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A Thousand Miles

8 Sep

We all have ideas about how our lives should go and what we want to do.  If we were all alone in our pursuits and could keep anything from blocking our way forward, success would come easily.  But there are billions of people sharing the planet with us and some of them can get right up in our faces.  Despite our best efforts to dodge obstacles we may get waylaid and find that we are nowhere near our goal.  We may feel like we’re a thousand miles away from it.  Getting pushed off course by something that happens over which we have no control or going along with someone else’s plans may take us far from where we want to go.  People can be very persuasive and if they want us to participate in something important to them we may step away from our chosen path to follow them.  It’s important to find ways to get along with others and we all want to be helpful and kind, but we don’t have to forsake what is important to us.  We can set personal limits on our time so that we have the resources we need to pursue our own goals.  People will take all the time we’re willing to give and it’s up to us to determine where the lines are.  We can always redirect our course and redefine our priorities.  If we want to change our direction we may change it.  We are always in control of our lives and can move closer to our goals by taking steps in the direction that will lead to them.  Nothing is out of reach and we can always achieve success.

It’s easy to blame others or situations when we lose our way.  While there are times in our lives when we must do things that take us off our chosen path, we can continue forward by modifying our journey and continuing to focus on our goals.  No matter what we’re doing we can take another step forward.  There is great reward and happiness when we find ways to work successfully around any obstacle.  We deserve to have all our dreams come true, and by keeping our eyes focused on the way forward we can achieve anything.

There are endless distractions in life.  There are things that are fun and enjoyable, developments that complicate our lives over which we have no control, and even some mindless distractions that do nothing but waste time.  We can engage in any activity we choose at any time but if we want to achieve our personal goals we must value the time we give them.  The road forward is always there for us.  We can procrastinate our choices but we will never complete any journey we don’t start.  Every destination is available to us and we can do anything we desire.  Choosing to work toward what we want most will bring us happiness and satisfaction, and make our lives fulfilling and joyful.

Today if you know where you want to go but have been distracted by activities around you, think about your way forward.  Take the first step on the road that will lead you to success.  There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish and all your dreams can come true.  Focus on what’s most important to you today, work around any obstacle in your way, and begin the journey.  The destination is waiting for you and nothing will keep you from it.

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Paying the Bill

5 Jun

There is an old saying that there is no such thing as a free lunch, meaning no matter what we do or what we seek there will always be a price to pay.  Everything we do has a consequence.  We are not isolated living on a desert island alone and every choice we make, everything we say, and every action we take will have a result that may impact others.  We are accountable for everything we do and if we create stress or problems we will have to correct the situation.  If we are wise and careful in all our dealings our balance sheet may be easier to manage than if we simply do anything we like without regard to what may happen afterward.  We know how to make excellent decisions and for the most part try to do our best, but complications come to us all and sometimes the way forward is cloudy and hard to decipher.  When that happens we make the best decisions with what we have and if things go awry we can do what is needed to turn things around.  Being accountable for our actions is not optional and is required in everything we do.  We can make positive decisions and plan our choices carefully so they bring us the results we are seeking.  We can pay our bills as we go and move forward with confidence taking all we’ve learned along with us.

Some people are careless and thoughtless.  They make decisions based on how they feel at the moment with no regard to consequence.  There may be issues with self-control, temperament, or personal discipline and when things go wrong they often blame others or circumstance.  We can do anything we like and if we don’t care about others we can make choices based simply on our personal desires.  Whether we acknowledge it or not we are accountable and must pay for every choice we make.  We can make excuses and blame others but in the end we own our decisions.  If we are selfish we may lose connections with others, if we are insensitive we may lose relationships with those we care about and if we are careless we may hurt those around us and ourselves in the end.  Like a pebble dropped in a pond, every decision we make may have many ramifications.  Remembering those possibilities will help us make the best decisions possible and prevent problems as we move forward.

Even when we’re careful and plan wisely sometimes things go wrong.  When they do if we’ve been wise in our decisions we will find the way through.  There are always lots of factors we can’t control and there may be situations of which we are unaware.  When problems develop we have all the courage and wisdom we need to find the answers and re-direct our way forward.  We can see all the options available to us and choose the best road ahead.  There isn’t any complication too complex for us to manage and we will find success.

Today if you’ve made a mistake in judgment and the consequences are difficult to manage, look ahead and find the best way forward.  You know where you want to go.  Choose wisely and move ahead with confidence.  You are strong and smart, and there isn’t anything you can’t do and succeed.  Keep moving.  The best is yet to come.

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Reverse Engines

14 Jun

There comes a time in all of our lives when we realize we’ve really screwed up. We’ve made a big mistake. A huge blunder. We missed the mark, and we’ve made a mess. When we discover this, our first thought may be to wish for a time machine, and go back before everything happened. But, sadly, that isn’t possible. We’re here, and there is no way to go back. We have to face the music. It happens. And if it happens in such a way that we’ve affected others, it can be really uncomfortable. It’s hard to face a bad situation we’ve created, and even harder to know how to go about fixing one. It’s not really the end of the world – but for a while, it can feel like it is.

When this happens, we have choices. Instead of facing it, we could ignore the situation. Pretend like it didn’t happen. Look the other way, and wait to see if it’ll just fade as time passes. This is the worst decision we could make. Ignoring a situation never makes it go away. If we don’t do that, we could blame someone else, or make excuses, or make up a story that takes the blame away from us. Of course, that won’t work because dodging what we’ve done won’t change anything. Blaming others, or making excuses will just make things worse.

The only way to get through a situation like this is to be completely honest. We made a mistake. We can give our reasons for why we did what we did, but the fact is, we made a mistake. If criticisms and judgments come from others, we need to hear them. If relationships are damaged, we need to do what we can to repair them. If we’ve lost material goods, we need to try to restore them. We must, at every point, choose to be honest, accept our responsibility for what’s happened, and do whatever we can to turn things around. It’s never easy to clean up after a big mistake. It can be embarrassing, humiliating, and painful. But if we’re the one who made the mess, we own it, and we’re responsible for fixing it.

Today if you’re under the gun for a mistake you’ve made, decide to be as honest as possible. Face what has happened, and be open to whatever it takes to fix the situation. You may be uncomfortable, but you can handle that. If you are honest and forthcoming about your involvement, and willing to do what is needed to correct things, others will respond more positively. This won’t last forever. You will learn new things as you go through this difficult passage, and at the end of it, if you’ve chosen well, you’ll be happy with how you handled it. Everyone takes a left turn from time to time. It’s okay. Now you know where that road goes. You won’t make the same mistake again.

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