Mirror Image

1 Feb

We meet a lot of different people as we go through our lives. Some of them may be very attractive to us, and if we meet someone we admire greatly, we may look up to them and desire to be like them. If they have a lot of influence over us and are doing things we want to do, we may begin to copy their behaviors and mannerisms, associate with those they are close to, or even begin to dress like them. We may think if we do all the things they’re doing, we’ll end up with the lives they have. They say imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and that may be true, but imitation will never be reality. Even if we act and dress just like someone else and copy everything they do, we are still ourselves. We can do what is required to achieve everything they have but we will still be living in our own skin. We are all individuals and there is no way to clone ourselves into a mirror image of someone else. We have unique and precious gifts to present to the world that nobody else can give. There is no need to try to become someone else and attempt to capture their gifts and talents to be successful. We have everything we need to define and find our own personal success. We can be ourselves and do things our own way. We have so much to offer and nobody else can bless the world with the gifts we have to share.

We all face all kinds of comparisons and judgements, and there may be times we don’t feel we measure up. Maybe we’re not as financially secure as we’d like to be, or aren’t as tall or beautiful as we want to be, or despite our efforts there are achievements we’ve been unable to conquer. There are millions of people in the world and there will always be someone with more of something we want, but our experience is exclusive to us and we are exactly where we need to be. We can change anything we like and continue to grow and learn as we go forward. Every goal is possible and there is nothing too far for us to reach. Every accomplishment is within our grasp.

There isn’t only one road to happiness or one perfect destination. There are endless possibilities to do what we want and go where we want to go. One person may choose one road, another may choose a road going in a completely different direction and both may find great success. If we’re on the road that takes us where we want to be, we’re successful. There are countless destinations ahead and which we choose, and how we get there is up to us. We don’t have to follow someone else’s path, and we don’t have to go at their speed. We can customize our lives to fit us perfectly and find success.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and copying their choices thinking it will bring you success, remember your success is defined by you. It doesn’t matter how anyone else lives their life. Your life is yours to design and nothing is out of reach. Choose the roads that will take you where you want to go. You have so much to offer and the world is blessed for the gifts you bring. Do it your way. Every success is there for you and you will reach it.

The Greatest Risk

31 Jan

We can do anything we set our minds to.  We can achieve any goal, go anywhere, and accomplish anything we desire.  The whole world and all its options are always available to us but nothing will come without action.  They say the greatest risk of all is inaction, and that’s true in every arena of our lives.  It’s unlikely that anything we truly desire will come to us without effort.  Our lives are in our control and every choice we make takes us somewhere.  If we choose to sit on the sidelines or ride along with everyone else and put no effort into our direction, our lives will roll out on their own and we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go.  It’s like getting on a bus not knowing the destination and simply arriving wherever it takes us.  Of course, if we haven’t decided where we want to go, one bus is as good as another.  But our lives are the greatest blessing we possess.  Doing nothing to make them the way we truly want them will never bring us happiness.  Although it’s easier to let others make decisions about where we go and what we do, living authentically and in control of our destinations will bring us great satisfaction and joy.  It isn’t always easy to forge ahead our own way, and there may be others who disagree with our choices, but we are in charge of our lives and may live them any way we choose.  Taking control, taking action, and moving forward with purpose will take us where we want to go and help us fulfill all our dreams.

Before we begin any journey we must decide where we want to end up.  It’s pointless to travel around going here and there and having no destination in mind.  Being busy doesn’t always equate to being productive.  If we flit from one idea to the next, and constantly change our focus, chances are we’ll spend our time actively engaged in going nowhere.  It’s easy to get caught up in a world filled with distractions and if we aren’t careful we may find a lot of time has gone by and we’ve accomplished little.  We can decide what we want, where we want to go, and then move forward.  We are in control of our decisions and can accomplish anything we desire.

Change is the only constant in life and sometimes on the road to a destination we may face insurmountable obstacles.  Sometimes even if we know where we want to go the road ahead is blocked and we can’t move forward.  We can decide to stop and wait until things improve and our situation changes.  Deciding to wait is not inaction.  It’s choosing to revise our plan going forward.  But no wait is permanent and when things change if we still want to get to the goal, we must begin again.  We can have any kind of life we want.  We need only choose the road and start walking.

Today if you’ve been thinking about something you want to accomplish but have done nothing to move toward it, make a plan and begin.  You can do anything.  You can go anywhere.  Decide what you want the most, and start forward on the road that will take you there.  There is nothing out of reach and you can make all your dreams come true.  Start walking.  Success is just ahead.

Now What

30 Jan

As we’re moving through our lives, focusing on our goals, enjoying our associations with others, and working toward our destinations, sometimes things go exactly the way we plan. Events roll forward in predictable ways and the road ahead is open and unobstructed. When we’re moving forward and things are going well we feel confident and sure of success, and it’s only a matter of time before we achieve the goal we’re seeking. And then out of nowhere, sometimes everything changes. We’re steaming along and suddenly the bottom falls out of our plans. It’s like running headlong into an invisible wall. We may be stunned and rattled, speechless and unable to move. Sudden changes turn our course immediately, often without warning, and we may stand stupefied for a moment and wonder, now what? If everything we depended on disappears, and everyone who was with us turns away, we may be left standing, bereft and confused. Change is part of life and sometimes the changes we experience are extreme and unexpected. When they happen, it may be so dramatic and all encompassing that we may have no idea how to proceed. If we stop and stand still, and take some time to wrap our heads around all the changes and understand where we are now, we will find the courage we need to continue. The road we were on may be gone but there are countless others we can take and we can start again. We can regain our footing, refocus on what we want to do, and step forward.

When our lives are routine and things are happening the way we expect them to, we feel comfortable and sure. We know how our days will go, and everything is familiar. It’s good to feel relaxed and we may become complacent thinking we’ve got everything under control and all is well. If things suddenly change our first instinct may be to deny what has happened. We may believe if we don’t acknowledge the situation it won’t impact us. Looking away from an issue will not remove it, and ignoring problems will not solve them. Although we may desperately want things to stay the same, change will come, and we can do what is needed to continue forward.

When our lives suddenly change in ways we don’t want and didn’t expect, we may try to force them back to the way they were. We may attempt to restore what was, but there is no way to go back in time and no way to change what has happened. Life marches forward and will not retreat. We can step back, take time to process our new reality and then decide how we want to continue. All our dreams can come true but sometimes we must take the long way around to get to them. If things go wrong, we can find another way. If the bottom falls out, we can rebuild it. Everything is possible and nothing is strong enough to keep us from our goals. We can keep moving forward through any complication and find success.

Today if all your plans have suddenly gone up in smoke and you feel lost and confused, take a moment to understand where you are. Look around and decide how you want to proceed. The goal is still there for you and you can still reach it. Decide on the way forward and start again. The road is there and success is only steps away.

About Time

29 Jan

Time is an eternal concept that has no beginning and no end.  It continues forward uninhibited and uncontrolled, and there is no way to hold it back.  No matter what we’re doing, it constantly advances and nothing we do can stop it.  As children the days seem long and time is rarely a factor in the things we do.  As we become adults we learn that our time has parameters we must work within and when we’re busy it seems to move more quickly.  Because we have no control over the passage of time, we must learn to manage it effectively.  There is no way to add another hour to our days because we are overextended.  We have the same amount of time each day to accomplish the things important to us.  If we get distracted, if we lose focus or forget our objective, we may find the day goes by and we haven’t accomplished what we wanted.  We are always in control of our lives and every decision either takes us closer to or moves us further away from our goals.  If we take control of our choices and are clear on our direction forward we will accomplish much.  Everything is possible if we are aware and willing to do what is needed to accomplish it.  We can manage our time carefully, think about the best plan going forward, and achieve any goal we set.

When we’re working on something important and we have a time limit there is added pressure to get things done.  If the parameters are sufficient we may be successful, but sometimes the limits put on our endeavors are unrealistic or complications come up that prevent us from moving forward, and we don’t make the cutoff.  If we can’t extend the time needed to complete a task and it’s impossible to get it done before time is up, we will fail.  There is no way to see all the twists and turns of any journey from the beginning.  Sometimes things go wrong, sometimes people get in the way, sometimes nothing works the way we think it will, and we fail.  But failure to complete one task does not mean failure overall.  We can begin again, make a new plan, and accomplish anything we desire.

Procrastination is a dangerous habit.  It’s simply a decision to delay action over something or to put a task off until later.  We can always change our plans and if necessary, wait to accomplish something while doing something else.  But habitual procrastination can lead to carelessness or even laziness.  If we get into a habit of always putting things off we will accomplish very little.  There is rarely a perfect time to do anything, and if we want to get something done we can find a way to do it.  We are in control of every move we make, every choice and decision, and we can be successful in accomplishing many things.  Everything is available to us and we can move forward with confidence and purpose.

Today if you’re pressed against a time limit for a task you’re trying to complete, work as efficiently as possible and accomplish what you can.  Manage your time effectively and plan accordingly.  You have everything you need to be successful.  Be wise and thoughtful, and go forward with confidence.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Everything is possible and you will reach the goal.

Fairytales

26 Jan

We are in control of our lives and everything we do, where we go, and what we want to accomplish.  However, we don’t have any control over what others choose or how they impact us.  We live in a world with millions of other people all making decisions.  Sometimes their decisions can get in our way and stop us from moving forward.  When that happens we can look at our options and find another road.  If we’re deeply enmeshed in a situation and intensely desire a chosen outcome, when we’re stopped in our tracks, instead of changing direction we may wait, hoping things will happen on their own.  Maybe we have a job where we’ve been promised advancement but over time those promises haven’t materialized.  Or we’ve fallen in love with someone who says if we’re patient and wait they’ll come around and spend their lives with us, but nothing changes.  Reality isn’t always what we want it to be and if it’s hard to accept we might choose a fairytale instead.  We may cling to a situation hoping it will change even if there is no indication that will ever happen.  Hoping for a fairytale will never bring us lasting happiness.  Fairytales are not real.  They do not exist in the real world.  Holding onto something that will never happen holds us in place and prevents us from moving forward.  We deserve complete happiness.  We deserve the lives we want the most.  Spending our time wishing for something that will never be will only bring us sorrow.  We can look at everything openly and honestly, and choose the roads ahead that will take us where we want to go and bring us complete happiness.  Our lives belong to us and there is nothing strong enough to keep us from success.

It’s good to be patient and wait when we need to.  Patience is an excellent quality and we can wait as long as we like, but we need not be patient indefinitely.  If nothing changes we can evaluate how long we are willing to continue before moving forward toward a new goal.  Our lives are precious and we are always in control of our decisions.  We can choose happiness and continue forward at any time.

It’s possible to follow a dream we desire indefinitely.  We may convince ourselves if we just try a little harder or wait a little longer everything will work out.  Sometimes a little more patience or effort will push things forward.  If they don’t, we can look at the situation objectively, let go of any fairytales we’ve been holding onto, and decide how to move forward.  Fairytales are wonderful stories of make believe that have no bearing on the real world.  We can see our lives clearly and openly, and accept what is real.  True happiness is always available to us.  We can face everything truthfully and confidently, and have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been hoping and waiting for something to happen but nothing has changed, think about what you want the most.  There are unlimited possibilities available for you to find complete happiness.  See everything clearly and understand what is real.  Move forward and you’ll make your dreams come true.  Nothing is out of reach.  Take control and get what you want.