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Blasted

29 Jan

Every single adult has a past. It’s permanent and there is no way to remove anything we’ve ever done or said, or any relationship we’ve ever had. Nobody is perfect and we all do things that later we feel we could have managed better or made a better choice. But life is all about learning and we can only do the best we can at the time in each situation. There is no manual to consult to show us what our decisions may bring. There will be times when we take a wrong turn, say the wrong thing, or do something that brings complications and problems to our lives. We may get involved with someone who takes us down a road that leads to disaster. It happens, but nothing is forever, and we can change direction at any time, and in any place. When we realize we’re going somewhere we don’t want, we can turn around until we’re facing the sun again. We can let go of relationships that are difficult or damaging and move on, but life has a way of looping around, and we might find that despite our best efforts, those involved find their way back to us. It could be by design or chance, but either way, it probably won’t be comfortable. When we’ve changed our journey and have left someone behind to move forward in a new direction, our sights are set on a new road. If they return like a blast from the past and remind us of someplace we’d like to forget, we’ll have to find our way around. History is unchangeable but does not predict the future. We can move forward any way we want and go anywhere we choose. A reminder of where we’ve been is only that. It’s not a command to return to the past. Nothing can keep us from the journey we’ve chosen. We can keep our eyes focused on the road ahead and achieve anything we desire. We know what we want, and with determination and patience, will make it ours.

Sometimes it’s easy to see where our decisions will take us, but other times if the situation is complicated or there are a lot of other people involved, we may have no idea how it will turn out. There are always a lot of variables and sometimes things will go wrong. Bad decisions can stick to us like glue for a while, but as we continue to choose well, they will fade away as we move forward. We are capable of making excellent choices, and as we do, we’ll get closer to the destinations we want the most.

We may have a situation in our past that is so difficult we try to keep it secret. Trying to keep a secret may work, but information has a way of making itself known. Truth will always surface, and when it does, we will find a way to handle it. There is no situation so terrible or difficult we can’t manage it and manage it well. We are strong and have all the courage and wisdom we need to navigate anything.

Today if someone has returned from a difficult time in your past and you are unsettled, trust yourself. You’re on a new road and the past is behind you. Stand strong and look ahead. Every single dream is still there for you and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and sure. You will reach the goal you desire, and claim the prize.

Planning to Fail

3 Aug

There are a lot of things we want to do and we may think about how our lives would look if all our dreams came true. We can achieve anything we desire but first we must define what is needed to gain success and then we must be willing to do everything required. Even if we want something badly, there may be times we make decisions that keep us from succeeding. For example, if we want to lose weight but continue to overeat, or we want to be successful in our careers but do only enough to get by, or we want to be physically strong but refuse to exercise. If we don’t do the things needed to succeed we are in essence planning to fail. Success is always available but it won’t come to us simply because we want it badly. We must determine what it takes to achieve it and then we must do it. We can bemoan our lot in life, complain about missed opportunities and feel we’ve been cheated because the life we want the most hasn’t been achieved. We may feel better having a personal pity session but it won’t move us closer to where we want to go. No matter what has passed already there are countless opportunities now we can embrace and pursue to get where we want to go. We never have to stay where we are. We can plan to succeed and move forward with confidence by deciding exactly what we want and then doing what is needed to get it. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we choose. We can be as successful as we desire. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can plan to succeed and we can win.

It’s easy to envy others’ successes. When we see those who have achieved goals we desire we may think it was easier for them than it is for us or they somehow found a secret we haven’t yet discovered. We can’t see the years of struggle they may have had to endure or the many failures they had to crawl out from under to keep going. We don’t know what kinds of disappointments they faced or how many times they had to start again. We only see their success. Few successes come without work. We can achieve anything we desire but we must be willing to work for it.

It’s a true axiom that we always do what we want to do most. We may argue that sometimes we don’t have a choice but in reality, we always choose what we will do. Even if there are pressures from those around us to comply with their decisions, we can always go our own way. We don’t have to have to go along to keep the peace, we don’t have to do what is expected, and we don’t have to fit in. We can live our lives any way we choose. Our successes are choices we make and we can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been wanting to succeed at something but have made choices that have prevented you from moving forward, set your sites on the goal and plan to achieve it. Do what is needed to create the life you want the most. This is your time and you deserve every success. Plan to succeed and then do what is needed to make it happen. Nothing can stop you and you will win.

 

Call the Dance

16 Feb

There is an old saying that says if we call the dance, we must pay the piper. It means we are responsible for the results of all our decisions, even when they don’t turn out the way we hope they will. There will be consequences to every choice we make and no matter what they are, they belong to us. If we’ve been dishonest, childish, foolish, or unwise, whatever results from our actions is our responsibility. Of course, if we make good decisions and act well we will also gain the reactions to those choices. There is no way to skip out on our accountability and nobody gets to dance for free. We may try to ignore our part in our decisions, we may dodge the ramifications or try to hide, and we may even deny we’ve done something. But as in cards, once we’ve played our hand it cannot be changed. We can’t always predict the results of our choices and sometimes things will go awry even if we’ve tried our best. But if we are noble and honest we will manage what comes. We can call any kind of dance we want. We can choose wisely or foolishly, we can help or hurt, but whatever we choose the piper will require payment.

Selfishness never leads to happiness. If we selfishly make choices that only consider our wants or needs with no regard to how they will affect the lives of those around us we may get what we’re seeking but the price may be high. If we pretend to be something we aren’t or lie or cheat, we may fool those around us for a time. But truth is powerful and in the end, it will rise and if we’ve been dishonest our deception will become clear. Those who have trusted us and believed in us will see the truth of what we’ve done and who we really are. If we’ve hurt them badly they may turn away from us and we may lose our connections to them. It’s always wise to make the best decisions we possibly can and when we do, even if we falter, those involved will understand our objectives were noble even if our results didn’t work out.

There are times we might believe we can escape accountability by keeping our actions secret. Secrets only work when nobody figures them out. The problem is there is no secret so perfect or locked up that it won’t be revealed. Time has a way of opening the doors to truth. We might be able to hide for a while but nobody can hide forever. It’s better to make our choices out in the open. We can be honest about our motivations and choose boldly. If we decide to make a bad decision, we may make it and face the consequences. If we decide to embrace wisdom, our road will often be easier. If we choose well, when the piper comes for payment we’ll be ready. There isn’t anything we can’t do well. We deserve to be happy. Living honestly and making good choices will bring us happiness and peace.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and must now face the consequences, face them bravely and openly. You can resolve any problem you must face and correct your course. Choose wisely going forward and live honestly. You’ll be happier knowing you’re on the right road and you’ll become the person you want most to be.