Tag Archives: Shield

Crushed

5 Sep

Every person who comes into our lives has some impact on us. Our close relationships carry a lot of influence and when things are going well we feel embellished and positive, and find pleasure in our interactions. If someone we care about or admire greatly says something that hurts us deeply we may feel crushed. Even if their comments are made in passing and nobody else notices, if they are hurtful enough we may feel devastated. It’s hard to hear critical words from those we love and admire. Everyone is different and we all have ideas about how things should be and what is right. We may make what we feel is an innocent comment to someone else but what they hear may be something entirely different. Words can hurt and they can change our perspective of everything. If we are on the receiving end of a painful comment we may feel confused and concerned about our relationship going forward. Being crushed by something said can pierce our confidence and make us feel small. But feelings lag behind our intellect and if we give ourselves a little time to catch up we can manage the situation and correct our thinking. We are strong and capable, and even if someone disagrees with us, even if they think we’re lost, we know what to do. Words can be painful but they can be overcome. We can hold onto our strength and trust in our wisdom to find our way through. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. We can walk right through any crushing disappointment to the success waiting on the other side.

Some people are highly critical and there are thousands of reasons why people do what they do. We don’t have to understand why someone criticizes us but it is important to find an effective way to navigate their behavior. We don’t have to internalize every criticism that comes. We can listen, offer a polite and confident response, and move on. We can control our own actions and set an example for patience and tolerance while still requiring respect in our interactions.

Personal confidence doesn’t happen overnight. We grow more confident every time we make a good decision and choose the direction that takes us where we want to go. There are countless options available to us all the time. If we decide to always choose the best road forward and determine to always make the best decisions possible, our confidence will grow and will create a shield around us that will help us navigate even the most difficult situations. We are intelligent, strong, and wise. We know what we want and we know how to get it. Each day we choose well and each decision we make wisely will bring us the confidence we need to live successfully and happily.

Today if someone has said something that has cut you deeply and you are doubting yourself, remember you are strong and capable, and can do anything you desire. You have everything you need to be completely happy. Shake off the disappointment, trust in your abilities, and move forward with confidence. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for you, and every destination you desire is within your reach.

Blocked Number

30 Mar

Getting a call from a blocked number is like playing one-sided tag. Someone is there to tag us but we can’t return the favor. They are invisible and we can’t call them back. If we block our number before we call someone we can find them but they can’t find us. It’s a control mechanism we may employ to protect our privacy and keep our information secret. While there may be appropriate times to block ourselves before we reach out, often it’s done to keep us apart and separate. It’s a one-sided game. The caller is protected and locked away. We may meet people who are very good at telling us what they want, and defining what works for them but unable to hear us when we express our feelings in return. They know how to ask for their needs but seem unable to hear the needs of others. If we only see ourselves and what we want and only focus on our own road ahead ignoring those around us, it’s like sending out a blocked call. We know where we’re going and we aren’t interested in seeing anything else. It’s the truest form of selfishness. It’s good to look out for ourselves and determine our own way forward and we can make any decisions we like. But if we only see our own narrow road ahead we will miss the opportunities and lessons we may learn by interacting and embracing those around us. We don’t have to block our number to get what we want. We are smart enough and wise enough to be open and still reach our destination.

When one person carries all the cards in any relationship there will be problems. Every successful relationship requires balance. They give a little, and we give a little. If one is always up and the other down, the relationship is destined to fail. There is risk in anything worth pursuing and nothing is stable without balance. If we want a successful relationship in any arena we must let our walls down and be open. We cannot completely protect ourselves with armor and expect to get close to anyone. Shields and blocks are good for keeping an enemy out but if we employ them when we’re trying to build connections we will fail.

It can be unsettling to let others get close to us and know us deeply. When all our doors are open and the light is pouring in we may feel vulnerable and tremulous. Our connections will only be as close as we let them. If we keep ourselves a step back we may have a workable relationship but it will be superficial. Only when we’re brave enough to show our true selves completely will we achieve a deep and satisfying association. The more we give the more we’ll get in return. Our lives are richer when we let others in and we’ll find true happiness when we unblock our connections.

Today if you’ve been keeping yourself a step back and not completely committing to a relationship, think about your options. You can let your walls down and have rich and rewarding connections to those around you. Open up and let others in. Your life will be richer and embellished in positive ways you can’t imagine. Connect with those around you. You have so much to offer and we all want to know you.