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Out in the Cold

9 Oct

The friendships and relationships we build as we go through our lives give us great comfort and a sense of belonging. It’s wonderful when we are part of a community, and when we have close connections to those around us we feel validated and supported. But we may face a time when we choose something different than what those around us think we should do. We may take a different road or start a new journey that takes us away from where we are and those we love. As we step forward, if our current companions stay in place, the distance between us will stretch and if we don’t hold onto to our connections we may become separated. We can always make any changes we like and go anywhere we want to go but sometimes if those we love don’t choose to go with us, although we are happy with our decision, we may feel left out in the cold alone. We are certainly capable of finding our way forward in any endeavor and have all the resources and courage we need to go anywhere we choose. But even if we’re happy with the choices we’re making, being alone can be unsettling for a time and we may question our decisions. Although it’s nice to have concurrence when we choose a new path and it’s fun to have our friends with us, there may be times when what we want must be accomplished on our own, all by ourselves. In those situations, we can be confident in our choices and trust that we have everything we need to succeed. We know what we want and are capable of doing whatever is needed to reach happiness and success.

There may be great power in a group situation. When several people join together in a common cause they may overcome great obstacles and find many answers. Although there are many benefits to working as a team, there will be times in our lives when what we want to do must be done alone. We are always free to choose the direction of our lives. Sometimes that may be what everyone else is doing, but other times the road we choose is set apart from those around us. We can take any path to any destination at any time. If we must go alone, we can. Every destination is possible and we can travel anywhere we desire.

Every choice and decision is ours to make. If we like, we can have the lives others design for us and follow any direction we’re given. But if we want complete happiness and satisfaction we must choose our own path. Nobody knows what we want better than we know ourselves. We can be confident in our decisions even if they differ from those around us. We know where we want to go and what we want to accomplish. Life is a great blessing and we don’t need the agreement of anyone to create the lives we want the most. Every destination is possible and every dream can come true.

Today if you’ve decided to turn away from the path you’ve been traveling and there is opposition around you, remember your life is yours to design. You can do anything you like. If you must travel alone, you will find your way. All options are possible and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Step forward and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.

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Stop, Drop and Roll

5 Oct

Our lives are constantly changing and we never know what’s around the next corner.  One thing leads to another and sometimes without noticing we might find we end up in a situation we never planned on and don’t want.  If we aren’t steering our boat it will simply follow the tide wherever it’s headed.   We’re responsible for our lives and if we find we’re going the wrong way we can stop moving and stand still until we see the right way forward.  We can drop out of any group we’re in and take a clear look ahead to be sure we’re going where we want to be.  If not, we can turn our course and roll onto something new.  We don’t have to go anywhere we don’t want.  Even if everyone around us is following the tide, we can go our own way.  We don’t need permission to change direction or approval of our decision.  We can do things our way and be confident we can reach the destinations we most desire.  There are unlimited paths to follow and endless places to go.  It’s up to us to decide how we want our lives to proceed.  We can go anywhere we choose but we must steer our boat toward the shores that will take us there.  It’s easy to merely go through the motions and follow those in front of us but that will never get us to the destinations we want the most.  We can have the lives we dream about but we must work for them and plan the way forward to achieve them.  Everything is possible if we stop to think about what we really want, drop out of the tide that’s isn’t taking us there, and roll forward with determination.  We can do anything and make all our dreams come true.

Life brings lots of changes to us but our trajectory forward will never change unless we take control.  Going along with everyone else takes little effort.  We can coast for as long as we like – our whole lives if we choose.  Coasting along might take us to places we like but it’s unlikely to take us where we most want to go.  One day will turn into another and before we know it time has passed and we are no closer to our goals than we were at the beginning.  We can change our lives whenever we choose.  We can do what is needed to get the lives we want the most and find complete happiness and satisfaction.

There may be times when outside influences impact our ability to choose the road we want to travel.  Things may go wrong and others may have control over our situation for a time.  But nothing lasts forever and in time, everything will change and the opportunity to move toward our goals will become possible.  We can keep our eyes focused forward and be prepared when the doors we need to open become available.  There isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re willing to take the steps necessary to make them reality.  Everything is possible and we can have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been following along with the tide and aren’t moving closer to your goals, stop and look at the options before you.  You can always change direction and begin toward the destinations you truly desire.  There is nothing you can’t do.  Be confident.  You are wise and courageous, and nothing can hold you back from your dreams.  Everything is possible.  Move forward and create the life you want.

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High Expectations

4 Oct

Everyone has their own ideas about the best way to do things and how we should accomplish our tasks. Sometimes we may be asked to do things for those around us. If we work for them or they have some authority over us we may be compelled to agree. If not, we may decide if we want to do what’s asked, and if we do, how we will go about accomplishing it. If those who ask us have high expectations about how quickly we’ll get the task completed or specific ideas about how we’ll take care of it and we aren’t in agreement, we may feel uncomfortable. If we’re pressed get through faster than we think we can, and are sure we can’t meet the deadline they’ve set, we may feel stressed and worried about the outcome. It’s possible to be asked to get something done in an impossible time frame. If we’re not the ones completing the task and going through all the details and complications to manage it, we won’t have a complete understanding of everything required. It’s easy to make decisions about how things should be done looking in from the outside, but there is no way to know what’s really happening unless we’re involved in the process. If we’re in a situation where the expectations given don’t match the reality we’re facing we may feel great pressure to do something that may not be possible. Expectations can always be set but reality will never bend to meet them. We can be confident in our progress despite what others think we should be doing.  If we do our best to accomplish the task we can be happy even if we don’t meet the time parameters given. We can set our own expectations about what can be done and logically and wisely continue forward.

When someone says we should be able to do something, they are basing their ideas on their own experiences and personal judgement. Our personal interpretations and understanding are unique to our own experiences. What works for one person is not feasible for another. When others tell us how they think we should do something, we can listen and take from their comments anything that will help us, but how we proceed is our decision. We are smart enough to figure anything out. We can move forward using the skills we’ve learned and do what works best for us.

Everyone sees the world through their own prism of understanding. Our life experiences color our perceptions and everyone has their own ideas about what is best. We know ourselves perfectly and we know what we want in our lives. We can make decisions that will take us where we want to go, in a time frame that works for us. Our lives are ours to design and every decision is ours to make. We know who we are. Trusting our instincts and choosing the roads we want will bring us fulfillment and happiness.

Today if you’ve been trying to do the impossible because someone has asked you to, step back and look at the situation openly and objectively. You are competent and intelligent enough to discern if you need to change your plans to reach the goal. Trust yourself to find the best way forward. You are amazing and capable, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be wise and move forward with confidence.

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Unavailable

3 Oct

We have all kinds of personal connections in our lives.  There are family members, trusted friends, lovers, partners, associates, co-workers and the list goes on.  In order to build our connections we must have contact with each other to create a strong and viable relationship.  When we want to talk to those near us or spend time with them, if they are continually unavailable the relationship will suffer.  Connections require continued contact to be healthy and vibrant.  If the door to them is always shut we will eventually grow apart and in time may lose the relationship altogether.  If we want to be close to others we must be present with them.  There is no way to have a lasting association with anyone if we’re never there.  Everyone is busy and it’s easy to get caught up in all the details we have to address every day.  But our relationships are important and help us throughout our lives.  When we share our lives with others and enjoy the give and take that meaningful connections bring, we are happier and more fulfilled.  It’s good to spend time with others and learn about them, get their input, and share our experiences.  Life can be complicated and sometimes difficult.  Having close connections will always be a benefit to us in any situation we encounter.  We can take the time we need to build strong relationships and nurture companionship and friendship.  We’re all in this together and are far more connected than we may realize.  Our lives are embellished and improved when we share them with others.  The world is a huge place and there are many who would value the friendship we offer.  We can share our lives with those around us and find great blessings going forward.

Intimate relationships don’t happen all at once and need time to develop.  When we’re close enough to someone else to share our most personal thoughts and dreams, our lives are enriched and we feel the joy of the connection.  If we want a deep and personal link to someone else, we must be willing to share our time with them.  If we aren’t available, are too busy when they want to be near, or are constantly distracted, there will be no way to build the close relationship we desire.  Wishing for a deep, rewarding relationship will not make it reality.  We must invest the time and effort needed to get there.

We don’t have to be close to anyone if we don’t want to.  It’s possible to go through our entire lives without building a single intimate relationship.  But the rewards of sharing our lives completely with someone else are great.  It’s easy to feel isolated and alone in the world but when we are completely accepted and understood by someone else, we feel validated and important.  Life brings us great blessings.  Those blessings are enhanced when we share our lives with others.

Today if you’ve been doing everything by yourself, think about engaging someone near you.  Open your heart and share your life with them.  Build a strong and close relationship and great blessings will follow.  You have so much to offer and we all want to know you.  Reach out and let us in.  Your connections will bring you great happiness and reward.

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Looking for Silver

2 Oct

Hard times come to us all. We never know what tomorrow will bring and sometimes our lives turn toward places we never want to go. Things will go wrong from time to time and our plans will sometimes fail. When everything gets turned upside down and we’re miserable trying to figure out what happened, why it happened to us, and what we should do next, it can be disheartening and overwhelming. They say every cloud has a silver lining, but when we’re in the midst of the storm, it can be hard to find anything to hold onto. If we’re devastated, and have lost our footing, we may feel stranded and alone. We know tomorrow will come and eventually things will change but it might be hard to figure out what to do until that happens. Trials and challenges can push us way beyond our comfort zones. We may feel the situation it too intense to manage. We may want to give up when it’s hard to continue and just sit down and refuse to move. Or we can trust ourselves and remember all the other times we’ve been overwhelmed and found the way through. We have everything inside us already to manage anything that comes. We are strong and intelligent, and even if we feel overcome, can find every answer we need to prevail. Nobody wants to suffer but hard times teach us valuable lessons about ourselves and the world around us. That knowledge is priceless and benefits every step we take moving forward. The silver will be there for us if we press ahead and do what is needed to solve whatever problem is troubling us. We are more powerful and wise than we realize and nothing can hold us down.

Some problems are very personal and we must face them alone. There may be internal conflict as we wrestle with the possible solutions before us. One road will take us one way, another will lead us to a different destination altogether. Sometimes we just need to change where we are and it doesn’t matter which road we take. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and what we need. By taking our time and reviewing all our options patiently and carefully we will find the best way forward.

If the situation we’re in is severely dire it may feel nothing good could ever come from it. We may not see any redeeming quality in the suffering we’re going through. But no matter what’s happening, there will always be something of value to be gained. Perhaps we’ll learn to be a little more patient. Or we’ll gain greater trust in ourselves. Or maybe the only blessing will be that we increased our strength by enduring. Every trial gives us something to hold onto and those lessons go forward with us to help us and guide our path.

Today if you’re in a terrible situation and are overwhelmed with the problems before you, trust yourself to find the answers. You are smarter than you think you are and will find your way. Learn all you can from the problems you’re facing. That knowledge will be a great benefit to you in the future. Stand strong. You can do anything and you will prevail.

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