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Agreement

18 Dec

We have control over every decision we make. If we are careful and thoughtful, our decisions will take us where we expect to go. We may have times when we think about a decision that is outside our moral or ethical standards. Perhaps we believe stepping a little off the road will get us to a goal more quickly, or we may intensely desire something that can only be gained by going out of bounds. When we are pondering those decisions, we may reach out to someone else to explain why it’s important to do this. Getting agreement from others for bad decisions may give us more confidence and make us feel we have permission to stray, but agreement never changes the parameters of any situation. Even if everyone around us agrees with us, a bad decision is still a bad decision. The choice is ours to make, and we will suffer alone when all the balls fall, as they inevitably will. Truth always surfaces. If we’ve chosen badly and done things that have hurt others, broken a law, or in some way cheated, all the facts will come forward. And when they do, no matter how much company we had racing down the road to destruction, we will stand alone. If we are tempted to do something ignoble, we can take a moment and consider all the consequences that may come. Every decision brings a result. We have control to choose anything we desire but we have no control over the consequences. We can choose wisely even if being unwise is more attractive. We have all the strength and wisdom to make choices that will bring us happiness and peace, and have lives filled with glory and success. It’s all up to us. Our lives will be the reflection of every choice we make.

Pressure to conform may be very strong. If those around us are comfortable making decisions that are not completely honest or moral, and they are powerful and convincing, we may be influenced to join them. There may be pressure to follow along with questionable ideas or plans. If our connections to those involved are very strong we may feel we have no choice but to do as they suggest. But we always have the power to say no. We don’t have to agree with anything that isn’t right for us no matter who is involved. Our lives belong to us and we may protect them and guide them according to our own standards.

Agreeing to go along will not make a bad decision good. We don’t have to agree with anything that goes against our core beliefs and we may politely and graciously decline to participate. When we know we are doing what is best, we will be confident going forward. Our lives are ours to design and every choice is ours to make. We can choose our personal best and when we do, will find success and happiness.

Today if you’re considering something that will take you off the road that’s best for you, think again. There is no reward worth seeking that takes you away from the person you want to be. You have greatness inside you. Choose well and take the path that brings you complete success. You are a great blessing to us all. Show us your best and you’ll find joy and happiness.

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Owning It

26 Sep

Nobody is perfect and although we try to get things exactly right, sometimes we falter. There are a million reasons why our plans may go awry and many of them may be out of our control. When things go wrong and we don’t want to look foolish, we may look for someone or something else to blame. We can blame anything we desire for what went wrong but nothing will ever change the truth. If we’ve made an error, and our best laid plans have failed and the whole thing went up in smoke, we own it. Blaming everyone else will never solve the issue and pushing the responsibility off will never change what happened. Things sometimes go wrong and we stumble. It happens to us all and when it does, the best we can do is step up and take responsibility for our actions. There isn’t anything so disastrous we can’t face and find a way around. When we own our actions, even when they blow up in our faces, those around us will learn they can trust us to be truthful and honest. Facing our lives as they are and continuing to move forward will bring us greater confidence and clarity. We are strong and capable and if we fall we can get right back up again. Life is filled with challenges and problems. We have everything we need to find the best answers and continue on. Success is always available to us and we will find our way to it.

Nobody can read the future and know everything that will happen ahead of time. If we plan well and do everything we can to ensure a good outcome, and still things don’t work out, we can try again. We have unlimited chances for most things we face in life. There is rarely only one time we can make a decision for any challenge or issue we’re facing. If the first choice doesn’t work, we can choose again. If there is a timing issue, or we need more information, or something out of our control changes unexpectedly and things go awry we can alter our course going forward. We are resilient and intelligent enough to find another path ahead until we reach the desired goal.

It’s okay to make mistakes. They don’t mean we can’t choose well or succeed. We make decisions based on information available to us at the time. If we don’t have all the facts or there are complications of which we are unaware, we might choose a path that fails. But failing does not mean the end of the journey. It’s just a detour we can navigate around. There are endless bumps and complications in life but no matter what we face we can see our way around it and reach our destination. There is nothing too strong for us to overcome or powerful enough to stop us. We will continue on and succeed.

Today if your plans have fallen apart and nothing has worked out like you anticipated, instead of blaming others find another way ahead. There are endless roads to every destination. Look at all your options and choose the best way forward. There isn’t anything you can’t do. You know where you want to go. Chart a new course and begin again. Success is always there for you and you have everything you need to achieve it.

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True Competition

25 Apr

There are all kinds of ways to compare ourselves to the world. We can determine how we measure up to performance standards we admire, notions of beauty we desire, levels of success we strive for and thousands of other ideas. Although we may compare ourselves with others, our true competition is within ourselves. It doesn’t matter what anyone else achieves, how much they acquire, or what they define as success. We are the ones who determine what success is in our lives. If we emulate someone else’s achievements we may get closer to the goal we’re seeking but our personal success is unique to us. We must define true accomplishment in our own lives. Each of us has specific and unique talents and gifts we bring to the world. We will not find success by trying to give the world something we don’t possess. Understanding who we are and what gifts we offer will help us find our way to the lives we want most. We don’t need to compare ourselves against the accomplishments of others. We may set our own goals and standards and achieve them our own way. The world may set all kinds of ideals for what it defines as success, but true success comes when we give our best, no matter the outcome. We are the only ones who can truly judge our performance. We are our true competition.

There are a lot of ideas and opinions about what success looks like. Some believe it’s a reflection of material possessions and the more we have the more successful we are. Others think it has to do with power and having control over many people. Still others equate it only with money with the goal to have a lot of it. But we define what true success is in our lives. There is no success greater than doing our best to live the lives we most want. We determine what that looks like and only we can decide if we are accomplishing the goal. Our competition lies within us and the choices we make every day. What others think really doesn’t matter.

We live with ourselves every single day. There is no way to escape the choices we make or the decisions we choose. If we aren’t living in ways that bring us satisfaction and happiness we can change. True happiness is available to everyone but we must make decisions needed to bring it to us. We can compare ourselves to everyone around us, to what others think we should do, and try to model our lives after examples we admire. But real happiness will only come when we do what is best for us. We don’t have to compete with what others define as successful. We can define it for ourselves.

Today if you’ve been trying to measure up to someone else’s ideas and competing with those around you, remember only you know what makes you happy. Make choices that bring you the personal successes you seek. You know the perfect path forward. Choose it, and you will find joy as you move forward. Every success you desire will become a reality. Real happiness is there for you and you can have it.

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Genuine Article

20 Apr

There are a lot of influences on us every day.  Some people inspire us to do good things and be our best, and others can pull us away from what we really want to do.  Every decision we make takes us somewhere and brings some sort of response.  If they take us where we want to go and bring positive growth we continue to move forward.  But sometimes they stall us in our tracks and even bring sorrow and problems into our lives.  We all know who we are and what we want.  If we focus on being genuine in our decisions, looking at them clearly and without bias, and staying true to who we really want to be, we have a better shot at making the best decisions possible at every turn.  But the influences around us can be strong and have a powerful pull even when they are pulling us in the wrong direction.  We can get confused and take a wrong turn if we aren’t careful.  There are a lot of roads in life and we direct our path through the choices we make.  If we pay attention, and stay focused on our goals, we can continue to move forward.  And each step forward takes us closer to where we really want to be.

The people closest to us may exercise a lot of power over us.  Friends and family may want us to do something or be some way we don’t want to choose.  If we are very close to them and love them, their opinions may mean a lot.  And if what we want is different than what they think we should have, problems may arise.  Because we care about them and want to prevent conflict and preserve good feelings, we may choose to go along.  And if we do, we may be able to wing it for a time, but eventually who we really are and what we really want will surface again.  We can continue to play along but true happiness comes when we are genuine and honest with ourselves and those around us.  If we disagree with something we can choose to decline.  There may be tension at the beginning but if we stay true to our course, and they love us, eventually they will respect our choices.

There is sometimes great pressure to conform and be like others.  Nobody really wants to live in a cookie cutter world, but there are times when it seems easier to get along if everyone agrees to the same models.  No two people are exactly the same and each of us has a unique perspective to offer.  Although it might be easier if we were all the same, the only way to make that happen is to discount our uniqueness.  This world is a big, diverse place.  Each of us has something to offer but we can’t offer it if we are busy trying to fit someone else’s mold.  If we are genuine and honest about ourselves, and with those around us, we might not look the same, but our unique influence will bring unexpected blessings and enhance our experiences.  We are perfect being ourselves.  We can be confident enough to express that and find joy in being one of a kind.

Today if you don’t feel you’re doing things your way, you can change.  Your presence is a gift to the world, and we all need to know you just as you are.   Be confident in expressing your individuality.  You bring a perspective that is uniquely yours.  Be genuinely you and you’ll leave a perfect impression everywhere you go.

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Circles

12 Jan

As we live our lives we have three choices when we think about our progress. We can move forward, we can stay where we are, or we can go backward. Sometimes we’re happy where we are and comfortable, and we don’t need or want the challenge of change. Sometimes we have to go backward to accomplish something that needs to be addressed. But generally we want to move forward in our lives. We have goals we want to achieve and plans for our future. Sometimes we get caught up in a situation that stalls our progress. We can get stuck and end up going around in circles unable to move forward. Sometimes it’s because of a relationship that isn’t working, or a job situation that has us frozen in time, and sometimes it’s because we really aren’t sure how to go forward so we keep repeating the same pattern over and over. Going around in circles is frustrating. Even when we recognize that’s what’s happening we may not know how to stop the process. A circle is just a continually repeating pattern. All we have to do to break the cycle is step a little to the right or the left to change direction. It sounds easy but patterns have a way of taking control, and unless we are determined to make a change, we may find ourselves stuck for a while.

Healthy relationships are active. They are constantly changing and if we’re paying attention to them, can be continually improving. But sometimes relationships can become stagnant, and don’t change, and we may get stuck. If it’s a relationship that’s important to us we may stay in the situation longer than we’re comfortable. However, if we want things to change, we have to speak up and express our concerns. We can ask for what we need to make the relationship move forward and if the other person is in agreement, things may improve. But if we can’t do anything to change the situation we must decide how we want to proceed. For some people, staying on the same course is fine, even if they’re stuck, so long as they have the other person in their lives. For others, if they’re unhappy and things don’t change, it may be necessary to leave the relationship behind. We’re all different and only we can determine what’s best for us.

If we have plans for our future and goals we’re working toward but find that we aren’t getting any closer to them doing what we’ve been doing, we can change. If the road we’ve been on isn’t taking us where we want to go, we can change direction. We can achieve almost anything we want to if we want it badly enough. If we aren’t moving closer to our goal then we’re either moving further away from it, or we’re standing still. Once we determine where we’re headed and what we want, we can adjust our plans and change our course whenever we need to. All the roads are open to us. All the avenues to get there are available. We can pay attention to what we’re doing and modify our plans for success. If one path doesn’t work, we can simply try another. If we stay true to the objective and keep our eyes on the prize, we’ll get there. We don’t have to go around in circles, and we don’t have to be stuck any longer than we want. We have all the power we need to move forward.

Today if you feel like you’ve been treading water and going in circles and you’re no closer to a goal you want to achieve, switch things up. Try something new. Let go of the things that are holding you back and modify your plans so you can move forward. You can do anything. See the destination in front of you and steer yourself toward it. You’ll be successful and everything you are hoping for will come to you.

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