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Pause

30 Mar

Everyone has their own dreams and goals they want to accomplish. They are personal to our own individual journeys, and we decide where we want to go and what we want to do. If we were all alone and there were no obstacles to impede our progress, we could accomplish everything as soon as we desired. But life is full of diversions, distractions, unexpected developments, other people making all kinds of decisions that impact us, and a million other complications. We may run into something that stops us and blocks the way forward that requires us to pause in our pursuits for a time. It’s frustrating to have to wait when we want to move, but if we must endure an interruption, we can find ways to make it beneficial. As we wait, we can use the time to review how far we’ve come and look at all the possibilities for the way ahead. Answers may appear that we overlooked while we were pressing forward, and we might discover better methods for accomplishing our goal. Taking a pause in our progress doesn’t mean we must forsake the goal. Time out is not the end. It’s just a break from the road to address something else. While some goals may be time sensitive and stopping might prevent us from achieving them now, most of the time what we’re after can wait while we take care of other things. We can manage what needs our attention right now, take care of it, and then resume our journey forward toward our own personal goals. We know what we want, and there isn’t a detour powerful enough to keep us from it. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we desire. Every goal is possible, and with patience and focus, we will make them ours.

Those around us may ask for our time and assistance. If they have authority over us, we may not be able to decline whatever they request, but if not, we can decide what we want to do. It’s good to be helpful and share our talents and time with others, but if we continually pause our own journey for the sake of someone else’s, we will not achieve the goals we most desire. We can judiciously decide how much time we can offer, be helpful, and still continue forward toward our own goals.

We may be in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and guidance, and who continually asks us to do things for them. If we always do everything they ask, we may find it difficult to accomplish our own goals. We’re all responsible for our own lives. It’s impossible to reach our own goals if we give all our time to someone else. We are important and our dreams matter. We can be supportive and kind, and help out, but we need never sacrifice our entire lives for someone else’s comfort.

Today if you’ve been stopped from moving toward your own goals because of the needs of others, look at everything objectively. You are amazing and valuable, and your dreams are important. Be supportive and helpful, and serve in ways that allow you to move forward toward the goals you desire most. You are in control of your life. Every dream is waiting for you, and you have everything you need to make them yours.

Not This Again

27 Apr

We learn a lot as we go through our lives. Each day brings opportunities to learn new things, develop new skills and new behaviors. Sometimes trials come upon us and we try to overcome them, or solve them, or just try to get through them. But we all have lessons to learn. If we learn what is needed to get through a situation, we can move forward. No matter what problems come upon us, they aren’t permanent and will eventually go away again. However, if we didn’t learn anything from the experience, and only endured it until it changed, odds are good we’ll get to go through it again. Life has a way of looping our problems back around when we don’t figure out how to solve them.  If we never change our patterns or response to an issue, it may become a recurring nightmare. Given that, it’s in our best interest to try and not only endure our problems, but take the time to figure out why we have them, and then do what is needed to solve them once and for all.

Practice is the key to proficiency in most cases. When we’re learning a new skill the more we do it, the better we get at it. Repetition helps us remember how things are done and effectively teaches us new patterns. But repetition in our problems isn’t always pro-active. Having the same problem over and over doesn’t make us better people. It doesn’t make us proficient at anything but going through the same thing again and again. If we find ourselves in a familiar situation that is unpleasant and difficult to manage, the familiarity is our clue that we have something to learn. If we look at the situation objectively we can identify what we need to do to prevent it from returning.  Identifying the underlying issue is just the first step though. After we see what needs to change to prevent the same problem from recurring, we must adopt the change to end it. Just understanding what causes the situation is never enough. If we want to stop repeating the same behaviors, we actually have to stop repeating the same behaviors.

We are in charge of our lives. Sometimes the difficult issues we face over and over again come to us because of our associations with others. Perhaps they aren’t the best influence in our lives, maybe they have personal issues that impact us, or maybe they exercise authority over us in unproductive ways. If contact with them brings us hardship we may choose to distance ourselves from them or eliminate our interactions altogether. If the relationship is important to us, or has been in our lives for a long time, that decision may be difficult. We don’t want to hurt others but it’s important to recognize when our relationships are hurting us. If they are, we can modify them so we can move forward. We know what we need better than anyone else. If we need a change, we can make it. We are completely capable of managing our lives in positive and beneficial ways that bring us happiness and peace.

Today if you’re facing the same problem you’ve faced before and want to move forward, look at the situation clearly and see what you need to do to change. You can make any change you need to be happy. You are capable of understanding what needs to be done. Learn everything you can this time around and solve the problem once and for all. Look ahead and see where you want to be. And then, do what it takes to get there.