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On Hold

29 Nov

In our busy lives it’s sometimes hard to fit everything in we want to get done. We can manage our time well but sometimes we may need to set something aside and put it on hold. We may need to postpone meetings with others or wait to do something we’ve been planning, and we are flexible enough to manage adjustments when we must. But if we get into a situation where we continually set someone or something aside and there is no plan to actually engage them and take care of matters, we may create problems going forward. Most situations can wait for a while but if we hold them in suspense indefinitely they will likely suffer. Relationships put on hold will eventually break down through neglect and if we don’t make them a priority we may lose more than we’re comfortable with. Being on hold doesn’t freeze time. Things continue to change. If we wait too long to return to those we’ve set aside we may find ourselves alone. We can always find time for the things that are most important to us. Leaving someone out in the cold while we do other things indicates where our priorities truly lie. We always do what we want to do most and what we decide to do indicates who we are. It takes effort and attention to build close relationships. Paying attention to those who mean the most and taking the time to follow through to show we care will create strong bonds and lasting connections. Our lives are what we make them. When we value what is most important we will find comfort and happiness.

People say a lot of things. They may tell us what they are going to do, what they want to happen, and that they care for us. Words are important in communicating how we feel but without action to back up our statements they mean nothing. If someone says they love us but never have time for us it will be difficult to believe. If they constantly put us off, postpone meetings again and again, and don’t respond when we need them, all the professions of love will be meaningless. They old saying that actions speak louder than words is accurate. We are what we do, not what we say.

Sometimes we have good intentions and want to be there but desire is only the first step in any endeavor. We can identify what we want and if we are sincere we must then move forward in ways that bring it to us. Putting it off until later will not get us closer to the goal. Nothing robs success as effectively as procrastination. Planning to do something later is planning to do nothing now. If we want strong connections to those around us and real success we must actively pursue our goal and do what is needed to bring it to pass. We can do anything we don’t put on hold. Every happiness is there and actively pursuing it will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been putting others off thinking you’ll get to them later, remember later never arrives. You only have now to do what is important. Determine what you want most and go forward caring for the things you treasure most in your life. Remember who is important and keep them close. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Be open, be available, and show the love you have for those around you. Their love in return will bring you limitless happiness and constant joy.

Taking It

28 Nov

Everyone has dreams they want to pursue. We decide what we want from life and can move forward toward any desired destination. If the goal is outside our normal scope and will require a lot to accomplish, those around us may discourage us from going after it. They may want to protect us from disappointment if they don’t believe we will succeed, they may think we’re crazy to try to achieve something new, or they may be jealous we have the temerity to try. Although their opinions belong to them, if they are negative and they share them with us, we may begin to doubt our ability to move forward. It really doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions. We can do anything we like but we have to be strong enough to step ahead even if everyone else disagrees. We have to be able to take it and still be confident we can win. We can always let go of what we really want and go the way that fits the ideas others have for us. It doesn’t take any energy to go along. But letting go of our dreams and allowing someone else’s vision of our lives to take over will never bring us happiness. Others may disagree with us, but that need not have bearing on our choices. We know ourselves better than anyone else and we know what we want and where we want to go. There isn’t anything powerful enough to keep us in place if we are determined to move forward. Every single dream is within our reach. Every single goal is attainable. Our lives belong to us and we may live them any way we choose. We deserve complete happiness and doing what we want the most will bring it.

It takes courage to change our lives. We may have to step out of our norm and do things differently in order to move ahead. Our routines are comfortable and we may continue them for as long as we like. But if we want something new, we must modify them to accommodate the change we desire. We are capable of trying unlimited new things. We can change direction, reach higher, step on a new path, and do anything we want. If we are willing to do what is needed we can accomplish anything. We are smart enough and brave enough to succeed.

Expecting our lives to simply bring us the dreams we imagine is a fool’s game. Wonderful things will come to us by chance but the desires of our hearts will require work. There are few things worth having that are achieved without effort. We can make all our dreams come true if we do what is necessary to make them possible. Every dream can become reality. Deciding what we want most and then planning our way forward to reach the goal will bring us satisfaction and happiness. There is nothing out of reach and no goal too high or too far for us achieve. We can focus on what we want and live in ways that bring success.

Today if you’ve been wishing for a change you desire, start doing what is needed to make things happen. You’re in control of your life and can do anything. There isn’t a dream too big or too difficult for you to reach. Step up and step forward. Everything is there for you. Reach out and make your dreams come true. Make your life exactly the way you want it and you’ll find happiness.

Accomplished

6 Nov

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives.  Some of them share common traits with us and others are very different.  We all define success in unique ways and accomplish many different things as we navigate forward.  Sometimes if we meet new people who have achieved great and impressive goals we may feel our lives are small in comparison.  We may look at ourselves compared to them and believe we haven’t done enough or our contributions are in some way less valuable.  None of us will have identical experiences and we all move in different ways on the roads we have chosen.  When we see the success others have achieved we may think our successes aren’t as important or are somehow beneath them.  It’s easy to believe we haven’t done enough when we compare ourselves to others we admire but every achievement no matter how small has value.  Every single step we take forward is an important success.  If we’re on the road we want to be on and headed in the direction we want to go we are successful.  The world’s ideas of success mean nothing.  We define our personal success by the standards we set for ourselves.  Maybe we haven’t published a book, run a marathon, or built a corporation.  But if what we’ve done has brought us satisfaction and happiness, we are successful.  Nothing can compare to the joy we find when we accomplish something we truly desire, no matter if others notice or not.  We are defined by our own standards.  Our lives are valuable and important and our contributions count.  Everything we do makes an impact and we are an integral part of the world around us.

Fame and fortune are big and spectacular.  We see it splashed across headlines, the covers of magazines and those who enjoy it get a lot of attention.  If we get caught up in what others think we should achieve and aren’t on those roads, we may believe we are failures.  If we haven’t earned a lot of money, or done anything sensational and noteworthy to those around us, we might think our lives are inconsequential and meaningless.  But every life has value.  Every one of us plays a role in the history of the world.  Every decision we make brings a result that affects the situation around us.  We fill an emptiness the world would experience without us.

We define our lives and design them in ways that bring us happiness and satisfaction.  What we value may not be what others find important.  Our goals are unique to what we want to accomplish.  We need not define our personal success by the parameters the world sets.  Our happiness is achieved when we do what is most important to us and takes us where we want to go.  The world belongs to us and we may define it according to our unique standards and desires.

Today if you’ve been comparing yourself to the successes of those around you and feel you haven’t accomplished enough, remember your life is yours to define.  You decide what your personal success looks like.  You are important and the world needs your influence.  Be yourself and be confident.  You have so much to offer and we’re all lucky you’re here.

Spreading it Around

1 Nov

Life doesn’t always go the way we plan and sometimes we end up in places we never wanted to go.  There may be problems, obstacles, complications, unforeseen situations and a thousand other things that go wrong.  When we’re in a difficult situation and unhappy, as we struggle with what has happened and try to figure out where to go next we may be quite unhappy.  We may share our discomfort and unhappiness with others around us.  We might gripe, complain, find fault or other expressions of our misery.  It may feel good to share our trouble with others but bringing them down because we feel bad will never help us find the way out.  There are no answers to be found in spreading misery around.  They say misery loves company and in some ways that’s true.  It can feel better to know everyone else is suffering right along with us but there is a quicker way to find peace.  If we set our problems aside for a moment and focus on what is going right in our lives we can regroup and see the issues we’re facing more objectively.  There will unlikely be a time in our lives when everything is going wrong.  Most often when we’re navigating difficulty in one area of our lives, we are succeeding at something else at the same time.  If we can step back and see everything clearly, and acknowledge what we are doing well in the midst of duress, our way forward will be clearer.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  We can accept challenges and find solutions.  There isn’t anything we can’t overcome.  Every success will come to us and we can face trouble confidently and peacefully.

Some people aren’t happy and complain constantly.  If the weather is beautiful, they complain because there is no rain.  If they succeed in a project they’ve been working on, they complain because it took longer than they planned.  If they win a race, they complain because they are sore.  If we look for something to complain about we will always find it.  But along with all the things that go wrong, there are many things that go well.  Instead of looking for what failed, we will be happier if we look at what worked.  Lots of things go right for us.  Recognizing them and embracing them will bring us peace and a happier perception of our lives.

If we’ve suffered through several disappointments one after the other, we may begin to believe we are somehow cursed.  We might think no matter what we do we will never win.  Repeated disappointments are difficult and it can be hard to stay positive when things go wrong again and again.  But if we focus on the big picture and look back at how far we’ve come already instead of only looking forward to how far we have yet to go, we will find comfort.  We have the potential for great success but we must continue forward in order to reach it.  We are wise and capable, and can do anything we desire.  We can be confident and strong going forward and we will reach every destination.

Today if you’re facing a big disappointment and you feel unhappy and unsuccessful, stop and look back at the road behind you.  You’ve already accomplished so much.  You can do anything.  Be confident.  You will reach success no matter what stands in the way.  The world belongs to you and you will reach every destination you desire.

Fire Sale

24 Oct

We each have our own standards and who we are is defined by our personal values and how we manifest them in our lives. The true definition of who we are is marked not by what we say we believe, but by what we actually do. We can hold fast to our standards, or sell out whenever we choose. Selling out is easy to do and we may simply go along with whatever is happening and ignore the beliefs we talk about. Our lives are fluid and ever changing, and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We are always free to choose but not free to choose the results of those choices. Being true to what we value and holding fast to nobility and honesty will always take us to places that enrich and encourage us. Decisions to keep achieving the goals we most want aren’t always easy to make, and there will always be those around us suggesting other options. If we want real happiness and success the only way to reach it is to determine what is most important and who we want to be. Setting our course ahead following what we value most will bring us happiness. There are endless diversions and distractions all around us. If we look we will always find other places to go. But if we stay true on the course we desire most we will reach our destination and find peace and contentment. We can go anywhere, do anything, and be anyone. Deciding how best to navigate our way forward will make us the people we want to become.

Although many things in life are flexible, some things are absolute. There is no sliding scale for honesty. We may believe if we’re honest most of the time we’re fine, and we probably are. But being anything most of the time will never make us genuine. If we really want to be honest, caring and kind, we must commit to adopting those behaviors all the time. Of course, nobody is perfect and there will be times we may slip but if we are constant in our desire to hold true, over time, we will succeed.

Actors work at playing roles. They pretend to be something they are not and can be quite convincing. If we want to seem different than we really are in order to fit in or to go along, we may act in ways that take us away from where we want to be. There can be a lot of pressure to assimilate and instead of standing firm we may bend in order to blend. The problem with bending away from what we want most is that it takes us further from our goal. We know what we need to do and where we want to go. We don’t have to fit into anyone else’s model or blend into any situation. Our lives are ours and we may direct them according to what is most important to us. We can find every success and reach any destination we desire. True happiness is there for us and we will find it.

Today if you’ve been modifying your actions away from what you most want for yourself, turn back and be true to what is most important to you. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Step forward on your own path and hold fast to your values. The world is blessed because you are here. We need your good influence. Be confident and step ahead.