is possible. We need only decide what we want and then do what is needed to get it.

Our behavior and attitudes can hang us up and hold us back from where we want to go. We can’t expect to open doors if we’re rude and hateful to those around us, or continually looking for ways to trip someone else up. If we are selfish and only interested in what makes us look good at the expense of those around us we may burn bridges we’ll need later to get to the goal we’re seeking. Success is more than accomplishment. It’s also reflected in the person we become and how we interact with those around us. Being considerate and polite, and ethical in all our dealings, will help us move forward and enable us to build the connections we need to reach the destinations we choose.

Things will always go wrong no matter what road we’re on. It’s normal for complications to arise and we may have to change direction to move forward. There are few times when our trajectory from one point to another is in a clean, straight line. Most of the time we’ll have detours and things in our way to navigate around. We are strong and capable and certainly wise enough to figure out any problem we may face going forward, and we can find the way to any goal. Every destination is possible and with determination we will find success.

Today if you’ve been standing back and hoping something will happen to bring you success, take control and move toward the goals you desire. You have everything you need to succeed. Take the first step and plan your journey forward. Open every door that will take you where you want to go. Nothing is too far away or too hard for you to reach. Every success is possible. Take control and all your dreams will come true.

Rose Colored Glasses

8 May

I am an optimist by nature. I tend to look for the best in others, and generally give them the benefit of the doubt. I have always been this way, and when I was growing up my mother used to tell me that one day I would have to remove my “rose colored glasses,” and see the world as it really was. She felt that I gave people too much credit, and that the world didn’t work that way. Well, now that I am grown up, I understand that the world as it really is depends on my perception. Since I’m still the same girl I was years ago, and I’m still an optimist, I’m still wearing those glasses.

Some people see the world differently though. They focus on the negative, the problems, the complications, and the drama. There is certainly a lot of that, and if we want to we can focus on them. But there is also a lot of good in the world. There are people doing good things, there are happy families, there are noble organizations, there are people serving one another, and the list goes on and on. Unfortunately, most of the good news never makes it to the daily broadcasts, or the news feeds on-line because it isn’t sensational enough. But what could be more sensational than doing good in a world so focused on the bad?

They say life is what you make it. We can’t prevent all the trouble that comes into our lives, and we certainly will have our share of challenges. But we will also have our share of blessings. If we have enough to eat, clothes to wear, shelter to rest in, and enough money to survive we are living well. Some people are never happy no matter what gifts they possess, and what they have is never enough. We can look at our lives that way, and we can complain every second of every day if we like. We can find fault, we can pick on those that don’t do things the way we would do them, we can criticize, and belittle all we want to. But in the end, our lives are what we make of them. If we do that all the time, our lives will be filled with criticism, complaints, and discontent. Nobody really wants a life like that.

However, if we look for the good in every situation, we will surely find something there. Even in the most difficult times, even dealing with the most annoying people, we will find something that’s good. If we look for the good in our lives instead of the negative and disappointing, our lives will be filled with peaceful feelings, confidence in others, and a positive outlook for the future. It’s all in how we decide to see it. In the summer we could complain because it’s hot outside, or we could see the gorgeous flowers and trees thriving in the hot sun. In the winter we could complain because it’s snowing again, or we could see the beauty and peace in a winter’s landscape. It’s the same situation both times, but our response to it changes our perception.

Today when you face difficult situations, annoying people, or complex challenges, try to look for what is good about the situation. There will be something there. It’s always there if we look for it. It may be very small at times, but something will shine through. If we learn to do this in every situation we will become happier, and more content in our lives. We can wear rose colored glasses and still see the world as it is. There will always be problems, there will always be trouble, but there will always be joy as well. Look for it – it’s there.

One Small Step

23 Mar

Few people are happy with themselves exactly as they are and generally there are things we all want to change about ourselves.  Some of those may be big things – career choices, marriage choices, children etc., but most of the time the changes we want to make aren’t that encompassing.  Maybe we want to lose some weight or gain some weight, we may want to improve our relationships with friends and family, we may want to learn a new language or travel more.  There are endless choices for change and endless opportunities to begin them.  But for reasons I can’t explain, even when we have something we really want to change, it can be hard to get started.  We get stuck in the routine and the nagging voice in the back our heads keeps reminding us that we want to change this.  The reminders are always there but we put it off, we procrastinate, we avoid because change can be scary, even it its something we really want.

So try this.  Make a decision about what you really want to change now.  Then instead of trying to enact the whole change, whatever it is, change one small behavior this week that you’re doing which is keeping you from being successful in making the change.  For instance, if you want to learn a new language, this week start looking at the options out there to learn it.  What programs are available for you, what are the time commitments, what is the cost (if there is one) and what will you need.  Just take this week and start looking.  Research all the options and then begin to decide which path looks best.  Next week you can make a decision on which option you like.  And then the week after that, you can purchase the materials or begin taking lessons.  Step by step, you will begin to incorporate the desire to learn the new language into your life.  After a few weeks you’ll be on the path to begin your learning and if you stick with this, doing a little more each week, before long your goal will become a reality.

Let’s look at another one.  A lot of us want to change our physical state – get thinner, get heavier, get more fit.  Every year at New Years lots of us make a resolution to do this.  We join gyms, we join weight loss programs, we hire personal trainers, but the reality is that by about the end of February, a lot of those “resolvers” have returned to their previous behavior patterns and given up.  So try using this easy step by step approach and see if you can’t do better.  For instance, if you just want to change your diet to lose a little weight, maybe this week just give up dessert.  That’s all.  Just dessert.  Then if that goes well, next week maybe you could cut back on your portion size at dinner, and still leave out dessert.  Take it step by step.  Don’t rush or you will fail.  Don’t deprive yourself of what you really want.  Just make a small change.  If you decide one day you absolutely have to have dessert, have it!  Enjoy it and then start again the next day leaving it out.

If you want to get more fit, this week you might begin to research what options are available to you, the costs involved, the time commitments, etc.  Then review them all and see what looks good.  Next week you could take the next step by talking about  your plans with someone involved in the programs you’ve found.  Then you could decide how to go forward, how much time you are willing to commit, how much money (if that’s involved) you can afford, and you could make a realistic plan to begin.  Then you could make a well thought out and defined decision about how you want to go forward.  Then take it day by day, changing a little at a time until it becomes part of your routine.

When we want to change, it seems we expect the change to come quickly, almost instantly but we must remember that we did not develop our behavior patterns instantly.  We developed them over time.  And that’s the way we will change them – over time.  Step by step.  Give it a try.  You can change anything about yourself that you really want to.  You just need to plan and give yourself the time you need to facilitate the change.  Be everything you want to be.  Be everything you want to be.  You can do this.