Tag Archives: Adoration

Being the Fly

19 Jan

“Will you walk into my parlour?” said the Spider to the Fly…” Mary Howitt

Many of us have heard the story of the spider and the fly. The spider lures the fly into its web with flattering words and compliments, and in the end the fly is captivated and then is captured. In life, there are all kinds of people with all kinds of ideas and agendas. If they want us to join them, they may flatter and cajole us, offering us gifts or constant attention. If we’re careful and sure of ourselves, we may see through the manipulation and be able to walk away, but there may be times we miss the mark. We might align ourselves with someone who looks like a friend and ally, only to discover once we’re next to them that they are completely different than we thought. Once the shine of newness and flattery is gone, the stark truth of what’s happening will appear. If we’ve been caught up in something we don’t want, we aren’t doomed to stay forever. It doesn’t matter what we’ve been promised, or how much they reassure us that what we can plainly see isn’t the truth. We’re in control of our lives and can step away from anything that makes us uncomfortable or is heading somewhere we don’t want to go. Nobody knows everything and there will likely be times when we’ll be deceived. We may have been the fly at the beginning, but we are never so entangled we can’t escape. Once the truth is clear, we can decide how we want to proceed, and choose the best road forward. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely, and with courage, and wisdom we can do what is needed to correct our course at any time, and continue forward toward success.

If we want to convince someone to do something, we might embellish facts, or leave out information that may dissuade them from agreeing. We can do anything we like, but truth is powerful and will eventually rise and become evident. Bending details, and glossing over problems in an effort to get someone’s support may work at the beginning, but as time marches on, all the flaws and issues we left out will show themselves. It’s far better to be completely honest and upfront, explain the facts as they are, and let those around us decide for themselves.

When we are captivated by someone, it may be hard to see everything as it truly is. If they are very attractive, we may be blinded by their beauty and unable to clearly focus on what is real. It’s exciting to feel the thrall of attraction, but we can take our time and stop for a moment to look at everything objectively. Infatuation is intense and fleeting, but we can keep our wits about us and hold fast to reality. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and patience, we can make our dreams come true.

Today if you’re being lured to do something you aren’t sure of, think about what you really want. You are intelligent and wise and can discern what is real. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with determination and focus. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Be confident and strong. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.


19 Aug

As we go through our days we have limitless choices to make.  Every day brings a new challenge or question to answer.  If we want to be our best we try to make each decision well.  We try to keep our feet on the road we want to travel and get closer to the person we want to become.  Sometimes people notice our good works but often they just get lost in the shuffle of everyday living.  If we make a good decision that requires us to sacrifice something we may feel others should acknowledge it.  Perhaps we feel we should receive some kind of praise because we chose well.  But we don’t make good choices for the acclaim they bring.  We make them because they are the best decisions we can make going forward.  We will find great satisfaction by choosing well and oftentimes prevent complications and problems doing so.  We don’t need the praise or adoration of others because we were wise.  Being wise will bring us enough reward.  We will be content in our lives by choosing the best roads possible and feel good knowing we are doing our best.  Although the praise of others feels good it is not required or needed.

Some decisions we face may have attractive options that won’t take us where we want to go.  It can be hard to turn away from a quick fix or a poor choice that will bring us benefits we desire.  But temporary solutions generally bring only momentary happiness and often result in endless complications.  If we’re tired or frustrated and want to move forward quickly we may opt for them, but in the end may find the harder more effective decision was wiser.  We don’t need immediate gratification to find happiness.  We can carefully plan for all possible outcomes and choose the very best option even if it takes more time and is more difficult.  We are what we do.  If we want to be the very best we can be we must make the very best choices.

Some people need a lot of attention.  They want praise every time they do something right, and recognition when they accomplish a difficult task.  Oftentimes that need for attention comes from a lack of confidence.  We can be confident by choosing well.  The need for approval and acknowledgement may influence us into making decisions that aren’t the best choice going forward.  If what we’re seeking isn’t long term success but immediate praise, we may choose options that are quick and flashy but have no lasting success.  We don’t need the agreement of others to choose well.  We can make the best choices even if we stand alone.  We are smart enough, capable enough and wise enough to find the best answers and we are strong enough to choose them.  There isn’t anything we can’t understand and master if we want to badly enough.  We don’t need adoration to choose well.  We can make the best choices and succeed because it’s what we want most to do.

Today if you’re facing a decision choose the path that takes you closer to the person you want to be.  There is greatness in you.  Show the world who you really are by choosing well.  You have so much to offer and we all need your influence.  Choose wisely and success will follow.