Tag Archives: Fit

Loud Voices

29 Mar

We live in the world with billions of other people. They come from all kinds of different backgrounds, and believe countless different things. Their opinions are important to them and if they’re passionate about what they think is right, they may be very loud and persistent in an effort to make others follow along. They may tell those around them what they should eat, what they should believe, what they should do, how to act or countless other things. We’re all entitled to our own ideas and perspectives and can live our lives any way we like, but we don’t have the authority to command others to embrace our choices. We all have the gift and privilege or free agency and can make any decisions we desire. We don’t need to do anything someone else’s way or follow anyone else’s ideas or beliefs. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we like, even if it’s different from those around us. There isn’t one perfect way to live. There are endless expressions and interpretations of every facet of life. We can make our own choices and let others choose what’s best for them. Demanding sameness and conformity will only suffocate and repress free expression and ingenuity. Every choice has its own benefits and drawbacks, and we can make them independently, regardless of what’s going on around us. We can listen to the opinions of others, and then choose for ourselves. We know who we are and what we want. We can live our lives in ways that bring us the blessings we seek and take us where we want to go. Our wisdom and insight will guide us along, and with focus and determination, we can have the lives we dream about.

It’s easy to do things when everyone is in agreement. If we’re all on the same page and embrace the same goals, we can move forward with little distraction or division. It’s fine to go along with something if it moves us further down the road we want to travel, but we need never succumb to conformity if it’s not what we want. We are valuable and worthwhile, and have gifts to offer nobody else can bring. The world is enhanced because we are here and we can be confident is being exactly who we are.

Opinions come and go, trends change and ideas modify as time passes. What was popular before may be passé now and what was considered all the rage last year may be a forgotten memory. It doesn’t matter what others are doing or how much importance they put on fitting in. We can decide what works for us and what we want. Our uniqueness and individuality bring depth and flavor to every situation. There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, anyone else like us. We can share who we are and make decisions that take us where we want to go and give us the lives we desire.

Today if there is pressure from those around you to conform, remember you are awesome and valuable just as you are. You don’t have to go along with anything you don’t want. The whole world is blessed because you are here and your presence enhances us all. You are amazing. Be confident and decide what you want most. Make decisions that will bring you the life you dream about and happiness will be yours.


Hit It Again

9 Jul

Have you ever had a time in your life when you were trying to make something work that just would not? Have you ever tried, and tried to push something through, something you were so sure would work, but it just wouldn’t go? Sometimes despite everything we believe, everything we do, and everything we try, sometimes things just don’t work out. It isn’t a question of intellect. It isn’t a question of determination. It’s a question of fit.

This life is filled with twists and turns, ideas, plans, and changes. We can attempt to do anything we want to. Sometimes we get an idea that seems good, but when we put it into action it just doesn’t work out. I have a friend who always wanted to live in a certain state. He was sure he would be happy there, he had read about it, thought about it, and made what he believed was a good decision to move there. But once he arrived, nothing worked out. He was stunned to learn upon arrival that because of changes in the economy, the job he had lined up had been eliminated. Although disappointed, he wasn’t too worried thinking he could find something else quickly. He had some savings, and decided to remain. However, with no income, he had to choose an apartment in a difficult location, but thinking it was only temporary he decided he could deal with that. Despite his extensive education and experience he wasn’t able to find a position right away. He got a couple of part time jobs, but they weren’t enough, and he watched as his savings dwindled to nothing. Still, he was determined to live there so he pressed forward. He pushed and pushed, trying so hard to make the decision fit, but nothing worked. After a couple of awful years, he decided he didn’t want to continue, and began looking for positions in other locations. He got an offer for a terrific job in a different state, and moved. He was disappointed with how things turned out but sometimes no matter how we plan ahead, no matter how sure we are, sometimes the plan fails. Sometimes it’s just not the right fit for us.

When this happens, it’s like trying to shove a square peg into a round hole. We push it, we hammer it, we think if we just hit it again it’ll work, but it just doesn’t fit. We need to regroup, realign, and find a square hole, which might be right next to the round one we’ve been working so hard on. Life is unpredictable. We try to make good decisions, and often we do. But sometimes we don’t know the whole story until after the decision is made. And when we finally get the whole story, we realize the decision won’t work. We can feel like failures when that happens. Why didn’t we see it? Why didn’t we know? But we haven’t really failed. We just got more information that clarified the situation for us. It may be painful, but getting the information is the most important part. And once we have it, we can start over. We can adjust the plan, and begin again.

Today if you feel you’re in the wrong place at the wrong time, and nothing is working, look at the whole picture. Are you trying to make something work that doesn’t fit you? If you are, change your direction. What do you need to do to find your place? How can you adjust things so you are happy again? Take some time to think about it, and then, make the change. Be confident. You’ll figure this out, and you’ll fix it. You deserve to be happy, and feel like your life fits. Today do what’s needed to make that happen.