Tag Archives: Danger

Sudden Remorse

21 Jan

We make dozens of decisions each day and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. We are human and it’s impossible to make every single choice well. Everyone makes a bad decision at some point, and when we realize we’ve completely missed the mark, we may feel great disappointment. If we’ve deeply injured someone else, we may feel sudden remorse. When everything is visible after the fact, we may wonder how we could have said what hurt them so badly, or how we could have thought we were on the right road. Looking back, it’s easy to see all the facts and where we went wrong, but what’s done is done and cannot be erased. When we make a big mistake and the effects of our decision are far reaching and painful, we may feel horrible and wonder how to proceed. It may seem impossible to continue on, but a bad decision isn’t the end of our journey. Even if what we’ve done is destructive and terrible, there will be things we can do to amend what has happened. If we are truly sorry for what we’ve done, we can start by apologizing to those affected and ask for forgiveness. Depending on what’s happened, forgiveness may come right away, or it may take time. Hurting someone deeply erodes their trust in us, and it may take considerable time to re-establish it again. Nobody is perfect. We all fall down from time to time. By understanding what we’ve done and choosing ways to heal what’s been broken, we can regain the trust of those we’ve injured, and continue forward together. There is greatness is all of us. If we forget our nobility for a moment, we can regain it and start again. We can do what is needed to move forward with clarity and integrity. Nothing can keep us from achieving anything we desire, and we will succeed.

When someone does something that pierces us deeply and hurts intensely, our relationship with them will suffer. Nobody wants to be around those who purposely make them feel bad or wound them emotionally. We never have to stay anywhere we don’t want to be. It doesn’t matter who the offending person is, what their status in our life has been, or how much influence they have over us. We are worth more than we imagine, and the whole world is embellished and blessed because we are here. If we don’t want to continue any relationship in our lives, we can step away.

Big mistakes in judgement may bring not only emotional pain but also physical danger. If we follow someone else’s example and it turns out badly, we cannot blame them for what happens. Not realizing what would result is no excuse for our actions. We are responsible for taking care of ourselves, and solely accountable for everything we do. We have what we need to make excellent, strong decisions, and with patience and focus, we can do what is right, and reach success.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and feel intense remorse, do what is needed to repair the situation and re-gain the trust of those around you. There is greatness in you. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and step forward with confidence. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your light, and every success will follow.

Laser Focus

5 Dec

Everything we want to do requires attention. There may be a lot to accomplish and we can try to multi-task and do more than one thing at once, but scientific research has proven the human mind can only effectively concentrate on one thing at a time. If we try to do more, whatever we’re doing will not be done as effectively as possible. Lasers are amazing devices. They can take energy from many sources, pull it together, and direct it into pinpoint accuracy. There is no wavering or indecision – only complete focus on the target. When we want to accomplish something, it requires our concentration and attention but it’s impossible for us to only see the target we’re aiming for. There will be distractions, other decisions may alter our course, and at some point, we may need to completely reroute the way forward. We don’t live in a vacuum and there will always be other things going on around us. We may desire “laser focus” where we only see the goal ahead and nothing else, but that isn’t possible. We are capable of managing many things and with patience and continued determination, we will reach any destination we desire. Life is complex and there are a lot of balls in the air all the time. Learning to adapt and modify, changing our way forward when necessary, and adjusting to complications as they come will help us find success. We can do anything. We can set the laser down and still reach the destination.

If we focus exclusively on a single goal and refuse to look at anything else we may miss important cues and information. When we drive a car, we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, but it’s important to also look around to see what’s near us and what’s headed our way. There is potential danger in seeing only the road directly in front of us and nothing else. The same is true in any endeavor we are seeking. We can be focused on moving ahead while still being open to what’s around us. Life is full of surprises, opportunities, and complications. Being able to see them before they arrive will help us move forward more effectively and successfully.

Although we don’t want tunnel vision when we’re pursuing a goal we must ensure we don’t become involved in everything going on around us. If we do everything that captures our attention and follow every attractive distraction we will never advance forward. Getting involved in each detail around us will merely hold us in place. We can’t move forward if we’re spinning in circles. We must find the happy medium between tunnel vision and diversion. We know what we want and where we want to go. Keeping the goal in mind will help us manage all the distractions around us and still find success. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Today if you have a goal you’re trying to achieve and there are a lot of distractions capturing your attention, remember what you want the most. You can pay attention to what’s going on around you and still keep your focus on the road ahead. You are in control. Keep your eyes trained on the destination you seek and continue forward. The road ahead is waiting for you. Continue forward and you will reach the goal.

What if?

28 May

Have you ever had a near miss where the hit would have been devastating? For instance, a car pulls right in front of yours, and you have to slam on the breaks, and just before you hit it you stop. Or you slip going down the stairs, and at the last minute are able to grab the rail – just in time. Or maybe you’re at a ball game, and a wild ball whizzes past your head just as you bend forward. Near misses. What if you hadn’t been able to stop, and you hit that car going so fast? What if you had fallen all the way down the stairs to the tile floor below? What if you hadn’t bent over just as that baseball came flying at your head? Near misses are frightening. Looking back at them on the other side can shake us. We wonder, what if?

Our lives are filled with “what ifs.” A thousand things could go wrong. If we think about all the possibilities of what could end in disaster, and how many things could misfire and lead to destruction, we may begin to wonder how on earth we’ve survived for so long. Everything can turn in a moment. In a fraction of a second, everything could change. It’s unsettling to think about, but thankfully, so far, we’re still here.

In our lives we can become complacent. We have our routines, we do our stuff, we take care of things, and generally we don’t  really think about the risks of what could go wrong. If we thought about every danger that could happen, it could keep us from moving forward. After all, we really can’t be successful at anything if we’re afraid of everything, so we just soldier on, and try not to think about the “what ifs.” We assume that everything will pretty much work out, and most of the time it pretty much does. But sometimes it doesn’t. And then everything changes. We can’t predict what is coming our way. We can only deal with it when it arrives. And sometimes the “what ifs” happen to us all.

There are no guarantees for any of us. Since we don’t know what lies ahead, perhaps we shouldn’t take a single moment for granted. Perhaps we should be more thankful for each day we have that goes well. Every single day that we get to do what we want, every single day that things go well, every single day that we survive – we should be grateful.

Today, think about all the blessings you have in your life. There are a lot of them. Don’t take any of them for granted. We have a lot to be grateful for. Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring, but you have today. It’s a wonderful gift to have today. Don’t forget that. Make it count. And don’t forget to be thankful for it.