Archive | December, 2017

Somewhere Else

7 Dec

As we go through our lives making decisions, one thing always leads to another and sometimes we end up where we didn’t intend to go. Maybe we take a job in a field we aren’t really interested in because it’s all we can get at the time. We think we’ll keep it until we find what we really want and at first perhaps we sincerely look for something else. But time goes by and we get used to what we’re doing and after a while we forget about anything else. It’s easier to keep doing anything than it is to change. Routines are powerful and once established we may keep them indefinitely. If we are satisfied with our lives there is no reason to change but if we continually feel we want to be somewhere else, happiness may elude us. We can only be in one place at a time. If where we are isn’t where we really want to be we may feel unsettled, and like a shoe that’s a little too tight there is the continual nagging that something isn’t right. We can change our lives at any time but change takes effort and determination, and if we’re complacent we may simply muddle through and take what comes. It’s easy to let life roll out on its own and go along. We can go through the motions, do what others expect, and keep our heads down, but true happiness will never come from complacency. If we really want to live fully we must look up and decide if what we’re doing is what we really want. We can do anything and there is nothing out of reach. All options are on the table. We need only decide how we want our lives to be and then do what is necessary to make that happen. We deserve complete, unabashed happiness. We can be exactly where we want to be doing exactly what we want to do. We can move forward and do things our way.

Once we have an established pattern in our lives, those around us learn to depend on it. They know where we’ll be and what they can expect from us. Our connections to our relationships are important and strong. If we decide we want to do things differently we may experience tension and frustration from those around us. It’s easier to keep things going as usual and maintain the status quo. But we can determine what’s best for us and take any road we choose.

When our lives are predictable and stable we have a strong anchor. If we decide to change things we may loosen our stability for a while as we go through transition. As we move forward with confidence we will rebuild that stability and find satisfaction. We can live the lives we dream about and do the things we really want to do. We have all the courage and insight we need to move forward as we choose. Life is a great blessing. Living it the way we want will bring us joy and contentment.

Today if your life isn’t going the way you desire and you want to be somewhere else, start on the road that will take you there. You can do anything you choose and nothing is out of reach. Complete happiness is available to you every single moment. Reach for it, find it, and make it yours. You are a great blessing to the world. Make your dreams come true. They are there for you and you can have them.

Moving On Again

6 Dec

We have countless experiences as we go through our lives.  Sometimes things go well and we feel happy and content, and sometimes there is trouble.  We may have an experience that devastates us, is hard to understand, and makes going forward difficult.  Perhaps someone we love unexpectedly dies, we lose something important, or a relationship we value suddenly breaks apart.  When we go through something very difficult that is far reaching and touches us deeply it can be hard to find our footing again.  We may feel lost, untethered and drifting, unable to find an anchor.  Trying to touch down again and figure out what to do next may be confusing and seem too complicated.  We may face a jumble of thoughts rolling through our mind making it hard to connect to anything that might work.  When we begin a jigsaw puzzle and dump the entire collection of pieces out of the box, there is a lot to look at and sort through.  But as we pick up each piece and examine it and begin to put one with another, after a time we find our way to the solution and picture is whole.  As we try to navigate a complicated and painful time in our lives we can begin by looking at just one thing we can control and use that to help us connect to the next piece, and the next, until we find our way through.  We can manage anything that comes to us, even very difficult and complex issues.  Taking them step by step and giving ourselves time to process each development will help us move forward.  Life is long and there is time to work everything out.  We are strong enough and wise enough to find our way through.  Each step takes us closer to the light we seek and if we continue nothing will keep us from success.

Getting over a heartbreaking experience isn’t easy.  As we make headway and begin to feel stronger we may hear or see something that reminds of what we’ve lost and the walls begin to crash in again.  Healing takes time and isn’t a straight line forward.  We will have setbacks and pauses in our journey.  If we fall into despair we can stop for a moment to regain our footing.  Every sorrow will be overcome and we will find happiness again.  We can trust in our personal strength and remember how far we’ve come.  Nothing is too hard for us to manage and no matter what has happened we will find our way through.

Learning to trust again after a serious disappointment may not come easily.  If we’ve been extremely hurt we may need to step back for a while to regroup and determine how we want to proceed.  There is no rush to heal and there is plenty of time to find all the answers we need.  We can rest until we feel ready to begin again.  We will find the road forward.  We know who we are and what we want, and nothing can keep us from reaching any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been hurt and feel lost and unsure about the way forward, take a step back and let your mind rest.  All the answer you seek are there for you.  Every door will open as you move forward.  Trust in your strength and rely on your wisdom.  You can do anything.  There is light for you just ahead.  Keep moving forward and reach it.

Laser Focus

5 Dec

Everything we want to do requires attention. There may be a lot to accomplish and we can try to multi-task and do more than one thing at once, but scientific research has proven the human mind can only effectively concentrate on one thing at a time. If we try to do more, whatever we’re doing will not be done as effectively as possible. Lasers are amazing devices. They can take energy from many sources, pull it together, and direct it into pinpoint accuracy. There is no wavering or indecision – only complete focus on the target. When we want to accomplish something, it requires our concentration and attention but it’s impossible for us to only see the target we’re aiming for. There will be distractions, other decisions may alter our course, and at some point, we may need to completely reroute the way forward. We don’t live in a vacuum and there will always be other things going on around us. We may desire “laser focus” where we only see the goal ahead and nothing else, but that isn’t possible. We are capable of managing many things and with patience and continued determination, we will reach any destination we desire. Life is complex and there are a lot of balls in the air all the time. Learning to adapt and modify, changing our way forward when necessary, and adjusting to complications as they come will help us find success. We can do anything. We can set the laser down and still reach the destination.

If we focus exclusively on a single goal and refuse to look at anything else we may miss important cues and information. When we drive a car, we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, but it’s important to also look around to see what’s near us and what’s headed our way. There is potential danger in seeing only the road directly in front of us and nothing else. The same is true in any endeavor we are seeking. We can be focused on moving ahead while still being open to what’s around us. Life is full of surprises, opportunities, and complications. Being able to see them before they arrive will help us move forward more effectively and successfully.

Although we don’t want tunnel vision when we’re pursuing a goal we must ensure we don’t become involved in everything going on around us. If we do everything that captures our attention and follow every attractive distraction we will never advance forward. Getting involved in each detail around us will merely hold us in place. We can’t move forward if we’re spinning in circles. We must find the happy medium between tunnel vision and diversion. We know what we want and where we want to go. Keeping the goal in mind will help us manage all the distractions around us and still find success. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Today if you have a goal you’re trying to achieve and there are a lot of distractions capturing your attention, remember what you want the most. You can pay attention to what’s going on around you and still keep your focus on the road ahead. You are in control. Keep your eyes trained on the destination you seek and continue forward. The road ahead is waiting for you. Continue forward and you will reach the goal.

What it Takes

4 Dec

When we really want to change something about ourselves we have be willing to do what is necessary to make it a reality.  Some believe people don’t ever change and many times that’s true.  It’s certainly easier to coast through our lives and do nothing to better ourselves than it is to strive for excellence.  We can have any kind of lives we desire.  If we’re content being who we are and keeping things the same, we may.  But if we want to see how far we can go and really push ourselves toward excellence we must pay attention and purposely go forward with intent.  It takes time and vigilance to make a change that becomes part of who we are.  We can dream about being different and hope that somehow something will happen to simply create the changes we desire.  Wishing and dreaming will never bring us what we want but if we don’t put forth any effort, that’s as far as we’ll go.  There is nothing we can’t achieve if we want it badly enough.  There is no change too difficult or impossible to reach.  If we are determined to turn something in our lives, and we are intent on making the change a reality, we will succeed.  It won’t happen overnight and it may not be easy but we have everything we need to get to the goal.  True happiness comes when we achieve the life we want the most.  Deciding what that means and doing what is needed to make it happen will bring us great satisfaction and contentment.

It’s comfortable to be around situations with which we are already familiar.  We know what to expect, we may know all the players involved, and we feel confident we can manage whatever develops.  It’s nice to be comfortable and we can do the same things every day if that’s as far as we want to go.  But life is full of possibilities and no matter where we are today if we want something different we can get it.  There are endless new experiences available to us and nothing can stop us from having them.  There is so much to be found if we’re willing to step off our regular path and try something new.  We can open any doors we desire and go to new destinations.  The world is there for us and if we want to move, nothing can keep us in place.

There will always be some risk when we want to change something.  We can’t see the future and the road ahead is unknown.  Things may go exactly as we think they will or we may face completely unexpected developments.  It doesn’t matter what we face, we have everything we need to figure out any situation that comes to us.  We are smarter and braver than we think we are and nothing will stop us from succeeding.  We can embrace any change we desire and do what is needed to make it ours.  The world belongs to us and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something different but are unsure, be confident and take the first step toward the goal.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  Every dream is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  You are powerful and strong, and nothing is out of reach.  Step forward and make all your dreams come true.

Stronger

1 Dec

When we’re going through difficult challenges and trying to find our way through, we try hard to work things out. It’s not easy to face severe situations and if the answers don’t come quickly and the road forward is long and hard, we may tire of the struggle and feel like giving up. We may feel we need to be stronger than we are, but gaining personal strength isn’t very different from gaining physical strength. If we want to be physically strong we must push ourselves to do more. Giving more when our energy is fading isn’t easy but our greatest growth comes when we challenge ourselves to go further. When we’re tired and have to dig deep to continue, we are rewarded with greater physical endurance and ability. The same is true in our personal lives. When we feel we can’t do any more but are determined to push forward one more time, we become stronger and oftentimes wiser. There is great blessing in adversity. Nobody wants to suffer but bad times will inevitably come to us all. How we manage them and endure will determine how much growth we realize. The more we overcome, the more we learn. Life can be complicated and unpredictable, and nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. No matter what comes we have everything we need to not only endure, but succeed. We can find strength by doing whatever is needed to solve any problem we face. Determining to push forward until we complete the journey will bring satisfaction. We are competent and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can be confident even when everything looks bleak, that we will win.

We may choose to give up and run every time there is trouble on the horizon. We can try to avoid conflict whenever possible and refuse to engage when someone disagrees. But hiding from problems will never give us the skills we need to solve them. We don’t live in Nirvana and we will have conflict from time to time. We are smart enough to understand how to move through it when we need to, and find the answers necessary to manage it effectively.

Life is full of challenges and we interact with many kinds of people on a regular basis. No two people are exactly alike and differences will naturally occur. We can take each situation independently, look at it objectively, and find the right way forward to bring harmony. Learning to compromise, learning to listen, and determining to find common ground will help us. Each situation will teach us something new and we carry that information forward to help us in the future. There is a lot we can learn when things go wrong. If we stay the course and learn the lessons well we will become stronger and more effective. There is much to be gained through difficult times. With patience and grace, we will gain everything we need to find success and happiness.

Today if you’re struggling with a problem and feel exhausted trying to find the way through, dig deep and try one more time. All the answers are there for you. Open another door, listen more carefully, and let the resolution come. You are amazing and capable, and this trial will bring you greater strength and wisdom. Be confident. You will succeed.