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Tag Archives: Engage

Stronger

1 Dec

When we’re going through difficult challenges and trying to find our way through, we try hard to work things out. It’s not easy to face severe situations and if the answers don’t come quickly and the road forward is long and hard, we may tire of the struggle and feel like giving up. We may feel we need to be stronger than we are, but gaining personal strength isn’t very different from gaining physical strength. If we want to be physically strong we must push ourselves to do more. Giving more when our energy is fading isn’t easy but our greatest growth comes when we challenge ourselves to go further. When we’re tired and have to dig deep to continue, we are rewarded with greater physical endurance and ability. The same is true in our personal lives. When we feel we can’t do any more but are determined to push forward one more time, we become stronger and oftentimes wiser. There is great blessing in adversity. Nobody wants to suffer but bad times will inevitably come to us all. How we manage them and endure will determine how much growth we realize. The more we overcome, the more we learn. Life can be complicated and unpredictable, and nobody knows what tomorrow will bring. No matter what comes we have everything we need to not only endure, but succeed. We can find strength by doing whatever is needed to solve any problem we face. Determining to push forward until we complete the journey will bring satisfaction. We are competent and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can be confident even when everything looks bleak, that we will win.

We may choose to give up and run every time there is trouble on the horizon. We can try to avoid conflict whenever possible and refuse to engage when someone disagrees. But hiding from problems will never give us the skills we need to solve them. We don’t live in Nirvana and we will have conflict from time to time. We are smart enough to understand how to move through it when we need to, and find the answers necessary to manage it effectively.

Life is full of challenges and we interact with many kinds of people on a regular basis. No two people are exactly alike and differences will naturally occur. We can take each situation independently, look at it objectively, and find the right way forward to bring harmony. Learning to compromise, learning to listen, and determining to find common ground will help us. Each situation will teach us something new and we carry that information forward to help us in the future. There is a lot we can learn when things go wrong. If we stay the course and learn the lessons well we will become stronger and more effective. There is much to be gained through difficult times. With patience and grace, we will gain everything we need to find success and happiness.

Today if you’re struggling with a problem and feel exhausted trying to find the way through, dig deep and try one more time. All the answers are there for you. Open another door, listen more carefully, and let the resolution come. You are amazing and capable, and this trial will bring you greater strength and wisdom. Be confident. You will succeed.

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Magic Words

28 Oct

As times change, societies evolve in different ways and people change the way they receive information and react to others.  Throughout the course of history different accepted models for behavior have changed as well, and our ideas about manners and the rules of engagement have shifted along with them.  During the Victorian Era, the rules for behavior were very formal and the level of etiquette for everyone was quite high.  Our society has changed dramatically since those times, but manners are still important and there is nothing more impressive than appropriate, polite interaction.  Just remembering to say “thank you” when someone does something for us is a way to show our appreciation and acceptance.  But sometimes in the busy lives we lead, and all the distractions we face, we may neglect to speak up and instead just push forward.  There really is no substitute for showing our appreciation and taking time to be polite and considerate in our dealings.  It generally makes our interactions more positive and can smooth over any rough edges.

Many people don’t seem to value politeness in this day and age.  There is a great focus on getting things done, moving fast, and doing what is important to us.  Sadly, there is no shortage of selfishness or callousness.  But a competitive spirit and the desire to accomplish much should never keep us from being kind and considerate to those around us.  Just saying “thank you” when someone hands us something and “you’re welcome” when we are thanked goes a long way in showing people we care.  Caring for one another let’s others know we are aware of them.  If we extend ourselves just a little by being polite and sharing ourselves as we go through our days, we can be a positive influence, and the world always needs more of that.

If we choose to, we can get what we want, and do everything we need to without considering anyone else but ourselves.  We can make our plans alone, and keep our eyes down as we walk along.  We don’t have to engage others if we don’t want to, and may remain silent when someone opens a door for us, or look the other way when someone says hello. We can keep to ourselves and be as isolated as we like.  But that will never bring us the joy and growth that being open to those around us can bring.  If we take a moment to say “thank you” when someone does something small for us, it opens a door, and we’ll feel more connected and closer to them as we pass.  Being polite and gracious means being there, in the moment, and acknowledging others.  It’s said that “please” and “thank you” are magic words, and they are.  When we say them, they open doors every time.

Today if you’ve been keeping a low profile, preferring to remain silent and isolated, think about looking up and engaging those around you.  Say “please,” “thank you” and “you’re welcome”.  You are a great influence and everyone wants to know you.  Be gracious, be polite, and let your actions welcome them in.