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Head Game

18 May

“All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct result of his own thoughts.”  James Allen, As a Man Thinketh

There are endless things we can accomplish as we go through our lives. We have goals we want to achieve and places we want to go. The world is a huge place filled with opportunities and we can do whatever we want, anytime we want. Every success is possible if we believe we can achieve it, and nothing is out of reach. Some goals require specific skills and abilities, and if we don’t now possess them, we can make a plan to gain them and move forward with confidence. But skills and abilities will only take us part of the way. We must be convinced we can succeed. If we don’t think we can do something, chances are we won’t be successful. Believing in ourselves and trusting our instincts and abilities will move us forward. If we doubt we have what it takes, and feel insecure and uncertain we can succeed, we may sabotage our own efforts. Constantly questioning ourselves, second guessing our options, and worrying we can’t make it, may can work against us, and prevent us from reaching the goal. There are endless things we can do, but we can’t accomplish anything unless we’re convinced we can succeed. We are capable of doing amazing things. We can stretch beyond what is comfortable and reach for something more. Nothing is too far or too complex for us to figure out. We are intelligent and powerful, and can do anything we desire. Every option is there for us, and we can reach every goal.

Everyone has their own ideas and opinions. If we share our plans and goals with them, they may not agree with us. They may tell us we’ll never be able to accomplish the task, it’s too hard, or will take too long. We are all entitled to our own opinions but they only belong to us. They are not rules of behavior for others. We don’t need permission or agreement to do anything we desire, and we don’t need the belief of others to succeed. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

Everything we desire is there for us, but they won’t simply come to us because we want them. Dreaming about the lives we want the most will not make them happen. We must believe our dreams are possible, and then do everything necessary to make them ours. We are highly capable, strong and intelligent. We can do anything. Every destination is there, waiting for us. We can take the first step forward, and then the next, and soon we’ll reach every goal. We can do anything. The whole world is there for us, and we will have it.

Today if you’ve been dreaming about something you want to do but haven’t begun the journey, trust yourself. You are smarter and stronger than you think you are. Nothing is too difficult for you to accomplish. Take the first step. Look ahead and continue forward. Every destination is there for you and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself. You are amazing and powerful. All your dreams are waiting for you, and you will win.


2 Jan

Our lives are constantly changing and filled with new beginnings in one way or another. New circumstances may bring us the opportunity to completely change where we are or where we’re headed. We may rethink what we’re doing and decide to start something new or begin toward a different goal. Sometimes changes such as the beginning of a new year, a change in our relationship status, a new location or a modification in our professional lives create a natural opening to re-evaluate our direction. Life is malleable and always evolving as we move forward. Few things are constant and we have the power to alter our trajectory or destination at any time. We are never truly stuck and no matter where we are or how long we’ve been standing still, we always have the power to move. Our lives belong to us and we may restart and begin again anytime we’re ready. What we do and where we go is up to us. Nothing can stop us from achieving anything we desire if we’re willing to do what we must to succeed. There are unlimited possibilities and if we don’t like where we are now, we can change. Beginning something new is exciting but will always bring some challenge and risk. Things rarely go exactly as planned, but we’re strong and capable and able to adjust as needed to overcome any obstacle. Life is an incredible blessing and with determination and patience we can go anywhere and do anything we desire. Nothing is out of reach and when we’re ready we can set our sights on any goal. All options are possible and we can have the lives we dream about.

Sometimes we may start toward a goal but soon find we’ve gotten off track. There are many things that come into play when we’re trying to change. The timing may be off, or there may be others doing things that get in the way, or our commitment may not be where we need it. If the goal is important to us, no matter how many false starts we’ve had, we can begin again. When we’re truly ready for the change we desire we will do what is needed to make it happen.

There are all kinds of reasons not to do the things we want to accomplish. We can certainly stay where we are as long as we choose, settle for complacency and do nothing to move forward. It’s easy to coast along and takes little effort to simply go through the motions. But if we want the life we dream about and are willing to step out of our comfort zone, the road to success will open for us and we can reach any destination we truly desire. Our lives are ours to design. Nothing is out of reach and with focus and determination we can accomplish any goal we desire.

Today if you’re not happy with where you are and want more out of life, decide exactly what you want and take the first step toward achieving it. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to accomplish. You can have the life you dream about. Be fearless and move forward. All options are possible and when you’re ready, every door will open. You deserve complete happiness and with determination you will reach it. All your dreams are waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.


9 Dec

As we go through our lives, we meet lots of people.  Some become friends, some just acquaintances, and some we meet once and never see again.  We see people in passing, and interact with them in lots of different situations.  Most of us think we are good judges of character but sometimes it’s not easy to know what people really are.  There is the old saying of a “wolf in sheep’s clothing,” meaning sometimes someone looks one way, when in actuality they are completely different.  We meet people like that from time to time.  There is always a reason they are hiding behind what we see, and often those reasons are destructive.  It’s hard to see behind a disguise.  Sheep seem so friendly and docile that even if a little dark fur is sticking out under the white curls we might not notice it until the damage has been done.

It’s good to be trusting of others.  It opens doors for us and helps us feel comfortable in our interactions.  But when we have a trusting nature, we can also be manipulated by those whose intentions are not noble.  We might befriend someone we think we can trust, only to discover they aren’t trustworthy at all.  If that happens, we may blame ourselves for falling for a lie, but it’s not our fault when someone else makes bad decisions.  We aren’t fools because we trusted them.  Until we know that someone is wearing a disguise it’s appropriate to give them the benefit of the doubt.  When that is abused, and we discover we’ve been duped, we may be hurt, but we’ll learn more and can make wiser decisions going forward.

If we get tangled up with a wolf and get hurt, we may decide not to trust anyone anymore.  But that never works.  Most people are honest and deserve our trust and respect.  If we judge everyone based on the few who choose badly, we only end up hurting ourselves.  We can’t live in a vacuum, and we need others in our lives.  No matter what’s happened, we’ll find a way to recover, and use the information we’ve learned going forward.  We can be brave enough to allow others to get close to us despite the experience.  We are in control and we can make excellent decisions and judgments.  There are a lot of genuine sheep in our lives.  There are people who care about us and want what’s best for us.  We can’t disregard our good relationships with them because there are a few wolves waiting in the wings.

Today if you’ve discovered you’ve been manipulated or in some way treated dishonestly, and you’re hurt, learn from what you’ve experienced.  You know more now than you did, and you can go forward with confidence.  You can still trust those around you, and allow them to get close to you.  There are a lot of good sheep in your world.  Don’t let one wolf turn you against those who love and care for you.

Do This Not That

3 Sep

It seems everyone is willing to give us advice. Sometimes we ask for it and when that happens we may be glad to receive it. Other times those around us may offer it because they think we need to hear it. We may not want their advice so when it comes unsolicited we may not appreciate it. Even though we are the only ones who know exactly what’s happening in our lives, others sometimes think they know better and will tell us not only what they think, but what they think we should do. We may take from their comments whatever we find helpful, but we aren’t compelled to listen to anyone’s suggestions about our lives if we don’t want to. We are free to live each day as we choose, even if that doesn’t match what someone else thinks is best for us.

It’s natural to want to be helpful when we care about someone. If we see them doing something we think is the wrong decision, or something we think will hurt them, we may want to step in and tell them how to change things before something goes wrong. We care about them, and we don’t want them to suffer. But there are limits to what we should do, and certainly limits to what we can do. Perhaps we have a friend who makes the same mistake over and over again, and always gets hurt. If we see them headed down that same, tired road again we may want to stop them before things go wrong. We can talk to them about their decisions, and we can offer our advice, but if they don’t accept it, we have to let it go. It’s hard to walk away when we think we can help, but if they don’t want the advice, it won’t help anyway.

We can find ourselves giving advice without thinking about it. If we see someone doing something we don’t agree with, or something we don’t think will work, we might just speak up. It’s fine to give suggestions but we must remember that a suggestion isn’t an order. The receiver doesn’t have to listen to us, and we need to respect their choices. We never really know the entire story of why anyone does anything. There are often extenuating circumstances affecting their decisions, but even if there is nothing more than what we can see, the choice is theirs to make. We all get to make our own choices, good or bad. It’s up to us.

Today if you’re getting advice you haven’t asked for you may choose to follow it or let it go. Be thankful to those who think enough of you to offer their help, and then choose what’s best for you. If you find yourself giving advice, remember that your suggestions may not be followed. In either case, it doesn’t mean the advice is bad. It just means we all get to decide what we’ll do on our own. Getting it or giving it, advice is just a suggestion. Take it or leave it, it’s up to us. You know what’s best for you. Follow that.

Finding Peace

4 Aug

There are a lot of ups and downs in life. Sometimes it goes easily, and sometimes not. When we’re disappointed about the way things are going, we can find ourselves unsettled, and upset. If we’re unhappy with where we are, or what’s happening, and we desperately want something to change, it’s hard to find peace. Although we may want a change, there are times when we have no control over the issue. Nothing we can do will move it along or transform it. At times like those, it’s hard to be comfortable. We may feel impatient, and frustrated. But sometimes we have to endure things as they are, even if they aren’t the way we want, or need them to be. Eventually things may improve but until then we’re stuck. And we aren’t happy.

There is a lot we can change about our lives if we want to. We have control over what we do, and how we react. But we don’t have any control over the decisions of others. Unfortunately when someone in our circle makes a bad decision, or a decision we don’t like, and it affects us negatively, it’s hard to accept. We may fight against it. We may argue and disagree. But in the end, the only decisions we can control are our own. And sometimes that means we have to take what comes, even if it’s not what we want.

It’s helpful to remember that acceptance can bring peace. We don’t have to like a decision that’s hurting us or making us uncomfortable, but we can understand that it’s been made and we can’t change it. If we can’t change things, we have to accept them as they are. It may take time to get to acceptance, and we may have to overcome anger and disappointment, but once we decide to let it happen, we can relax, and let the stress go. We can find a way around the problem, and we can move forward. Acceptance will bring us peace – not always happiness, but peace. And peace is important in our lives.

Today if you’re struggling with something that is making you uncomfortable and you don’t have the power to change it, work on accepting the situation as it is.  Let it go, let yourself relax, and find peace. You deserve a happy and peaceful life. Acceptance will help you find it. Take a breath. Let go. And then move forward.