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Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

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Back Room

8 Mar

Every day of our lives brings something new. We experience happy times, sorrow, disappointment, and unlimited other things as we navigate through our days. Some experiences bring us great joy and we hold onto them, but not every experience will be positive, and we may go through some things that are so difficult, painful, and disturbing, we don’t want to face them. Maybe we don’t have the courage to face the issue completely right now and so we leave it unresolved and unsettled. We might tuck it away in the back room of our minds, thinking if we ignore it long enough, it’ll just disappear. Unresolved conflict can sometimes work itself out over time, but those instances are few and far between. No matter how hard we want something to go away, what we ignore will remain until we face it completely and do what is needed to resolve it. The back room is great place to store things, and at home when there’s something we don’t want we may stick it back there. But it will never simply disappear because it’s out of sight. It will sit and wait until we return to take care of it. Nobody gets a perfect life, and lots of things may go wrong. Our plans may fail, our friends may disappoint, our families may pressure, and we may end up somewhere we never planned to go. Trying to look the other way when trouble comes will only prolong the agony. We are strong enough and smart enough to face anything that happens. By looking at everything clearly and openly, we will find the answers we need to resolve any issue and settle any complication. We can trust ourselves to find the way ahead and be confident we will prevail.

Horses wear blinders to keep their vision focused on the road ahead and prevent them from seeing any distractions around them. Although we don’t wear actual blinders, we might face a situation that is so uncomfortable and difficult, we may avert our eyes and try to ignore it, hoping it will fade off or someone else will take care of it. We might get lucky a time or two, but mostly what we refuse to face now will persist until we muster our courage and actually face it. There is no need to hide from anything that happens. We already possess everything we need to accomplish anything we must.

Life can be complicated, and we can be very busy. If something happens that we simply cannot deal with right now, we can set it aside and continue on. Change is constant and once our situation is more settled, we can return to the issue and take care of it. There is nothing wrong with waiting until we’re ready to face something. When we’re ready, we can return and take care of anything we’ve left behind. Our lives are ours to design any way we like, and with persistence and clarity, we can manage whatever develops and find success. Nothing is too hard for us to face, and we will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t think you can manage it, think again. Remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious problems and prevailed. You are more powerful and wiser than you think you are. Nothing is too difficult for you. You are amazing. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence.

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Essential

19 Feb

Essential

The world is a big place with billions of people, who are busy going about their lives. There’s always a lot going on and each individual is making continuous decisions that impact the world around them in some way. When we think of how large the world is, and then ponder the universe and beyond, we may wonder how anything we do could make any difference in a creation so large. When others around us are powerful and loud, and we are not, it’s easy to feel invisible. It may seem we’re insignificant and easily overlooked, and that may impact our confidence. The old saying that, “The squeaky wheel gets the grease,” is true. Loud people will get a lot of attention simply because they are loud. But that doesn’t mean they are wiser or more valuable than we are. Everything we do impacts the world around us in some way and everything is different simply because we are here. Whether our impact is positive or negative, is a result of the decisions we make. Our contribution is essential, but what kind of effect we have is up to us. Believing what we do doesn’t matter is a fool’s game. One single drop of rain changes the earth. One drop can mean the difference between life and death to a thirsty plant. What we do has far greater ramifications than a single drop of water. Every single decision we make brings a result. Some are of little consequence, but they still count. We are each individual, unique and exclusive. There isn’t anyone exactly like us in all of creation. What we bring to the world, and the gifts we have to offer can only be given by us. Our presence enriches everything. Remembering how valuable and important we are to the whole, will help us reach higher and achieve great success.

As we go through our days, our routines can become the norm. The constant busyness of life can consume our time, and we may set aside the things we most want to accomplish. There is great worth is living successfully and meeting our responsibilities, but our dreams are important. We can plan our lives in ways that allow us to accomplish what needs to be done, and still have time to work toward our personal goals. We are the most important person in our lives. Planning for what we most desire will bring us great happiness and satisfaction.

Some people are strong willed and bossy. They know what they want and will do whatever it takes to get it. If we must interact with them, they may try to enlist us to accomplish tasks that will take time away from us but move them forward. If they have authority over us, we may have to comply, but if not, we can step away and choose our own path. We have so much to offer and everyone is blessed in some way because we are here. By trusting ourselves and understanding our importance, we can move forward with confidence, sure of success.

Today if you’ve been feeling invisible, as though your contribution doesn’t count, think again. You are incredibly important to the world and bring gifts nobody else could offer. Your value is priceless and precious. Believe in yourself and step forward with confidence. Your light embellishes the world, and blesses us all.

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Without Doubt

9 Feb

Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we want to do. Not everything will be easy but if we want to move forward, we can find a way. We will go through a lot of different experiences and some of them may leave their mark on us and make us feel less confident. Perhaps we’ve suffered through a terrible break in a relationship that has left us devastated, or someone says something that cuts us deeply and makes us doubt ourselves, or a thousand other possibilities. While we are in control of everything we do, we have no control over anything else. Others may hurt us, decisions may be made that impact us negatively, and we might struggle to find our footing. We may lose faith in our ability to succeed and feel lost and uncertain. We may hesitate to step forward, sure we will fail, and lose faith in our ability to move ahead. Nobody gets a perfect life when every road is paved, and nothing goes wrong. Everyone will suffer a set back from time to time. What we do once we’ve been knocked down will determine what comes next. We can stay down and surrender, give up on our dreams and merely exist, letting the days wash over us without a thought. Or we can look at everything possible, get back on our feet, and decide to continue on. We might get pushed all the way down, and be unable to see the road ahead, but we are more powerful than we may realize, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We can sit up, and then stand, strong and resilient, stepping forward toward where we want to go. There is no requirement for perfect confidence to begin moving ahead, and if we aren’t completely confident yet, we can trust it will come. Each step will bring us more clarity and assurance, and as we move closer to the goal, our strength will increase. Nothing can keep us from the goals we desire. Every dream is possible, and we will make them ours.

Everyone has their own opinions about life. Some people are courageous and ambitious, and move through complications without a second thought. Others are more cautious and mindful of the pits in the road, and careful taking each step. There is no one right way to live and there are unlimited roads to every goal. We can do things our way, take the time we need to feel comfortable and reach success. We already know what we want and have everything necessary to make it ours.

Few roads are clear and paved all the way forward. There will likely be problems, detours, and unexpected complications as we proceed. The road may get tangled and hard to navigate, but if we’re focused on success, none of that will matter. There is a solution to every problem, and we can figure out any issue that stops our progress. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to find the answers required to take us forward. Nothing can keep us from success, and we will prevail.

Today if you feel unsure that you can succeed, remember all the times you’ve overcome adversity already. You are powerful and strong, and have everything necessary to reach any goal you desire. Trust yourself and be confident. Decide how you want to proceed and step forward. Every dream is there for you and you will make them yours.

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Impossible

3 Feb

There are unlimited possibilities in life. We can do anything we want, go anywhere we desire and accomplish endless goals. We are strong and capable, and with focus and determination, there are few things we can’t do. If we don’t have the skills we need, we can get them. If we need more information, we can find it. There isn’t anything too hard or too far away for us to reach. But life is complicated and there may be times when our confidence suffers, and we feel anxious and unsure. The cause for our unsettled feelings may be obvious or obscure. Maybe we’ve moved to a new location and feel lost because we haven’t figured out where everything is yet. Or our lives have taken an unexpected turn that has brought difficulty and stress. If we know what’s causing the discomfort, we may be able to address the issue and find some resolution. However, the reasons for our distress may be hard to pinpoint. When we feel uncertain and unsure, we may be convinced that doing some things is impossible. They are too hard to process, too complex to manage, and just more than we can face. We can’t be confident and unsure at the same time, and whichever emotion is strongest at any given moment, will prevail. How can we find our confidence again? Although we may feel invisible and unsure, our courage is still there within us. It may be lying dormant because of a stressful situation, but it is ready to rise and assist us at any moment. We need only trust ourselves, believe we can succeed, and reach deep to pull it forward. No matter what’s happened or where we are, our determination has not left us. We are still here, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. We can stand strong, and look forward convinced we will prevail.

If we’re intimidated by a situation, instead of processing and managing it, we may think about running in the opposite direction and letting someone else handle it. Running away has its benefits – we don’t have to face the challenge, and we can hide. But there is no return on investment from abandoning the ship. We will gain nothing to carry forward with us. We are wise enough to figure out any problem or complication that comes, and strong enough to endure to the end and find resolution. By trusting ourselves, we will overcome any obstacle and reach success.

The first step into unknown territory is often the hardest. We don’t know what to expect, and may fear what could happen. But the first step leads to the next, and if we continue we may find nothing was as difficult as we anticipated. We are highly capable and can manage anything we must. There will always be a way forward, and with patience and focus, we’ll find it.

Today if the situation around you is difficult and you are unsure how to proceed, trust yourself. You have already overcome many hard challenges and there isn’t anything you can’t manage. You are amazing and powerful, and will find every answer. The whole world is there for you, and your dreams are waiting. Step forward with strength and confidence, and you will make them yours.

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