Someone Else

19 Oct

Everyone is unique and we are all different in our own ways. We have our own dreams and desires, and our own opinions about how things should go and what should happen. If we’re confident and self-directed, we will make whatever plans we want and move toward the goals we want to achieve. By keeping our eyes on the road ahead, chances are we’ll accomplish much. But not everyone is sure about what they want or where they’re going. If we don’t know how we want to proceed, and see someone who seems to have everything together, we may decide to follow them. We may emulate the things they do, learn to talk like them and even dress like them in an attempt to feel connected and moving forward. It’s helpful to watch successful people and learn about how they get things done, but that doesn’t mean we need to be just like them in order to succeed as well. We all have specific and individual gifts to offer. Trying to be someone else will never bring us complete satisfaction or true success. We don’t have to be a carbon copy of anyone in order to reach our goals. We already have everything we need to prevail, and by trusting ourselves and choosing our own paths, we can reach any destination we desire. Every answer we need is there for us, and with clarity and confidence nothing is out of reach.

We are constantly bombarded with advertisements that tell us if we do one thing or another, act a certain way, dress like them, or buy what they are selling, we will find great success and happiness. The people in the ads are always beautiful and happy, and the promise is that if we do whatever it is they’re touting we’ll be beautiful and happy too. There is no one perfect way to live life, and endless roads to every destination. We know who we are and what we want to bring the success and happiness we desire. By choosing our own road and doing things our own way, we will reach every success.

Some people think they have all the answers. If they are loud or powerful, they may try to convince us to do what they say. We can do anything we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can be exactly who we are and move forward sure of success. There are endless roads ahead, and with determination and patience, we will find the one that works best for us, and proceed until we reach the goal.

Today if you’ve been copying someone else trying to reach success, remember there is greatness in you. You are amazing and highly capable. Make your own plans and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal with confidence. Every single destination is waiting for you, and by keeping your eyes focused ahead, you will achieve great success.

Beaten and Destroyed

14 Oct

Everyone wants an easy, happy life. We all want to find true love, win the lottery and be enormously successful. It’s nice to think about the situations we dream of that we believe will bring us endless happiness and long lasting peace, but life isn’t nirvana and no matter who we are or what we’re doing, odds are at some point things will go wrong. There is contention and opposition in everything, and if we’re on the wrong side of the story, we may suffer greatly. We may face failure in business, we may lose our money, our lovers may walk out, a serious health issue may develop, or a million other unexpected possibilities. If the situation is devastating and at first we have no idea how to proceed, we may feel beaten down and lost. It may seem our lives are destroyed and there is no way to recover. Bad things will come to us all, serious and unbelievable events may knock us down, and we may be sure we’re doomed and will never survive. It’s hard to have faith in the light when all we can see is darkness. Terrible things may happen but nothing stays the same indefinitely. No matter what’s gone wrong or fallen apart, or how our plans have blown up, everything will eventually change. Even when we’re unsure, we can trust that we will find our way. Even if it seems there is no answer, an answer will come. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage and manage well. We can stand firm in the wind, and be confident we will prevail.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. It’s hard to understand when someone we trust or love intentionally does something to hurt us. Instead of wasting time trying to figure out why they did what they did, despite the pain, we can step back and look at the situation objectively. Their actions have been destructive, but they have given us more information that will help us as we move forward. We know them better now than we did before, and can do what is needed to protect ourselves in the future. The pain will eventually ease and we will find our way forward.

If we do something that causes a serious setback, we may lose our confidence. It may seem we aren’t smart enough, or capable enough, or any number of other factors. None of that is true. Even when we make excellent decisions, we have no control over what happens next. Failure is painful but it gives us valuable information. By focusing on what we’re learning, we can use it to help us move forward, and be confident and sure of success.

Today if everything has fallen apart and you are devastated and unsure, remember how strong and capable you are. The whole world is blessed and embellished because you are here. Look at everything objectively and learn all you can, and then start again. You have so much to offer.  Trust yourself and move forward. Every dream awaits, and you will make them yours.

Making It Clear

12 Oct

Life is complex and since we can’t read the future, we never know what’s coming next. When we’re making our decisions, we may base them on the current circumstances, or where we believe they’ll take us, or a thousand other reasons. If we are unsure about the future, or afraid of something happening that upsets our lives we may choose what looks like the safest option. Everyone wants to be safe, but there will always be more than one possibility, and if we only look at the easiest or most comfortable road, we may not make the best decisions. There is risk in everything, and even if we do all we can to prevent problems, they will still arise. Making decisions based only on protecting ourselves may not take us where we most want to go. Before we decide, we can take a moment to think about our reasons for the choice we’re making. By clarifying why we’re going one way or another, we will understand what our real goal is. Do we really want to head toward that destination, or are we only going that way because we know the road and it’s easy to travel? By being honest with ourselves, we’ll be able to decide what we really want and then proceed with confidence. We can go through our lives just doing the next thing without thinking, and following along whatever paved road is in front of us, and we will end up somewhere.  But if we want the lives we desire most, we must decide on each goal, and then move forward to reach it. Everything is possible and we are certainly capable of achieving anything we desire. We are brave enough and wise enough to reach any destination, and with clarity and determination, nothing can keep us from success. 

Change is constant and nothing is permanent. The road ahead may be clear when we begin a journey, but we can’t see beyond the next turn. We may face detours and roadblocks that snag our progress and prevent us from moving forward. Complications will undoubtedly come, and issues will arise. People may get in our way and the sky may darken. No matter what goes wrong, there will always be a way out and another road to take. With patience and clarity, we can untangle any problem, and continue forward.

If we’re headed toward a destination and our situation changes, we may decide we want something different. We don’t have to continue on the same road if our desires have changed. We can take everything we’ve learned so far with us and go in another direction. Every experience has value and nothing is wasted. We know who we are and what we want, and by keeping our eyes focused ahead, we can go where we want, and achieve any goal.

Today think about what you really want. You never have to stay in the same place and every option is possible. Decide where you want to go and how you want to proceed, and then take the first step. You are amazing and more powerful than you realize. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage, and every dream is possible. Trust yourself and be confident. The whole world is there for you and you will succeed.

Defining Moments

28 Sep

Life is long and each day we make many decisions. Each choice we make changes us in some way and the roads we choose tell the world who we are. If we are mindful, we may look at everything clearly before we decide, but there’s often a lot going on around us and it’s easy to get rushed and simply choose the first option available. If it doesn’t impact us much, it might not matter what we choose, but there are sometimes hidden agendas and unforeseen complications that arise and make moving forward difficult. Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point, and every decision we make determines what will happen next and defines who we are. If we continually make careless and foolish choices, those around us will understand we are not to be trusted. But if we try hard to choose well, we’ll be able to build relationships and make connections that will benefit us as we move ahead. Every choice is a defining moment. By being aware of what we’re doing, and carefully evaluating where we’re headed, we will find great satisfaction, and continued success.

The world is filled with all kinds of distractions and how we manage them will determine how we’ll proceed. If we’re addicted to our phone, texting and scrolling, and value our time with it over time spent with others, our relationships will suffer. There is no end to the information we can access at any moment. We can spend every minute of every day going through on-line sites, and following others, and accomplish nothing for ourselves. We are in control of our lives, and the choices we make will take us somewhere. We can ensure we are going where we most want to go by focusing clearly on the road ahead.

We are responsible for our time and how we spend it. If we allow ourselves to be over extended and have more to do than we can effectively manage, everything will suffer. There will always be more that needs to be done. It does no good to have so many commitments that we’re overwhelmed and can’t think straight. By recognizing our limits and planning our time to allow for success, we will be able to accomplish much and reach every goal.

Today think about the decisions you’re making. Choose the roads that will take you where you most want to go. You are wiser than you think you are, and every answer you need is available. Decide how you want to proceed, and be confident. Every success is there for you.  Every dream is possible. Trust yourself and step forward, and you will prevail.

Small Changes

26 Sep

“If you make a 1% improvement in a host of tiny areas, the cumulative benefits would be extraordinary.” Sir Dave Brailsford

Everyone has something they want to change about their lives. We want to be the best we can be, and that often means there are things we need to work on. Maybe we want to lose weight, maybe we want more education, or maybe we just want to be more patient and forgiving. Change and improvement are always possible, but they usually won’t happen overnight. We can take all the time we like to think about what we want do but until we actually begin to do what’s needed, nothing will change. We don’t have to do everything all at once, or completely change our lives to start the journey. By starting small and focusing on just one facet of the goal, we can begin the process of reaching it. We could give up desert just two nights a week, take just one night class, or stand still for moment before we speak. Small changes don’t seem like much, but once we master them we can add another small layer, and day by day, inch by inch we will reach the goal. There is no rush to succeed. The road ahead will wait as long as it takes, and will be there for us. By taking things one step at a time, we really can have the lives we want the most, and reach any destination.

Some people like to talk about all the things they’re going to do and all the places they’re going to go, but day by day, they remain in the same place doing the same things. The old saying that “Talk is cheap,” is true. We can talk all we want, and make all kinds of plans but until we actually do something to achieve the goal, nothing will change. We are highly capable and can do anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and taking the first step forward, we can be confident that we will succeed.

If the goal is hard to reach and will require a lot of work and time, we may hesitate before we begin. Our routines are comfortable and easy, and we pretty much know what to expect. We never have to change anything if we don’t want to, but our lives are ours to design, and if there’s something we really want, we can go after it. By changing one thing we can move closer to where we want to be. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing is out of reach.

Today if there’s something you want to achieve, think about how you want to begin and take the first step. You are amazing and powerful, and can do anything you desire. Trust yourself and be confident. Nothing is too complex or difficult for you to manage.  Decide what you want, and begin. Every single dream is possible, and you will prevail.