Tag Archives: Weak

Not Shrinking

23 Jun

We all face millions of situations as we go through our lives. Unless we live on a desert island alone and isolated, chances are there are people all around us and at some point someone is going to annoy, anger, or irritate us in some way. We’re all different and those differences can sometimes cause conflict, which can sometimes become intense and if we’re tired of defending ourselves, we may choose to go on the offensive. There is nothing wrong with standing up for ourselves and stating our positions plainly and clearly to those around us. If we feel empowered and safe, we may stand strong even if we are the only one on our side. But if the others are more powerful than we are, or carry more influence, when things go wrong and we’re on the outside, we might decide to shrink back and stay quiet instead of speaking up. Silence may keep us from the fray for now, but going along simply to get along may not work out for us in the long run. Remaining quiet can be interpreted as agreement, and we might find ourselves in situations we never wanted because we didn’t say something at the beginning. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and beliefs, and we can be confident that even if our ideas are very different from those around us, they are worthwhile and can be expressed. Everyone sees things from their own perspective and through the filters they have gained by their own experiences. We may see things in a unique way that opens up new possibilities not previously considered. Confidently and clearly sharing our views will add great depth and richness to any discussion or plan. We are intelligent and capable, and have greatness inside us. We know what we want and have what we need to get it. We can step forward toward the goals we desire most and be sure of success.

If there is disagreement and someone becomes angry and attacks us, our first instinct might be to attack back. They started it, and we’re going to finish it. Well we can certainly do anything we like but contention added to contention will never bring peace. We don’t have to sit quietly and allow anyone to run us over and destroy us, but we can maintain our composure and answer them with clarity and confidence. Yelling will only make the situation more difficult. No matter what the issue is, there will be a compromise possible. We can be calm even in conflict and find the answers we need to resolve the situation and then move forward.

It’s hard to stand up to someone who has a lot of power and control. If they come for us and are loud and angry, we may wish to disappear or in some magical way be able to escape without them noticing. Feeling threatened doesn’t mean we are weak, and we need not shrink from the challenge. We are stronger than we imagine. We don’t have to be loud in return, and speaking quietly will cause those around us to step closer and listen more carefully. We are powerful and wise, and with patience and resolve can face any situation with courage and strength.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation with conflict and trouble, remember how powerful you are. You are stronger and wiser than you think and nothing can overcome you. Stand strong and be clear. You are valuable and a great asset to the world. Be confident and trust yourself. Nobody has the gifts you have to offer and we’re all blessed because you are here.

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Copy Cat

19 Oct

There are endless opinions and ideas floating around us all the time. The world is filled with differing viewpoints and there are limitless choices we can make. Although we can design our lives any way we like, we may face a time when there is pressure to conform. If the voices around us are powerful and loud, even if we disagree, we may decide to go along. Going along to get along is easier than standing our ground, and if we’re unsure or timid, we may buckle. Conforming may make the road ahead a little easier to navigate, but choosing someone else’s road will only take us where they’re going, and will never lead us to our own destinations. Copying someone else’s choices or behaviors will not enable us to live a clear, authentic life. We are unique. There isn’t anyone else like us in the whole universe and nobody can offer the gifts we have to share. Although it may be easier to go along to get along, nothing will bring us more satisfaction and happiness than choosing our own way. We all have so much to offer, and can be confident that our voices are important. We can be polite and patient, listen to every suggestion offered, and then choose our own path. We know what we want, and are strong enough, and wise enough to find our way forward. Choosing to be who we are, and honoring our own uniqueness will open new doors and pave the road ahead. Every dream we seek is there, waiting for us. By being honest with ourselves, and doing what we value most, we will find great reward and fulfillment. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire. By standing strong and stepping forward, we will reach every destination and success.

Some people are very confident and believe they have all the answers. They may tell us what we should do, how we should do it and where we should go. We can take any advice we like, but nobody, no matter how smart they think they are, can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything. By being true to who we are and what we want, we will reach every goal and find great happiness.

The power of the group can be intense. It’s easier to work with others if everyone follows the same path, but differences bring great depth and variety to our experience. There are endless roads to every destination and never one perfect way forward. By trusting ourselves, we can speak up and share our perspective. Everyone has something to offer and if we allow all voices to be heard, our experience will be enriched and deepened.

Today if you’ve been copying someone else’s choice because it’s easier or you are unsure, trust yourself. You already know exactly what you want. Decide on your goal, and take the first step forward. You are stronger and more powerful than you imagine. Every single dream is there for you, and you will reach them all.

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Hedge Fund

16 Jan

When we want something very badly and we aren’t sure we can accomplish it, we may hedge our bet to try to increase our odds. For instance, if we’re dating someone we like but aren’t sure the relationship will go anywhere, we may decide to date someone else on the side. That way, if one situation ends, we’ll have the other to fall back on. Or if we want someone to believe in us but know we can’t give them what they need, we may fabricate stories about our plans and pretend to do things in ways that will bring them closer. We may think if we can get them on board we’ll figure out how to keep them there later. Hedging our bet is a way to negate any loss that may come. In some arenas, it’s not a bad idea, but when interacting with others, it can be dangerous. Working behind the scenes may work against us. If those involved discover what we’re doing, we may lose everything. Nobody appreciates dishonesty and if our subterfuge is uncovered, the goal we’re seeking may be lost. Forever. When we want something, the best choice is to honestly and openly express our desire for it, and then do what is needed to achieve it. There isn’t anything we can’t do and we can gain whatever we’re seeking with honor. We don’t need to hedge our bet to win. We can win by doing our best.

The world is filled with all kinds of ideas. There are many ways to accomplish anything and if we choose to manipulate a situation, our options increase. If we aren’t sure we can get to our goal, we may choose to creatively shape our actions and frame our ideas in ways that make them seem more attractive. There is nothing wrong with enhancing our approach to make it more successful, but if we do it using trickery or pretense, we may get to the goal but our success may be precarious. Truth always rises and once all the facts are uncovered we may lose in the end. It does no good to gain something that slips through our fingers once our deceptive methods have been uncovered.

There are times when we may be unsure we can accomplish what we we’re seeking. We may think we don’t have the tools needed to get there or others involved will not receive us. We can talk ourselves out of any goal if our desire to achieve it isn’t strong enough. But there really isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We have everything we need to succeed and even if we aren’t sure, we can go forward step by step and get to the goal. Manipulation, deceit, duplicity and trickery are tools for the weak. We are strong enough to move forward being honest and clear in our objective and we will succeed. We don’t need to hedge our bets. We have everything we need already.

Today if you’re thinking of manipulating a situation to get what you want, remember your integrity. You already have everything you need to succeed and you can win by being honest and sincere. There isn’t anything you can’t accomplish. Be the best you can be today and make your decisions based on the high standards you cherish. You are a gift to the world. Set the example for good and choose well.

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