We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to be happy and nobody tries to make a bad choice on purpose that will increase their suffering. We try to make good decisions at every turn and most of the time we’re successful. But we may face a situation where what we’ve chosen blows up in our faces, and we crash and burn. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, maybe we were in a rush or a thousand other factors came into play. If the choice is grievous, when it hits the fan, we may try to hide or pretend we don’t know anything about what’s happening. That might work for a time, but nothing can stay hidden forever, and eventually our part will be found out. We’re all accountable for everything we do – the good and the bad. When the reckoning comes, we may be sorely sad for the choice we made, and may suffer greatly due to ramifications of what’s occurred. If we generally manage our lives well and make sensible, balanced choices, and this is an unusual screwup, we’ll likely be able to recovery and restore what has been lost. However, if we’re continually irresponsible and repeat seriously bad judgement again an again, chances are we’ll lose the trust of those around us. It’s hard to rely on someone who constantly makes bad decisions that tangle up our lives. We’re all capable of choosing well, but good choices don’t just happen because we want them. We must actively do what is needed to get the facts and think about what we’re doing before we jump. By looking for the information we need and taking our time to review all the possible options, we have a better chance of choosing well. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make, and each success is possible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.
Some people believe it’s easier to ask for forgiveness after the fact than for permission before we act. Leaving others in the dark only to surprise them with some unexpected problem is a recipe for disaster. By including everyone involved before we choose, we can get their opinions and good advice to help ensure we’re headed in the right direction.
Nobody is perfect and it’s likely that we’ll all make a bad choice at some point. When the situation begins to deteriorate and we realize we’re headed for trouble, we can be honest about our part in what’s happened and begin the process of changing direction. If we need advice, we can ask for it. Every situation can be amended and with patience and persistence, we can correct our course, and move forward with renewed confidence.
Today if you’ve made a bad choice and created a problem that is complex and difficult, trust yourself. You are not defined by a mistake. Look at everything objectively and decide how you want to proceed. There is a solution to every problem, and you will find the answers you need. Be calm and confident. The road ahead is still there for you and you will reach success.
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