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Fitting In or Standing Out

4 May

Life is full of differences, and sometimes it seems just when we’ve figured everything out where we are, something happens and suddenly everything changes. Variety may be the spice of life, but when we’re different from everyone else, we may wish for commonality. There’s a lot to be said for sameness when we feel out of our element, and like the odd man out. We’re all individuals, and nobody is exactly like anyone else, but cultural and other influences may cause people to adopt similar behaviors and traditions. If we’re new to the scene, and aren’t like everyone else, we may feel uncomfortable. It’s easier to fit in when everyone is on the same page and doing the same things. We may feel pressure to conform to a behavior or pattern we don’t understand or don’t want. Fitting in usually makes social situations easier, and if we look like everyone else, use the same language and act the same way, we will be able to blend in. Nobody stands out when they are just like everyone else. There may be times when we’ll want to blend in and basically be invisible because we are unsure or lack the confidence necessary to do things our own way. We can certainly fade into the background all we like, but we are the only ones on the entire earth who can offer the gifts we have to give. The blessings we have to share are ours alone and will bring great light and benefit to those around us. But nobody will ever know what we have if we stay quiet and hide in the shadows. We don’t have to be loud and boisterous to make ourselves known, but we can step forward and share our lives and ideas with those around us. We have so much to offer and we can be confident enough to speak up. We can be ourselves and still find our place, no matter where we are. The whole world is blessed because we are here.

We make lots of connections as we go through our lives and build many kinds of relationships. Those around us may wish to include us in their activities, and we can certainly participate in anything we like. But we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. Just because everyone else in the group wants to be involved, if it doesn’t feel right for us, we may politely decline and step away. Our journey is ours to design and we can manage it any way we like.

There may be times when because someone has authority over us, we may be compelled to do certain things we don’t want. Our bosses, our family members, someone we love and honor very much, may ask us for something we would prefer not to do. In those moments, it will be up to us to weigh agreement against any ramifications a denial may bring. Every situation is different, and we are smart enough and wise enough to make the best decision at every turn.

Today if you’re having trouble fitting in where you are, remember you are unique and valuable. You don’t have to go along to get along. Be yourself and share your ideas. Your gifts are valuable and worthwhile. Stand tall and be confident. The whole world is better, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

One Drop

26 Sep

The world is a huge place with billions of people.  We could spend our whole lives traveling from place to place and still not see it all.  Unless we’re hermits living in a cave all alone in the middle of a huge desert we will be among other people.  Whether we live in a big city or a small town, they will be around us all the time.  It can be hard to feel significant and noticed if there are many others coming and going.  We may feel lost in the shuffle and completely ignored.  Our personal wants and needs may seem unimportant when compared to the world at large.  It’s like we’re just one drop in an ocean of water.  One drop isn’t much and we may believe it doesn’t count but one drop can mean the difference between filling a glass and over flowing it.  Every single person adds value and meaning to our life experience.  Even if we’re timid and quiet, or try our best to blend in, our presence will make a difference.  There is no way to exist in the world without impacting the environment around us.  We touch everyone we come in contact with in some way and alter their life experience simply because we are there.  We are relevant to the overall landscape around us and an integral part of the story playing out.  Our influence may be more far reaching than we realize and what we bring to every situation colors how things play out.  Our individuality and personal expression bring depth to our surroundings.  We are unique, valuable and essential, and each step we take and each interaction we share brings our personal light and brilliance to the world.

One drop of oil will always rise even if it’s dropped into a huge tank of water.  Nothing can make it disappear or blend.  It will always be different and obvious, and will alter the surface of the water.  We are all different and our influence will always change our environment in some way.  We may look the same on the outside, dress the same, even speak the same way, but we are unique and our ideas and interpretations are ours alone.  Nothing can make us invisible and our perspectives are valuable and needed.  We will always matter in every situation even if our voice is silent.  There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, anyone else exactly like us.  By remembering our personal worth and understanding our influence in the world around us, we can be confident and become the people we most want to be.

Every word we speak touches someone, and every act of kindness we do changes the world for the better.  We are integral to every situation and our influence is valuable and important.  Like that drop of oil floating on the surface, our presence makes a difference.  Nothing could ever take our place.  We are critical to the experience of those around us and the world is better because we are here.

Today if you feel invisible, and that nothing you do seems to matter, remember you are precious and important.  There isn’t anyone in the entire creation exactly like you.  The gifts you bring are yours alone to present.  You bring your unique flavor and we need you here.  Remember your worth.  Be confident.  You’re like a priceless gem shining light on all of us and nothing can take your place.