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Looking Closely

7 Jun

In our lives when things go wrong sometimes it’s because of the decisions of others or circumstances that evolve we can’t control. Sometimes it’s because we’re in the wrong place at the wrong time and sometimes it’s because of decisions we’ve made that have brought hardship to us. When we’re struggling and unhappy we may look for someone or something outside ourselves to blame but it’s important to also look closely at our personal decisions and see if they had an impact on our situation. There are always many influences around us that may coax us into making choices that take us away from where we want to be. Those choices may bring us hardship and discomfort. We own our lives and can make them any way we want them and every decision we make can either take us to the goals we seek and bring us happiness or push us further away down a road we don’t want to travel. When we’re on the wrong road we may feel unhappy and unsettled but it’s always in our power to change course and align our way forward to where we most want to go. We all experience hardship from time to time and when it comes it’s important to look closely at why we’re struggling. If we need to change direction we can. If we need to change our focus we can. We deserve every happiness and we can have it if we choose the paths that are best for us personally and what we truly want.

It’s easy to coast through our lives and simply do what others expect of us, ignoring our personal desires and get through our days with minimal effort. We can live in a dream state for as long as we wish, going through the motions and acting like we’re happy. True happiness doesn’t just come to us. We must work for it and direct our lives toward it. It requires us to determine what we really want and then do what is needed to gain it. We already know what we want most and have everything we need to achieve it. If we apply ourselves to gaining our personal goals we can do amazing things and reach every destination we desire.

Lots of people have lots of ideas about how life should be lived. We all have personal opinions about how things should be done and where we should go. If we allow others to choose our paths going forward we will get the lives they design for us and not the lives we want for ourselves. It’s impossible to be truly happy living someone else’s version of our lives. We have all the wisdom and confidence we need to choose what is best for us and determine our personal destiny. We know ourselves perfectly and can decide what we want to do and where we want to go. When we take control of our decisions we can accomplish every goal we set out to achieve and find real and lasting success.

Today if you’ve been going along with what others feel is best for you, think about what you want most in your life. Look at your choices closely and decide how you want to go forward. Be yourself and choose your own way. Your life will be exactly how you want it and you will find real and lasting happiness.

Shaking it Off

6 Jun

We live in a big world with lots of problems and many conflicts. It’s sometimes difficult to see how everything will ever work out where there is so much strife and contention everywhere. We may feel afraid or nervous about our futures not sure of how secure we will be or what will happen. There are a lot of problems and sometimes it seems all we hear about and see are the things that are going wrong. We may feel unsure of our own personal safety, uncertain about what will happen to us, and lose confidence in our ability to succeed. There are a lot of influences in the world, and some of them may threaten us. It’s hard to see around them and fear may encompass our lives as we face them. While it’s true there are many problems and there is no way to see our future, it’s also true that we have everything we need now to be strong and confident and face whatever we must. We can hold onto faith in our ability to succeed no matter what forces stand in our way. We are smart and capable and if we trust in ourselves and hold firm to what we truly believe in we will succeed. There will always be winds blowing against us and reasons to quit and give up. But nothing can stop us if we are determined to continue forward. We can shake off our doubts and hold strong to the faith we have in ourselves. We are capable of doing anything we set our minds to. We have more courage and strength than we realize and if we trust ourselves going forward nothing will stop us.

Fear is something we all must face from time to time. Some of us are tenacious and rarely succumb to it and some of us struggle with it every day. But fear is just an emotion triggered by feelings of threat or the belief that something dangerous may be upon us. Often there is no real evidence that disaster is headed our way. The trick is to see things as they really are and not merely as they seem to be. If we clearly look at our situation objectively we may find we are more secure than we thought and can shake off any uncertainty. Fear is irrational but we can make rational choices. We can decide to be courageous and clear in our direction and continue forward with confidence.

There are no guarantees in life. We can plan effectively and ponder every possible complication and still things may go awry. There are limitless things that might go wrong and if we worry about them instead of focusing on the goal we may get stuck standing still. It’s impossible to move forward and stand still at the same time. Even if everything goes wrong and the bottom falls out we can still step forward. Nothing is strong enough or complex enough to hold us in place. We can shake off the doubt, push through the wind, and keep going.

Today if you’re facing something that is making you afraid or there is something you’re worried may happen, take a step forward anyway. No matter what goes wrong you have everything you need to keep moving. You are stronger than you think you are and there isn’t anything too big for you to face. Shake off your doubts. You have everything you need to succeed. The whole world is there for you and you will have it.

Paying the Bill

5 Jun

There is an old saying that there is no such thing as a free lunch, meaning no matter what we do or what we seek there will always be a price to pay.  Everything we do has a consequence.  We are not isolated living on a desert island alone and every choice we make, everything we say, and every action we take will have a result that may impact others.  We are accountable for everything we do and if we create stress or problems we will have to correct the situation.  If we are wise and careful in all our dealings our balance sheet may be easier to manage than if we simply do anything we like without regard to what may happen afterward.  We know how to make excellent decisions and for the most part try to do our best, but complications come to us all and sometimes the way forward is cloudy and hard to decipher.  When that happens we make the best decisions with what we have and if things go awry we can do what is needed to turn things around.  Being accountable for our actions is not optional and is required in everything we do.  We can make positive decisions and plan our choices carefully so they bring us the results we are seeking.  We can pay our bills as we go and move forward with confidence taking all we’ve learned along with us.

Some people are careless and thoughtless.  They make decisions based on how they feel at the moment with no regard to consequence.  There may be issues with self-control, temperament, or personal discipline and when things go wrong they often blame others or circumstance.  We can do anything we like and if we don’t care about others we can make choices based simply on our personal desires.  Whether we acknowledge it or not we are accountable and must pay for every choice we make.  We can make excuses and blame others but in the end we own our decisions.  If we are selfish we may lose connections with others, if we are insensitive we may lose relationships with those we care about and if we are careless we may hurt those around us and ourselves in the end.  Like a pebble dropped in a pond, every decision we make may have many ramifications.  Remembering those possibilities will help us make the best decisions possible and prevent problems as we move forward.

Even when we’re careful and plan wisely sometimes things go wrong.  When they do if we’ve been wise in our decisions we will find the way through.  There are always lots of factors we can’t control and there may be situations of which we are unaware.  When problems develop we have all the courage and wisdom we need to find the answers and re-direct our way forward.  We can see all the options available to us and choose the best road ahead.  There isn’t any complication too complex for us to manage and we will find success.

Today if you’ve made a mistake in judgment and the consequences are difficult to manage, look ahead and find the best way forward.  You know where you want to go.  Choose wisely and move ahead with confidence.  You are strong and smart, and there isn’t anything you can’t do and succeed.  Keep moving.  The best is yet to come.

Wrong Door

1 Jun

When we’re striving to achieve something, there are often many roads that will get us there. Sometimes it seems obvious which way we should go and we set out with confidence. Everything may go well until we hit a roadblock that stops us. Perhaps there is a door we must open and pass through to continue but no matter what we do we can’t get through. We may try to force ourselves forward but if the door blocks us nothing we do will work. Even if we’re headed in the right direction there may be times when we run into an impasse. Something or someone may stand in our way and we may be unable to continue forward. If we are knocking on the wrong door we will get stuck. No matter how good it looks, the wrong door will never take us to our desired destination but there is always another door to find. When we get stopped we can take a moment to look around and see the options before us. No matter what is in our way, if we are determined to reach the goal we can find the road forward. There are few journeys that don’t have complications. Since we can’t see what lies down the road we must take each obstacle as it comes and navigate through. We have all the wisdom and courage we need to accomplish anything we desire. Obstacles may stand in our way but we can continue forward and gain success.

People are complicated and sometimes we may have a relationship with someone that turns out to have a negative impact on our lives and prevents us from moving forward. As we interact with them we may discover things are far different than we thought. We can’t know what we don’t know but truth will rise and when we see things clearly if we don’t want to continue as before we may change direction. We can let go of what doesn’t work and choose a more effective road going forward. We deserve every success and can make whatever changes we desire to ensure we reach it.

As we focus on a goal, if we only see the destination we desire and nothing else, we may ignore what’s going on around us as we push forward. We may miss signs that we are heading in the wrong direction, or be unable to hear quiet promptings that caution us. It’s important to take the time to ensure we know where we’re going before we storm ahead. There is nothing we can’t achieve if we are willing to do what is needed to gain it. We can plan carefully, modify when necessary and find success. We have everything we need already and no matter how many complications we face we will find the way through.

Today if you’ve been striving forward toward a goal and have reached a door that will not open, turn your course and continue on. There are limitless doors, and detours are just cues to change direction. You know how to modify your course and you will find your way. Keep moving forward. The whole world is there for you and you will have it.

Indelible Ink

31 May

When we’re working on a project with ink pens sometimes we might slip and get a mark on our clothing.  If the ink is permanent and indelible we may be stuck with the mark forever.  We could scrub and scrub and try every possible cleaner but if the ink is permanent it will remain.  It’s frustrating to get a mark on something we can’t remove and when it happens each time we see it we will be reminded of when it happened.  We might think of our lives that way.  We make choices and it’s easy to believe the results of our choices are permanent.  While some decisions may bring lasting consequences no matter what has happened often there is a way to modify the outcome.  Life is unpredictable but the one thing we can always count on is everything will change.  Even if we try hard to make the best decisions, there may be times when because of circumstance or unknown factors we may choose something that takes us somewhere we don’t want to go.  It doesn’t mean we are doomed to stay there.  We can evaluate where we are at any time and change any situation we don’t want.  No mistake has the power to hold us forever.  There is no indelible ink involved.  We can change direction, correct any errors, resolve any problems and move forward.  The road to success is never a straight upward line.  We travel here and there as we find our way and when we hit a snag or choose the wrong door we can back up and turn again.  There isn’t anything we can’t change and we can reach any destination we choose by continuing forward with confidence.

Guilt is a self-imposed emotion.  Nobody can make us feel guilty.  Although they may say or do things that trigger that response we decide whether we hold onto it or not.  It does nothing to help us move forward and it can’t correct any problems we are facing.  Sometimes we will err and when we do we can look at the situation openly and then determine the best way forward.  Regret is a common response to a bad choice but it need not stop us from continuing on.  We have the ability to make excellent decisions and we can correct any mistake we’ve made and move forward toward success.

There may be times when a situation arises where a decision has disastrous consequences.  We don’t always have all the facts and sometimes things go awry.  If we’re facing a difficult situation that is hard to unravel we may feel we’ve ruined our lives and there is no way out.  But life is constantly changing and nothing stays the same forever.  If we step back and see the problem objectively we will find a way through and be able to begin the process of rebuilding.  We can be confident in choosing wisely and we will find success.

Today if you’re facing a mess and feel lost trying to find your way through, you have everything you need to overcome anything before you.  You are wise enough to make excellent decisions and correct your course.  There is nothing you can’t resolve and no problem too great for you to manage.  You are strong and capable.  Do what is needed to move forward and be confident.  You have everything you need to succeed.