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Back to the Beginning

15 Jun

Life can be complicated and there are all kinds of things that can happen or change in a second.  We can’t see beyond where we are and may be surprised by an unexpected development, a difficult complication, or trouble we couldn’t have anticipated.  Like dark clouds moving in before a storm, sometimes it seems things change from bad to worse and we are left confused and wondering what happened and where everything went wrong.  Sometimes the decisions of others we know nothing about impact our lives dramatically.  Sometimes one wrong turn takes us far off course, and other times the bottom simply falls out of our plans.  When things get jumbled up and we have to push through tangles and trials we may feel overwhelmed about what to do next.  We may feel beset and unprepared for the situation and unsure about the way forward.  Everything generally works out in the end but while we’re getting through the mists of uncertainty we may lose our footing. When we get knotted up and twisted around in turmoil or confusion it’s important to remember that what happens on the outside need not disrupt what’s happening inside us.  In times of stress and indecision we can go back to the beginning, center on our personal strengths and find respite and calm.  We have everything we need to manage anything no matter how convoluted or difficult.  We know who we are and can trust in our ability to move forward with confidence and clarity.  There isn’t anything so confusing we can’t figure it out.  All destinations are possible and we can accomplish anything we desire.  Going back to the beginning, and remembering our personal strength and wisdom will help us move ahead and find success.

It’s easy to get caught up in situations that are filled with conflict and emotion. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what is right.  We don’t have to push others into agreement to find a workable solution.  Compromise is always possible and we can allow differing viewpoints to enter the equation.  Bending to find a solution doesn’t require us to give up our position.  We can work together and still hold onto the viewpoints we value most.

Problems and trouble are a part of life.  There will be few periods when everything goes exactly as planned.  Often there will be some disagreement or our expectations will not be fully met.  Looking at the big picture going forward will allow us to shake off minor setbacks we may face and continue with confidence.  We are stronger and more capable than we realize and we know how to move forward toward success.  We can trust ourselves to do anything and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’re surrounded by trouble and it seems nothing is working the way you want it to, step back and remember how strong and wise you are.  Trust in your ability to understand any complication and move forward with confidence.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  Step forward and embrace the challenge.  Success is just ahead and you will achieve it.

Permanent Ink

19 Sep

As children, we learn many things. We watch and quickly understand how our behaviors bring different results. We learn what is acceptable and what is forbidden, what is ridiculed and what is praised, and we understand how to navigate all that information to get what we want. As we grow into adulthood we may carry many of the patterns we’ve learned with us and incorporate them into our lives. Some of them help us achieve the goals we desire, but some may hold us back. Childhood patterns can be powerful and even if we don’t know why something is done a certain way, we may continue it even if it no longer makes sense. There is the story of a woman who always cut up her Sunday pot roast and cooked it in two pots. When her daughter asked why she cooked it that way she said that’s the way her mother did it. The daughter then asked the grandmother and she laughed and said, “I never had a pot big enough for the whole thing!” Traditions often start out of need but over time, even when that need is no longer there, the tradition may remain. We may repeat a pattern in our lives that no longer works because it’s what we learned in the past. Keeping things the same is like using permanent ink to write our story. But life changes, and we change as we move forward. We can modify anything to find the best answers and make the best choices. There are few permanent rules that cannot be broken or changed. Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like. We can shake off what doesn’t work and forge a new path that is uniquely our own. When we choose the road that’s best for us and takes us where we want to go, we will find happiness and satisfaction going forward.

We may feel pressure to conform and stay within the bounds of customary patterns with those around us. Everyone has their own ideas about how life should look and what is acceptable. But we are all individuals and what is right for one may be uncomfortable for another. We can choose what is best for us even if it doesn’t fit into someone else’s model. The gifts we present to the world are unique and nobody else can give them. Our influence is important and we can share who we really are, honestly and completely.

There are many kinds of families in life. We have biological families, adopted families, work families and others. Every group has its own interpretations about how things should go. If we are comfortable with the patterns presented we may adopt them into our lives, but if we disagree we don’t have to go along. We can be who we really are and make choices that reflect our individual personalities and desires. We can find joy in being true to ourselves. There is no permanent ink to hold us in place. We can change and modify, and find happiness our own way.

Today if you’ve been following a pattern that’s holding you back, change your focus. You have a lot to offer and the world is eager to share your gifts. Be confident and go forward with courage. You are perfect just as you are and there isn’t anything you can’t do. You bring blessings to us all.


28 Jun

If you’ve ever been to the beach and played in the sand for any length of time you know how insidious it can be. The shore is covered with sand and as we walk on it, play in it and swim around it we get it in our swimsuits, in our shorts, in our shoes, in our hair and everywhere else. But we’re having fun and although it can be annoying and gritty to deal with, it’s worth the trade-off. In our lives there are lots of people around us all the time. Though not as numerous as sand particles on the beach, there are many continually in and out of our lives. If we surround ourselves with good, strong people our associations may be beneficial and helpful. But if we continually interact with others whose choices aren’t positive, and who do things that bring problems and heartache to those around them, our time with them may hurt us. Like the sand that finds its way all over us and then begins to chafe, if we continually associate with those who hurt us we will be unhappy.

We build and create our relationships for lots of reasons. Sometimes they evolve because of association, sometimes they are part of our family, sometimes we build them because we like what they bring us, and sometimes we’re in them because there is history that cannot be undone. And sometimes our relationships change and become difficult to navigate. We don’t have to keep any relationship that makes us uncomfortable or that brings us hardship but it can be hard to stop a pattern if we’ve been involved for a long period of time. We might try to distance ourselves from a toxic situation but if we don’t sever the ties that hold us to it, that will do little to fix the problem. It’s like brushing sand off the outside of our bathing suit but doing nothing to wash out the grit that has made its way inside it. Things may look better on the outside, but the problem is still there. No matter who we’re involved with, and no matter what their relationship is to us if we are not happy, we can change it.

If we stay in relationships that hurt us and do nothing to change them, our unhappiness may increase. No matter what the situation is we always have the power to modify our circumstances so we can move forward comfortably and happily. If we’re dealing with someone who is rude and offensive, we can speak up and clearly state our boundaries. If we have a difficult family member we can set the example for patience and insist on being treated with respect. If we’re in a relationship that isn’t working and we want to move on we can do what is needed to make that happen. There isn’t anything we can’t manage and if we’ve got sand in our shoes, we can shake it out. If it’s in our hair, we can wash it out. And if it’s in our clothes, we can change them. Our lives belong to us and we can do whatever is needed to be happy and successful.

Today if you’re in a situation that is making you uncomfortable, be honest and do what is needed to change it. You deserve to be happy. Take charge and change your course. Shake out the sand and enjoy the beach. You have everything it takes to move forward.