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Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

A Hundred Turns

13 Aug

We can do anything we want in our lives and can change anything at any time. We know what kind of people we want to be, but becoming them isn’t always easy. There may be behavior traits we want to change that keep us from gaining the personal attributes we desire. We’re in control over our lives and can always adjust to fit any model we desire, but those adjustments take time and practice. Maybe we want to stop doing something that’s holding us back, or start doing something that will move us forward. We may try to alter our behavior one time and find success for a short period, only to return to the very thing we are trying to change. It’s unlikely we’ll decide what we want to do and instantaneously gain all the attributes needed to achieve it. Change takes time and repetition. There may be a hundred small turns needed before we are able to gain what we’re seeking. The first time we try we may make one small turn, the second time, maybe five more and so on. Each attempt will get us closer to the goal and if we persist and continue pressing forward, we’ll reach the destination, whatever that is. It would be great if we could just change everything in a moment and move forward, but life doesn’t work that way. It’s unlikely, probably impossible, that things will change on their own to exactly what we want. We must be focused and determined, but everything worth having is worth working for. Nothing we desire is out of reach and we can achieve anything. We can take it moment by moment, moving closer with each step, and find success. We are strong and capable, and nothing is too far or too difficult for us to manage. By staying true to the road ahead, and trusting ourselves, we can reach any goal we desire.

Just because something hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean it isn’t possible. The attempts of others to achieve the goal will give us information about what methods and ideas won’t work. We are intelligent and creative, and if we want to accomplish something, can find a way to make it happen. It may take more time than we thought at the beginning, and it might be harder than we imagined, but if we stay focused and continue forward, we will reach the goal. We have everything we need to be successful at anything we desire. Every blessing is possible and with determination and focus, we will prevail.

It’s hard to be patient when we want something to change and it isn’t happening yet. We may try one way and get stuck, only to have to backtrack and try another option. It doesn’t matter how many times we have to adjust our course. What matters is that our feet are pointed in the direction we want to go. If we keep our eyes trained on the goal and do everything we can to step ahead, we will reach it. Every single dream we desire can become reality. We have everything we need to go anywhere we want.

Today if you’ve been trying to make a change and keep getting hung up, remember each step you take moves you a little closer to the goal. Stay focused and continue. The goal is just ahead and nothing will keep you from reaching it. Every blessing is possible and nothing is out of reach. Keep moving forward. Success is there for you.