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Leaving it Behind

30 Apr

We have all kinds of different relationships in our lives.  There are friends, colleagues, acquaintances, neighbors and many kinds of personal connections.  As we interact with them our experiences run the full gamut of emotion.  Sometimes we get along well and everything goes smoothly but there may be times when someone does something offensive or hurtful, and dealing with them is painful.  When we have a bad experience or someone acts in ways that destroy our trust or constantly negatively impact our lives we may step away from them.  We deserve to be happy and difficult relationships may bring us intense disharmony and conflict.  We are in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation we don’t want.  The other party may want us close and press us to continue forward with them but we can make our own decisions.  We always have the power to move forward and can leave any negative relationship behind.  Our happiness is our responsibility.  We need not suffer indefinitely through a dysfunctional or destructive situation.  We can confidently choose a new road that moves us toward the goals we desire.  Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like.  There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place.  We deserve the very best of everything and have sufficient courage and wisdom to achieve it.

Patterns and expectations can be powerful influences in our lives.  If we’ve been managing a difficult relationship for a while and want to change there may be pressure from others involved to keep things the same.  People like routines.  They help us understand what to expect and when we stick to them, even if they are destructive, we may feel secure simply because we know the situation well.  But routines are just patterns we design and we can change them when they don’t work.  We know what we want and can modify our direction at any time.  There is no reason to embrace unhappiness in an effort to keep the peace.  Our happiness is valuable and we can do whatever is needed to gain it.

Changing direction moves us away from where we are into the unknown.  It may be unsettling to choose a new road going forward but every road we travel is foreign at first.  We don’t know what the future will bring and we may be unsure about our steps as we move forward.  There are wonderful possibilities ahead and we are capable and strong enough to face any new situation with confidence.  We can look forward and discover every potential success.  The whole world is ours for the taking.  Every opportunity is available.  We can go anywhere and achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been struggling through a difficult situation and want a change, step away and start again.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold you in place.  Every possibility is available to you.  Turn your course onto the road you desire and move toward the goals you seek.  There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach.  You can do anything and make all your dreams can come true.


5 Feb

We have all kinds of options and opportunities in our lives. There are limitless choices we can make. We can do anything we want to do, go anywhere we want to go, and spend our time with anyone we choose. We can exercise our options at any time and change our situation whenever we feel we need to. But sometimes we forget we have the power to do these things, and we get stuck. Maybe we’re in a relationship that has been a part of our lives for a long time and although we aren’t happy, it has become routine, and we aren’t sure how to break free.  Maybe it’s a career we fell into that isn’t fulfilling but changing to something new is unsettling so we soldier on. And maybe it’s just a lifestyle we formed when we were younger that no longer fits who we are, but we aren’t sure how to change it. We get stuck in routines, in expectations, and in responsibilities. We can forget that we’re in control of our lives but if we want to be happy, really happy, we can do whatever it takes to get there. We can change anything even if it’s been a part of our lives for years. We deserve to be completely happy and feel we’re in charge of our future. We can do anything, but first we have to recognize where we are and decide if it’s where we want to be.

There is no pre-recorded path for our lives. Some people believe in fate and that we are destined to travel a certain road, but that flies in the face of reason. If we were all fated, we wouldn’t be able to choose our own way, but we can do that. If we’re lazy or uncertain, and unhappy where we are, we can say it’s fate, but in reality it’s a choice we’re making. We aren’t puppets on a string, and there isn’t anyone pulling those strings to make us go one way or another. Everything we do is a choice we make. There are sometimes pressures on us to go a certain way and make certain decisions, but in the end we are the ones who choose. Nobody can really make us do anything. And so, if we feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled, we can choose to change our lives. We can choose to do it at any time. And if we’re unhappy the sooner we decide to change, the more content we’ll be.

Nobody knows how long we’ll be on earth in this amazing, precarious, unpredictable, and wonderful existence. We may live to be centenarians, or we may leave earlier. We need to make the most of every day we’re here and get the most out of our experiences. If we’re stuck in a situation that stunts us, keeps us from moving forward, or doesn’t make us happy, we can change it. We deserve to be happy and feel we’re taking advantage of every opportunity available to us. Routines are just patterns we can break. We don’t have to stay stuck. We can choose something new. We can try anything and we can make our dreams a reality. All we have to do is decide. Making the decision to change is often the hardest part of the process. Once we’ve decided, going forward where we want to go will be rewarding. There isn’t anything we can’t do if we want it badly enough. We can conquer any obstacle, and we can accomplish whatever we set out to do. Getting stuck happens. Getting unstuck can happen too.

Today if you feel you’ve been stuck in a situation that isn’t rewarding or fulfilling and you want to change, you can. Decide what you want to do and where you want to go, and then open the door and begin. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Make your dreams come true. You have everything you need already. Take the first step. Turn the page. Happiness is there waiting for you.