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Walking Away

17 May

There are times in everyone’s life when what we want to happen simply won’t come. We may try and try and try again to move forward but the result we’re seeking is out of our hands and no matter what we do we can’t achieve it. At some point we must decide if we want to continue pressing ahead or turn and walk away. They say hope springs eternal. We can hope for anything but hope is only the expectation that what we want to happen will come, and sometimes our expectations aren’t met. We can work toward any goal we desire for as long as we choose but if nothing we do moves us closer to it we may need to rethink the way forward. There is nothing wrong with changing our plans and walking away from something that doesn’t work. There is much to accomplish and spinning our wheels and staying in place isn’t helpful. Setting a goal aside doesn’t mean we have to give it up completely. What we can’t achieve today may come easily in the future when our lives have changed and we’re in a different place. We can look at a difficult situation objectively and choose the way forward that will bring us success. Life is filled with endless opportunities and we are capable of achieving many things as we move forward. Being wise about how we spend out time and choosing the most productive roads will open all the doors we’re seeking. Life is long and we can revisit anything we’ve set aside and try again. Everything we want to do is possible in time. We can choose what works today and plan for new destinations tomorrow.

Our personal relationships may be very important to us. There may be someone we want to get closer to but no matter what we do they remain elusive and out of reach. We may try to pursue them indefinitely but our time is valuable and if things aren’t improving we can move on to something else. We never have to stay stuck in a holding pattern waiting for something to change. We can step away and walk in a new direction. Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility. We can be successful and accomplish many things, and we can direct our lives in ways that move us forward.

Patience is a beneficial attribute. It’s good to be able to wait and we can be patient with others when they need time. We can wait for as long as we like but if we want to succeed eventually the situation must improve. If it doesn’t, we can walk away for now and move on with our lives. It will never work for us to keep waiting for something that doesn’t change. There may be an opportunity in the future if we want to try again. We can move ahead and if things are different later we can revisit our previous plans.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to happen and nothing has changed, think about how you want to move forward. There are countless opportunities for you and you need not wait indefinitely for anything. Move forward and step on the next road. Your time is valuable and your life is precious. Seek the things that bring you happiness and move toward success. All options are possible. Open all the doors and step ahead. Every happiness is there and you will achieve it.

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Being True

10 May

Each of us has our own unique personality that defines who we are. We express our individual tastes and desires and learn about ourselves and what we want. If we’re confident and self-assured we will stay true to our own personal values and choices. However, if we’re unsure about how we feel in certain situations and uncertain about how to respond we may latch onto someone else’s ideas and behaviors and adopt them as our own. Some people are very forceful and strong and if we aren’t sure we may choose to emulate them instead of voicing our own opinions. It’s easy to simply copy someone else’s ideas and views instead of figuring out our own. But pretending to be something we really aren’t will never take us where we want to go. Each choice we make has a result and if we choose behaviors that don’t reflect who we are we will construct a false façade that doesn’t have anything to do with reality. We can be inauthentic and imitate others for a while but eventually who we are will surface and the incongruity may bring confusion and complications. There may be times when we don’t know how we feel about something and need more information before we can decide. We don’t have to rush in order to agree with others and we don’t have to copy their answers. We can wait until we figure out everything and then determine our next steps. Allowing ourselves to be true to who we are before we respond will help us live honestly and sure. There is nobody else on earth exactly like us and our opinions and suggestions are important. We are smart enough to understand any situation before us and can take the time we need to find the best answers going forward.

Ideas change as time passes and what was once all the rage is now old news. If we change our opinions and standards every time the world around us changes we’ll be like leaves in the wind, tossed here and there with no direction or destination in mind. If we don’t define who we are and what we believe others will have trouble trusting and relying on us because each new idea will pull us away from where we are. There are always endless choices available and we must find the ones that best reflect our personal ideals and motives. We are the only ones who can define who we are. Understanding our true nature and desires, and then choosing the roads that emulate them will bring us the success we seek.

It may take time to discover what we really want and where we want to go. Until we define the way forward we can explore all possibilities around us. We will know when something fits and will find the road we want to travel. Our futures are ours to design and we can create the lives we want when we make the choices that take us there. All options are on the table and nothing can hold us back from success. We are strong and powerful and will find the way forward.

Today if you’ve been following along with those around you because you aren’t sure where you want to go, remember your destiny is yours to create. You can go anywhere and do anything. Think about what you want the most and then start forward toward the goal. There is great success ahead for you and nothing will stand in your way.

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The Destination

2 May

Nothing in life is stagnant and no matter where we are now, we are always on our way to somewhere else.  Sometimes it’s a physical change of location but often it’s a change in our thinking or situation.  The journey as we travel teaches us many things and we may embrace them as they come.  Sometimes we hear people say it’s not the destination that counts, but the journey.  In some ways that’s true.  The journey along the way is what molds us and helps us become the people we want to be.  But the destination is important.  It does us no good to travel around for years on end and never reach a goal.  If we want to be successful we must keep the destination we are seeking forefront in our focus and purposefully move toward it.  Traveling through our lives with no goal in mind will only take us from place to place.  If we don’t choose the destinations we desire, life will provide them for us and where we end up may not be where we want to go.  It’s like taking a trip to the grocery store with no idea of what we want to buy.  There are endless choices and we can simply go through the aisles throwing things in the cart.  Without thinking we may get some things we can use but chances are we’ll end up with various items we don’t want that will be wasted.  We can define where we want to go and then move forward toward the goal.  The journey will teach us many things and will enrich our lives and when we reach the chosen destination we will find happiness.  We can live our lives any way we want to.  When we live them on purpose headed in the direction we most want to travel we will find great satisfaction at the end of the journey.  By defining our destination and focusing on moving toward it we will find great success and have the lives we want the most.

Many people may have opinions about what we should be doing or where we should be headed.  There are countless interpretations about life and everyone has their own ideas.  What works for one will not necessarily work for someone else.  We can listen to all the advice we get and evaluate every suggestion that comes but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves.  We have all the wisdom we need to decide what we want to do and choose the road ahead that takes us exactly where we want to go.

If we aren’t sure about what we want to accomplish we may simply move through our lives on auto-pilot.  Auto-pilot is easy and requires no thought.  Of course, if we don’t determine where we’re headed we may go nowhere or end up in a place that doesn’t work for us.  We know what we want and with careful thought and determination we can achieve it, whatever it is.  We can have the lives we dream about.  We need only be willing to do what is needed to get there.

Today if you’ve been coasting through your days letting things unroll on their own and haven’t reached any destination you desire, take control.  You have all the power you need to create the life you want.  Every blessing is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Choose the road forward and move toward your goals.  All your dreams are waiting to come true.  Be purposeful, reach them and make them a reality.

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Following Along

27 Apr

When we meet someone we really admire and who impresses us we may desire to be like them.  They may have a life situation we like or be doing things we want to do but so far have not accomplished.  As we are drawn in we may follow them around trying to learn more about how they live and the choices they make.  It seems logical that if we want something in our lives and find someone who has it we can copy what they’ve done and achieve the goal for ourselves.  That could work but we’re all different and what works for one person doesn’t always translate into success for someone else.  A lot depends on who we are, where we are and what opportunities are available to us.  Following someone else along, doing everything they do, and saying all the things they say will not duplicate their experiences in our lives.  We are unique and have very specific gifts to offer.  There is no way to be exactly like anyone else and surrendering who we are to find success will never bring us happiness.  We can achieve anything we want our own way.  We can follow good advice and mimic successful behavior when it works for us but we must be genuine if we want real success.  Each of us has our own combination of blessings to share with the world and individual gifts can only be offered by those who possess them.  Recognizing our personal uniqueness and embracing our personal style will help us open all the doors we seek moving forward.  Every success is possible when we are authentic and true to ourselves.  There is no need to follow along behind anyone else.  We know what we want and we know where we’re going.

Some people project authority in everything they do and we may be captured under their spell.  If they are honest and caring their influence may enhance our lives and deepen our understanding.  But if they are spiteful, aggressive, or mean to others as they push forward, if we follow them we may have to compromise our standards.  No matter what we’re trying to achieve we can hold fast to the standards we value.  We have enough wisdom and personal strength to accomplish anything and we can do it in ways that ennoble us and take us closer to the person we want to be.

There may be times when we’re influenced by someone who takes us down a road we don’t want to travel.  Once we realize we’re headed toward a destination we don’t want we can stop and redirect our way forward.  We don’t have to remain in any situation that doesn’t work for us no matter who is involved.  We may step away at any time and start again.  We always know what road we want to travel.  We are courageous enough to find it and move forward toward any goal we seek.

Today if you’ve been following someone else hoping for success but want to change direction, step off the road you’re on and redirect your course.  You are in control of your life and know exactly what you want.  You can reach any destination you desire and all options are possible.  Look ahead and chart your course.  You are unique and the world is blessed by the influence you bring.  Be yourself.  Every success is there for you and you will find it.

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Day One

24 Apr

Our lives take all kinds of unexpected twists and turns. We may be traveling along with everything rolling out exactly as planned and run into a complication that changes everything going forward. Sometimes it’s just a detour we must navigate around but other times it may be a complete break that prevents us from continuing on the same road. We have no control over most of what comes to us. There are always circumstances out of reach we cannot predict and other people making decisions that may impact our plans. Change is constant and when it comes to us in ways that completely rearrange where we were headed it can be disconcerting and confusing to try to figure out what to do next. If the road we were traveling is no longer available we will have to decide where we want to go next. Starting over at day one doesn’t mean we’ve lost anything. It’s just a change in direction. There are countless possibilities before us and endless roads to travel. We can take a moment to decide what we want to do and then look at all the options before us. When we’re ready we can step onto a new path and move forward toward any goal we desire. There are few times in our lives when things go exactly as planned and we move from one point to the next in a perfectly straight, uninterrupted line. Things happen, people get in the way, problems come up and complications confound the way forward. We are wise, flexible and intelligent enough to figure out anything that comes. Every destination is possible and no matter what stands in the way, we will reach it.

If there was only one possible road to success and that road became impassable we could never succeed. When we make a plan for our lives we may not be able to see all our options at the beginning and might believe there is only one way to achieve our goals. Whether we can see them or not, there are unlimited possibilities for every choice we make. We can have faith that if our first choice doesn’t work out there will be another. If that too fails, there will be another option again. There will always be another choice possible for us and nothing will keep us from our goals.

Having to start over and begin again doesn’t mean we’ve lost anything. We learn as we go and all the things we gain as we travel forward stay with us. All the lessons we’ve already learned will help us continue on our journey. Everything we do teaches us something of value. We become wiser and stronger with each complication and our endurance increases as we overcome problems and trials along the way. There is no timetable for success. We will achieve it and reach every destination we desire.

Today if everything has changed and suddenly the way forward is no longer available, look at all the options possible. There are many roads to any destination. You can begin again and continue your journey. Every goal is possible and nothing is too complex or difficult for you to navigate and overcome. Keep moving forward. The whole world is there for you and nothing is out of reach. Every success is possible. You have everything you need to get to any destination. Take another step forward. You can do anything and all your dreams can come true.

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