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On the Hook

26 Feb

We interact with all kinds of people. They come and go, we work, socialize, and meet with them for different reasons, and hardly a day goes by without someone else touching our lives. There may be times when we need something from them and if they’re in agreement, we move forward easily and on to the next thing. But not every situation is easy to navigate and if there’s something complex or difficult we want help with, the person we’re asking may not be sure they want to get involved. They don’t want to say yes, but don’t want to disappoint us. So, they may tell us they might help, they’ll think about it, or give us a “maybe.” That allows them to gracefully step away at least for now until they really decide what they want to do. It never helps us to hear “maybe” when we need agreement. It just puts us on the hook while we wait to see what will happen next, and gives control over our progress to someone else. There is no way to know how long it will take others to make a decision, and it’s impossible to wait and move forward at the same time. We’re always in control of our lives, and we don’t have to stay on the hook indefinitely. We can accept any indecision, and then proceed ahead according to what works best for us. There will always be a way forward. If we can’t get the help we need right now for our current plan, we can revise our options and continue on. We know what we want, and there are many ways to achieve our goals. Every road is possible and with focus, and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s difficult to deal with people who struggle to make decisions. They may be unsure about what they want, or insecure about their ability to accomplish tasks. Whatever their reasons, if we need their agreement on something in order to proceed, and they cannot decide what they want to do, we may get stuck. But we never have to hold still waiting indefinitely. If the task is important and we want to move ahead, we can set a time for them to give us their decision or allow us to continue ahead on our own. Our goals are important and by planning well, and taking control, we will reach them.

If someone wants something from us and we’re not sure we want to agree, we may try to stall them. We can take all the time we like in every decision we make, but it’s inappropriate to hold others back in the interim. If we don’t know what we want to do, we can step aside and let those ready to move forward go ahead without us until we’re ready to join them. We can respect the needs of others while still doing what is best for us.

Today if you’re ready to move forward but someone else’s indecision is holding you back, look at all the options possible. There will always be another way forward. Find the road that works for you and step forward. Your dreams and desires are important, and you deserve to make them yours. Be confident and strong. Every goal is possible and you will prevail.

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The Name Game

18 Feb

The world is full of names and labels that help us understand what things are and what we’re dealing with. Although they can be helpful, they can also be misleading. After all, we can call anything we want by any name we desire, and if we want to mask something undesirable, can deflect away from any negative influence. We may see this in advertising campaigns. Sales won’t increase if problems and complications are highlighted, and renaming them in ways that make them seem acceptable can help disguise them. We might do the same in our lives. For instance, instead of saying someone is mean and rude, we might simply say they are challenging and intense. Learning to label things in ways that make them seem easier may help us in some situations, but like all things, there will be two sides to the coin. Truth is truth and no matter how we try to manipulate it or color it to look like something else, will remain. It’s important to be honest in all our dealings. Difficult and unpleasant situations will remain no matter what we call them, so it’s best to simply state things as they really are. We are capable of facing any complication and managing any problem, no matter how convoluted or intense. We can see and accept things as they really are, and proceed with confidence that we’ll find our way through. We have all the wisdom and intellect we need to travel any road ahead, and every destination is possible. With clarity and confidence, we will succeed.

If we don’t like something in our lives, where we live, the job we have, or some other situation that may be embarrassing or in some way makes us feel uncomfortable, we might pretend things are different and simply use terms that aren’t exactly clear when we talk about them. We don’t ever have to tell others more than we’re comfortable with, and saying things that aren’t exactly true may bring unexpected and unwanted complications. Instead of making up a story that veers away from the truth, it’s better to simply say nothing. We’re in control of our lives and don’t have to share anything we don’t want to. We can be honest and still keep private information to ourselves.

When we’re dealing with others it’s important to be completely honest. Trying to influence someone by glossing over the truth or describing something in ways that divert what’s real may work at first, but in time, the whole story will be revealed. Things aren’t always easy but no matter what the situation is, we can face it openly and with complete clarity. We can handle anything just the way it is. We are competent and capable, and nothing can stand in our way.

Today if you’re dealing with an unpleasant situation, tell the complete truth. Be honest about what’s happening and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to manage and manage well. The truth will pave the way forward, and you will reach your destination. Be confident and clear. You are amazing and nothing can keep you from success.

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Keys

14 Feb

Our personalities are rich with expression and varied in how we interpret and manifest information as we move along. Nobody is completely the same all the time. We feel things differently depending on what’s going on around us and who is involved. Every day brings a new situation and we sometimes have to work hard to figure out what to do next. When we need to unlock something to get in, we may reach for our personal key ring. We might have many different keys to choose from, and in each instance must choose the specific one that opens the door we need. We may have a key for our car, our home, our office, the backdoor, maybe a shed or storage area, or many other options. They might look alike but each represents a unique opportunity to unlock the way ahead. Like the keys on our key ring, we have different personal interpretations and expressions for each situation we experience. Maybe we need our wisdom key for a particular problem, or our patience key when things get intense. We might use compassion to open the way to dialog for someone who is suffering, or simply take out the one that unlocks understanding. Each key we possess opens something new and teaches us more about the world around us. Everything we do tells the world who we are. When we use our keys appropriately in the right situations, the road ahead is often easier than if we mix them up. If we use force when endurance is needed, or leisure when we need to work, we might end up somewhere we didn’t intend to go. Learning how to manifest the right options when opportunities present themselves will move us forward toward the goals we’re seeking. We are wise and intelligent, and can find the keys that open any door ahead. Every goal is possible, and we are smart enough, and strong enough to reach them.

Every day things change and it’s impossible to know what will happen next. We learn new skills with each experience and carry all that information with us moving forward. When things go wrong or what we’re trying to accomplish gets stuck, it doesn’t mean we can’t get to the goal. It just means that for now, we don’t have the key to open this particular door. There are many roads to every destination, and we can turn in another direction and find the way ahead.

Like skeleton keys that open many doors, kindness and consideration can pave the way ahead, no matter what’s in the way. Few things make a situation better than a kind word, or a patient attitude. We can be open to new ideas and patiently work through any problems or issues that arise, confident that no matter what happens, we will reach the destination. We are capable of managing any complication, and with focus and determination, can reach any goal.

Today if you’re not sure you have all the keys you need to open the doors ahead, trust yourself. You are more capable than you realize. Every dream is possible, and you already possess everything you need to win. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can keep you from the goal, and you will reach great success.

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What Comes Next

21 Jan

We all have ideas about how we want our lives to go. We know what we want to accomplish and where we want to be. We can see where we are right now, and try to plan for the future, but there is no way to know what lies ahead. Even when we plan well and try to prepare for the possibilities we can envision, we don’t know what will happen next. Sometimes everything goes about the way we think it will, and we move ahead with little trouble. However, other times we may be surprised by events and situations we could never have imagined. Life is filled with all kinds of unexpected developments. There may be others making decisions we are unaware of, and complications may arise that hold us in place. What comes next is an unknown in most situations, and at any moment everything may change. Things go wrong, the road turns, and sometimes everything goes up in smoke. Trouble may come, but no matter what happens, we can find a way through. We can’t control what the future brings, but we can control how we manage it and decide how we will proceed. There isn’t any complication or problem too complex for us to figure out. The road we’re on may end, or turn and point us in the wrong direction, but we can step away from where we are, and start again. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely. There are many roads to every destination and we will find the way ahead. Not every goal will come easily, and sometimes we may have to stop and rethink what to do next, but we can achieve anything we desire and find success. Every dream is possible and with patience and determination, we will prevail.

There will be times in our lives when everything goes well, our plans work out and we move forward with little resistance. But those instances are rare, and most of the time we’ll have some push back when we’re trying to advance. Resistance requires thought and endurance, and teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. When we have to push through difficult times, we become more resilient and gain strength and wisdom. Each trial teaches us something new to carry forward. We become more courageous as we push through trouble and more confident as we succeed.

When something extreme and unexpected happens, we may be shocked and stunned, and need time to process where we are now. Big surprises can knock the wind out of us, and we can take the time we need to understand what’s happened before we begin to formulate our next steps. We can get help if we need it, and then decide how to proceed. Everything may change but we are strong and capable, and will always find the answers we need to move forward. Nothing can keep us from our goals, and we have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Today if something unexpected has happened and your plans are no longer workable, take the time you need to decide what you want to do. There are many roads ahead and you will find the way. Nothing is beyond your abilities, and you will prevail. Be confident and step forward. Every dream is still there for you, and you will succeed.

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Not Apologizing

3 Jan

Everyone is different and there are endless interpretations and perceptions about everything in life. What one believes is absolutely correct, another will question and offer a contrasting idea. The viewpoints and approaches may be vastly different and there is no end to the variety we may encounter. If we are convinced our ideas are the only right way to proceed, we may face contention and argument. We are certainly entitled to our own perspective, but there are countless roads to every destination and many different ways to accomplish any goal. We can be open to listening to other views and respect that we’re all different. However, if we feel strongly about our own ideas, and they are different from those around us, we can still go our own way. If we aren’t hurting others, we need not apologize for our interpretation of the world around us. We are entitled to our own voice and can go our own way. There is sometimes a lot of pressure from others to conform and if we disagree, we may be encouraged to remain quiet. But we are as important as anyone else, and can be confident in our own ideas. If everyone were the same and agreed to follow the identical road going forward, there might be less contention but we would lose our creativeness or ingenuity. Differences bring depth and variety to our experience. We can have our own views and allow others the same privilege. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation. We each have unique and specific gifts to offer, and allowing everyone to express their own point of view brings richness and variation to our experience. We can be confident in being ourselves, and step forward on the road that will take us where we most want to go.

The world is a noisy place filled with people telling us all kinds of things. They may tell us that following their ideas and beliefs are the only way to true happiness and success. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth. There are endless ways to achieve both and we never have to do things someone else’s way. When we decide where we want to go and what we want to achieve, and then follow our own roads ahead, we can reach complete happiness and satisfaction. Every destination is possible and by being true to who we are we will reach them.

Charismatic people who are loud and persuasive may convince us they have all the answers we need to be happy. We can follow anyone we want for as long as we like, but we already possess everything we need inside us to find our own way. We already know what we want and have all the skills and wisdom necessary to achieve anything. We can trust ourselves to find our own way, and step forward sure of success. Nothing is beyond our reach and we can achieve every goal we desire.

Today if someone is encouraging you to follow them and telling you what you should do, remember how important your life is. You are intelligent and capable, and can do anything you desire. Trust your instincts, and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every goal is possible and you will succeed.

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