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Not Biting

21 Sep

There are all kinds of people in the world and we’ll have all kinds of interactions with them. Most of the time things will go just fine, we’ll communicate and get along without issue and move on. But everyone is different and some people have very defined ideas about how things should go that may be completely different from our own viewpoint. They may demand that we respond or do something they want, and may apply serious pressure to get us to go along. They may even give us a mandatory time frame to respond or act by. People can make any demands they like, but we are in control of our own lives. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks we should do, we can make our own decisions. Just because the issue is imperative to them does not make it imperative to us. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do. The influence of others is only as powerful as we allow it to be and we have the right to live our lives according to our own desires and standards. While some people may think they’re in control of those around them, and do everything they can to press their views, we never have to take the bait. By not biting, and simply continuing forward according to our own desires and priorities, we can move through any difficult situation. We can be respectful and decline any suggestions offered. Our lives are ours to design, and when we are true to who we are and what we want, will find great satisfaction. We know who we are and where we want to go. We can set our own course and continue forward toward success.

Some people want everyone on the same page, agreeing and following along. They like conformity and are uncomfortable when others have different ideas they do not share. While it’s true that it’s often easier to move forward when others are involved if everyone stays within the lines set forth, we all have unique perspectives that are valuable and worthwhile. Sameness can only bring sameness. Different viewpoints and opinions bring depth and richness to every situation. Listening to everyone’s point of view will open new doors and enlighten the way forward.

If we want to make cookies, we must pull together many different kinds of ingredients. It’s impossible to make something delicious with just one item. A bowl full of flour is just a bowl full of flour. But if we add sugar, salt, eggs, chocolate chips and other ingredients, we end up with something wonderful. Our lives are the same way. By allowing all kinds of opinions and ideas and being open to new ways of doing things, we embellish the road ahead and enrich our experiences.

Today if someone is demanding that you do something their way and you have other ideas, be patient and polite, and then chart your own way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and know what you want. Stand strong and step forward with clarity and purpose. Every destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

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Meant To Be

15 Sep

Everyone has their own ideas about life and what we should do. We’re all unique and can make any decisions we like. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, there is always another option possible, and we can choose our next steps whenever we’re ready. Sometimes things go wrong, what we want eludes us, our plans don’t work out and we get turned around. Those who care about us may tell us not to worry. They may say, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll work out.” People frequently say things like this as a way of easing pain or helping someone feel better. However, if things are “meant to be” outside of our control, it would mean that our lives have been programmed and there is no way to choose anything different. We are fated to experience whatever has been planned for us. Of course, that is complete nonsense. We all have free will and can do whatever we choose. There is no pre-destination in play and nothing is meant to be. Life is full of twists and turns, and we may get tangled up going in the wrong direction from time to time, but we are perfectly capable or redirecting our course and starting again. If what we want isn’t available right now, we can move onto something else. Change is constant and we may have the chance to reach the goal later. We’re in complete control of our lives. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward toward anything we desire, and be confident of success.

While most things are possible, they won’t all be possible today. We may have to wait until our situation changes, we’re in a new place, or circumstances have evolved in a way that allows us to succeed. If our goal involves other people, is dependent upon their alignment, and they don’t agree, we may not be able to accomplish the goal. Everyone has the right to choose anything they desire, and if they don’t want to go along, we may have to change our plans. There are unlimited things we can do and endless places to go. We can move in a new direction at any time, and continue on to something else.

It’s hard to be patient when we want something badly. If no matter what we do we can’t move forward, we can step back and think about how we want to proceed. We can look at all the options possible and decide on our next steps. Life is long and setting something aside for now doesn’t mean we’re giving up. Things change every day, and we can wait until the road clears, and try again. We are highly capable and intelligent, and will find our way forward.

Today if the goal you desire is out of reach, look at everything objectively and determine if it’s viable at this time. If not, move onto something else. There are unlimited options available and you have everything you need to prevail. Trust yourself, and step forward with clarity. You are really amazing have so much to offer. We’re all blessed because you are here. Step forward toward success, and make your dreams reality.

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Stopping and Starting

27 Aug

Every day we make lots of decisions. We decide where we’ll go, who we’ll meet, what we’ll do and many other things. Our lives are under our own control, and we decide how we’ll live them. Although we all know what we want, we might find ourselves doing things that hold us back from the goals we want to achieve or prevent us from moving forward. We may be making choices that put barriers in our path, and prevent us from getting closer to where we really want to be. We may want to lose weight, but continue to have desert – after every meal. We may want a different job, but don’t take the time to look at what’s out there. Or we may want more freedom, but continue to do things that hold us down. There are millions of reasons why we may sabotage ourselves, but if we seriously want something, we can change what isn’t working and start again. We can stop doing what keeps us from success, and start doing what will move us closer to it. Every decision is ours alone to make. It doesn’t matter how long we’ve been putting something off, how many times we’ve tried and failed, or if others don’t support our choice. We can have the lives we dream of if we’re willing to do what’s needed to make them ours. This life is a great blessing, and we can live it fully in ways that express who we really are. Every single destination is possible, and with clarity and focus we can go anywhere, and do anything.

Relationships are important, but if we’re in a situation where one is holding us back from the life we really want, we can step back and look at all the options possible. If it’s a family relationship, we can find ways to stay connected without being intensely involved. If it’s an intimate relationship that isn’t working, we can decide how to disengage in ways that allow us to move forward more freely and find happiness and peace. Our needs and desires are important and we can ensure they are being met. Our happiness is our responsibility. We know what we want, and have everything necessary to make it ours.

It’s easy to stick to a routine, even if it isn’t making us happy. We can continue to do the same things over and over again, and know what to expect. But every day is a gift. What we do with it is up to us. We can continue to coast along dissatisfied and not rock the boat, or we can take control and choose the roads that will take us to the goals we want the most. Nobody knows what we want better than we do. There is great happiness and satisfaction in living our lives exactly the way we desire, and doing things that will take us to the success we choose. Every blessing is already there for us. We just need to step forward, and claim them.

Today if you’ve been standing still and want to move closer to your goals, decide what you want the most and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you, and nothing can keep you from reaching them. Your life is yours to design. Nothing is out of reach. Be confident and sure. You are amazing and intelligent, and can make your dreams come true.

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Real Intent

24 Aug

As we go through our lives we’ll do many different things. Our experiences are unique to each of us, but no matter who we are, we’ll accomplish many different goals and go through countless different scenarios. When we want to do something, success will depend on how sincerely we want to succeed. If we’re thinking about something, and decide it might be nice to have, we may try to achieve it. However, if we aren’t determined to succeed, when the first challenge appears, we may simply let it go and walk away. We can do anything and go anywhere, but we’ll never accomplish anything without real intent. We must want to succeed no matter what comes, what goes wrong, how many challenges we must face, or how hard the road gets. If we only kind of want it, chances are we’ll only kind of succeed. Having real intent is imperative to achieving the things we desire most. If we doubt ourselves, the road will be much harder than if we believe we can prevail and press forward with confidence. Nobody can read the future and there is no way to know what will happen until it does. Life is full of surprises, twists and turns, and sometimes everything goes haywire and upside down. We can’t control what comes but we have complete control over how we manage it. We are intelligent and powerful, and nothing is strong enough to hold us in place. Every single dream is possible and with courage, faith and determination, we can have the lives we dream about.

It would be great if those around us supported all the decisions we made or the things we wanted to accomplish. Although agreement is nice, we don’t need it to do anything we desire. We don’t have to swim downstream with everyone else, or follow along. Our lives are ours to design and we can create them any way we like. We are a blessing to the world and have incredible gifts to offer. How we express them, where we go and what we do, is up to us. Nothing is out of reach, and we can do anything we desire.

We may have a bad experience that makes us lose faith in our ability to accomplish the things we want the most. Maybe we’ve experience failure, or a serious disappointment that has convinced us we’ll never succeed. Failure is hard to endure, but it teaches us what doesn’t work and helps us better understand the world around us. If we learn everything possible from each experience, and are determined to move forward, we’ll be enriched and strengthened as we push ahead. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing is beyond our reach.

Today if you’ve been toying with an idea you think you want to pursue, decide what you really want and step forward. Be confident and determined to win. You are amazing and highly capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Step forward with determination and real intent. Success is there for you and you will reach it.

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Unavailable

18 Aug

Everyone has their own ideas about how they should live their lives. We all have goals and dreams we want to accomplish. Some of them are inconsequential and can be achieved easily with little effort. Others are crucial and their importance weighs heavily upon us. When there’s something we really want, something we feel we must have to be comfortable and happy, and we can’t get to it, our frustration may be intense. Everything is possible but not everything will be available all the time. We only have control over ourselves and may face a time when due to unforeseen circumstances, what we want is unavailable. Nothing we do will get us to it, and it remains out of reach. It’s very hard to accept defeat when we want something intensely. But if it’s not possible, and there is no way to get there, we will have to set our sights on something else, and wait. Change is constant and in time, however long it takes, whatever is in the way will move and the door will open for us. We can continue forward and keep our eyes focused on the road ahead. When things change, we can be ready to step up and seize the moment. Every goal is possible but they may not bend to our timeframe. We can be flexible and prepare for when our situation opens up, and start again. Nothing is too difficult for us to achieve, and with patience and perseverance we will prevail.

Waiting takes practice and patience. It’s hard to stand still when we want to move. But waiting gives us a chance to look at everything objectively. There may be a way around the obstacle in front of us we didn’t see when we were rushing forward. By looking carefully at every possible option, we may find the key that unlocks the road ahead. We are very intelligent and highly capable, and nothing can elude us indefinitely. We know what we want, and with clarity and confidence, can make it ours.

If we’ve waited a long time and still nothing has changed, and it seems the goal we desire is simply not available no matter what happens or what we do, we can decide how we want to proceed. Some plans may not work out and we may have to change our focus. That doesn’t mean we’ve failed, only that the idea won’t work at this time. It doesn’t mean it will never succeed. We can look at other things and continue to move forward, checking back from time to time to see where we are, and the possibilities ahead. Nothing is out of reach forever. Everything is possible and when the road opens, we can move toward success.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, decide on how you want to continue. You can work on other things and still keep the goal in focus. When things change, be ready to move and you’ll reach success. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Be confident and strong. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

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