Archive | March, 2021

Jekyll Factor

9 Mar

People are complex and we all have many facets to our personalities. Some of us are introverts, remaining calm and quiet most of the time. Others are more outgoing and like to actively interact with those around them. People are unique and unpredictable and there is no way to know what they will do. If things are going well, they may be easy going and friendly, but if events turn and they are agitated, they may suddenly become angry and aggressive. We may be taken by surprise by our own response or those around us. This may be aggravated when outside influences impact our personal control. If we are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, we may seem the same or everything may change. Like changing from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde, we might manifest behaviors that are the exact opposite of who we are in otherwise normal conditions. Whether from outside influences or the situation we’re in, if that happens, it may affect our lives in ways that impact our relationships and impede our progress. If we act out in ways that are hurtful or destructive, it may be hard to repair the damage once we return to normal. It’s hard to trust people who are volatile and erratic. We don’t know which personality we’ll be dealing with, and that may create a chasm between us and those around us. We are in control of our lives and are free to choose anything we like, but we are not free to choose the consequences of those choices. If we continue to do things that break the trust of those around us and damage our relationships, we may find ourselves all alone, somewhere we never wanted to go. We are smart enough to make good, wise choices and can pave the road ahead to the destinations we most desire. With clarity and determination, we can find great success and build the lives we want the most. Nothing is out of reach, and we have everything we need to prevail.

Our relationships are important to us, and we all want strong, healthy connections to those we love and care about. But building good relationships takes effort and attention. If we routinely trade them off for a quick thrill or step away to do things that put barriers between us, we will never achieve the goal. Nothing is more rewarding or brings more happiness than the bonds we build with those we love. By making our relationships a priority, we will gain great peace and satisfaction, and our lives will be enriched.

The pull of the world can be great. It’s easy to be lured away from what we want most for what we want at the moment. Immediate gratification is a constant temptation, and we may give in to it instead of doing what is needed for long term happiness. We deserve complete happiness and with patience and wisdom, can make decisions that will enable us to reach it. Every blessing is there for us, and every dream is possible. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need to reach every goal.

Today if you’re thinking about stepping away for an immediate thrill, consider your personal goals. You are a blessing to the world and your light lifts us all. Decide what you want the most, and step forward to claim it. Everything is possible. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Success is waiting.

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Back Room

8 Mar

Every day of our lives brings something new. We experience happy times, sorrow, disappointment, and unlimited other things as we navigate through our days. Some experiences bring us great joy and we hold onto them, but not every experience will be positive, and we may go through some things that are so difficult, painful, and disturbing, we don’t want to face them. Maybe we don’t have the courage to face the issue completely right now and so we leave it unresolved and unsettled. We might tuck it away in the back room of our minds, thinking if we ignore it long enough, it’ll just disappear. Unresolved conflict can sometimes work itself out over time, but those instances are few and far between. No matter how hard we want something to go away, what we ignore will remain until we face it completely and do what is needed to resolve it. The back room is great place to store things, and at home when there’s something we don’t want we may stick it back there. But it will never simply disappear because it’s out of sight. It will sit and wait until we return to take care of it. Nobody gets a perfect life, and lots of things may go wrong. Our plans may fail, our friends may disappoint, our families may pressure, and we may end up somewhere we never planned to go. Trying to look the other way when trouble comes will only prolong the agony. We are strong enough and smart enough to face anything that happens. By looking at everything clearly and openly, we will find the answers we need to resolve any issue and settle any complication. We can trust ourselves to find the way ahead and be confident we will prevail.

Horses wear blinders to keep their vision focused on the road ahead and prevent them from seeing any distractions around them. Although we don’t wear actual blinders, we might face a situation that is so uncomfortable and difficult, we may avert our eyes and try to ignore it, hoping it will fade off or someone else will take care of it. We might get lucky a time or two, but mostly what we refuse to face now will persist until we muster our courage and actually face it. There is no need to hide from anything that happens. We already possess everything we need to accomplish anything we must.

Life can be complicated, and we can be very busy. If something happens that we simply cannot deal with right now, we can set it aside and continue on. Change is constant and once our situation is more settled, we can return to the issue and take care of it. There is nothing wrong with waiting until we’re ready to face something. When we’re ready, we can return and take care of anything we’ve left behind. Our lives are ours to design any way we like, and with persistence and clarity, we can manage whatever develops and find success. Nothing is too hard for us to face, and we will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t think you can manage it, think again. Remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious problems and prevailed. You are more powerful and wiser than you think you are. Nothing is too difficult for you. You are amazing. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence.

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Dump Site

4 Mar

Most of us want to be kind and helpful to those around us. We might offer to lend a hand when someone is in a bind or take on another’s chores when they are overwhelmed. The old saying, “Many hands make light work,” is true. When we all pitch in, even huge, difficult tasks become easier. Being open to giving our time and efforts is generally appreciated by those around us. We can be there when needed and share a part of the load. But there is a difference between being helpful and becoming someone else’s dump site. Some people may try to take advantage of our kindness and take all the stuff they don’t want to do and just dump it on us. They can do whatever they like but we don’t have to take on more than we want. We aren’t responsible for completing anyone’s tasks and responsibilities but our own. Just because someone hands us something they don’t want doesn’t mean we must accept it. Everyone is responsible for their own stuff, and if they try to push all the unwelcome and difficult tasks over onto us, we can politely and firmly decline, and step back. Being a team player means just that – being part of a team. It doesn’t mean we have to carry the entire load or do all the heavy lifting by ourselves. If we get into a situation where we’re expected to do more than is comfortable, we can decide how we want to participate. We’re always in control of our own lives and know what works best for us. We can be charitable and help in ways that benefit those around us and don’t wear us completely down. There is always more to do than one person can accomplish. By carefully planning our time, and doing our part, we can feel confident in our assistance, and ensure the success of any project. By doing what we can to help those around us, we can share our light with others, and make the world a better place.

Some people are very forceful and demanding, valuing their own importance, and diminishing the time of others. If we must interact with them, they may push projects onto us that require serious work and effort to accomplish. If they have authority over us, we may need to comply, but if not, we are not compelled to complete anything they arbitrarily assign to us. We can decide what we will and will not do, and express our decisions with grace and clarity, choosing the best road forward.

Offering our time and effort is noble, but we don’t have to give ALL our time and effort to serve those around us. Every moment we give is valuable, and we can determine how much we may offer. We can serve others and still have time for ourselves and what is important for our personal well-being. Sharing what we can, will benefit those around us and enrich our lives and experiences moving forward. We have so much to offer, and our gifts bring great light and goodness to the world.

Today if you’ve been helping others but the requests are more demanding than you can manage, determine how you want to continue. Whatever you can offer will be a blessing to those around you. Be wise and confident. You know what you need and where you want to go. You are a great gift to the world, and we’re all better because you are here. Make the best decisions moving forward, and you will find great joy.

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Happiness 101

2 Mar

Everyone wants a happy life. We want things to go our way, the road ahead to be easy and paved, and everything we work for to come through for us. It’s natural to want things to go well, and oftentimes they do. If we want our lives to be happy, we can try to do what is needed to make that happen, but we aren’t alone here. Our plans can be complicated and interrupted by others around us who may do things that hold us in place or influence us in ways that keep us from moving forward. We may have a relationship with someone who exercises a lot of control over what we do. They may have specific ideas of how our lives should go that conflict with what we really want. If they are important to us, or are very strong and powerful, we may allow them to decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. We can certainly do anything we like, but if we let someone else drive the train, the chances of ending up where we really want to go are unlikely. Living a life based on someone else’s plans will not bring us true happiness. Our personal happiness is our responsibility. Others cannot provide it for us. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves and we know what we want, and despite any situation or relationship connection, are always in control of our lives. Others may try to dominate our decisions, and if we let them, decide our next steps. But we are the only ones who know exactly what we want, and can step forward on our own road at any time. The only person who can truly keep us from achieving our personal goals, is us. When we’re ready, we can step forward and move toward the destinations we desire most. We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness, and it’s always there for us when we’re ready to claim it. Every dream is possible, and we can make them ours.

There are a lot of very smart, highly educated people in the world. They know a lot about many things and may be very confident in their advice and personal suggestions. While they may know many things about the world and how it works, nobody can possibly know more about us than we know about ourselves. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go. If we are uncertain, we can ask for advice but in the end the decisions we make are up to us. We can decide how we’ll proceed and what we’ll accomplish and reach any goal we desire.

We may face a time when everything goes wrong, and nothing is working for us. The situation we’re in may make us miserable, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Hard times will certainly come to us all, but nothing stays the same forever. Happiness will never be unattainable indefinitely. We can manage any difficult situation, and when things change, step forward toward the goals we’re seeking. Every possibility will still be there for us and we can achieve any success we desire.

Today if you’re not happy with where you are and want a change, look at all the options available. You know what you want. Decide on the road that will take you to the destinations you desire most, and step forward. Nothing can keep you from success, and all your dreams are possible. Be confident. There is great happiness ahead and you will reach it.

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Just Beyond

1 Mar

We all have dreams and goals we want to achieve. It can be hard to focus on what we want most when our “to do” list is long, and our responsibilities are pressing. Endless distractions can pull our attention away from the things we desire most for what must be accomplished right now. Time continues to move forward and before we realize it, a lot of time may pass by before we revisit our personal goals. It can seem that our dreams are just beyond what we can reach but we are in control of how we spend our time, and even if there is a lot we must accomplish, we can plan to value and set aside time for our own personal progress. It may only be a few minutes on busy days, but if we are determined we can take the time needed to move a little closer to the goals we desire. Few of us have lives unfettered by outside responsibilities, and it can be difficult to make time for ourselves, but our lives are ours to design, and we can always find time for what we value most. Success is always possible, but we must do what is required to make it ours. We know what we want and have everything we need to have the lives we dream of. There will always be chores that need doing, and things to take care of, but with focus and clarity, we can plan so we can accomplish what we must and still have time to work on what we want. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire. We are intelligent and capable and can find our way forward. No matter how complicated things get or how many tasks are pressing, we can set time aside to determine our own futures. Every single dream is there for us, and we can trust ourselves to find the way forward to make them ours.

Nobody can run a marathon the first time they put on running shoes and hit the track. Completing such a huge accomplishment is beyond their capabilities the first day and after the first run, may seem impossible. But with practice, and continued time in pursuit of the goal, it can be accomplished. The same is true in our personal lives. Big goals can seem unattainable when we first look at what is needed to make them ours. The road may be long and arduous, and filled with many complications, but we don’t have to overcome everything the first day out. We can take it one step at a time and solve each issue as it comes. Each step will move us closer and in time, we will succeed.

Few things we desire will come with little or no effort. We may really want to lose ten pounds, and think about it a lot, even plan for it, but if we don’t do what is needed to actually lose it, nothing will change. The same is true for any dream we want to accomplish. Thinking about it, talking about it, making lists and plans but doing nothing will only keep us exactly where we are. Every single goal is possible and by doing the work, nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been putting off your personal goals and setting aside time for yourself, remember your dreams are important. Plan the time you need to move closer to the goals you most want to achieve. Every dream is possible, and nothing can hold you in place. Be confident and sure, and you will succeed.

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