Tag Archives: Relationships

Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

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Nothing Left

12 Aug

There are many things we’ll experience as we go through our lives. We never know what tomorrow will bring and we’re constantly adjusting to change and new developments. Most of the time we’re able to manage what comes and can find ways to work around complications and alter our plans if there is a sudden turn in the road. But life is uncertain, and unpredictable, and we may face a time when everything changes, and we must struggle to keep moving forward. If the situation is intense, and long lasting, we may tire and get overwhelmed. If we’ve been working a problem for a while, and still there is no resolution or reprieve, we may feel worn out and finished. There’s nothing left in our reserves, and we don’t believe we can go on. We all have limits to what we can handle at once, and the time may come when we simply must stop and step away. There is no shame in taking a break. If we need time to rest and restore, we can take it. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we don’t have to solve everything right now. When we need respite from the storm, we can step back, sit down, and take the time we need to regroup and recover. The problems we’re facing will still be there when we’re ready to return, and while we’re resting new ideas and solutions will arise to help us find the way forward. We are intelligent and capable, and can do anything we must. We can pace ourselves in ways that help us move ahead, and find every answer we need. Life can be hard and we’ll all face times when we aren’t sure we will survive. But nothing can hold us down indefinitely, and with determination and focus, we will prevail. We are stronger than we think we are. We know what we want, and will find the way forward.

Relationships are important to us. When they are positive and loving, they bring great satisfaction and joy to our lives. We all want good, strong connections to those we love, but sometimes there are problems that make it difficult to continue. We never have to stay in any situation that makes us unhappy or afraid. Letting go isn’t always easy, but we are responsible for our own happiness. We can change our lives in ways that bring us greater joy and move us toward what we want the most.

We are always in control of our lives, and if where we are and what we’re doing isn’t working, we can change. There are unlimited opportunities available to us, and if we want something different, we can move in a new direction. We don’t need agreement or permission from our family or those around us. We can step forward toward something new and reach any goal we desire. Every success is possible, and we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been on a long road and are tired of the struggle, step back and take time for yourself. Re-evaluate what you want the most. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward. You can change your direction at any time and do anything you desire. Every dream you seek is there for you. Trust yourself, and move forward with confidence. You deserve complete happiness, and you can have it.

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Tiny Pebbles

28 May

Sometimes when we we’re walking along we may get a small stone in our shoe. We feel it under our foot and it’s aggravating as we walk. While not cripplingly painful, it’s an annoyance that’s uncomfortable. We can stop and remove our shoe and shake it out. After we remove it we can continue on without discomfort. Because the stone is so small if we had to walk with it in our shoe we probably could continue but we would always be aware of its presence. Stopping and removing it is the only way to find relief. Our lives can be like that at times. There may be something bothering us on the periphery that isn’t crippling but is annoying and constant. Perhaps it’s a discussion we need to have with someone else that we’ve put off. Or maybe someone did something that hurt us and we haven’t been able to let it go. There are a million things that could be drifting around in the background that don’t stop us from moving forward, but are bothersome and keep our attention. The only way to remove them is the same as removing the annoying pebble in our shoe. We must stop, address the issue, do what it takes to resolve it, and then move on.

We all have boundaries in our lives and when we clearly define them and understand them we can work around them. But if we let others broach those boundaries in ways that make us uncomfortable and don’t tell them where our lines are, we may be hurt as they stomp all over them. Nobody knows us like we know ourselves. If we don’t communicate what doesn’t work for us, others may make choices that are difficult for us to manage. When that happens if we speak up we have the chance to remove the pebble and move forward. If we are silent, things will remain the same. We are responsible for our own lives. If we don’t like what’s happening, we can speak up.

There may be times when those close to us do things that make us uncomfortable. We can talk to them, explain our discomfort, and ask them to change. But we can only control ourselves and the decisions made by others belong to them. Sometimes even after explaining our feelings people will continue on the same way despite our discomfort. If they are important to us we might just accept that and find a way around the situation because we care about them. Relationships are complicated and sometimes we may choose to go along even when we aren’t happy about the direction. The annoyance will still be there but if we’ve explained our position and asked for what we need, even if things don’t change, we can feel confident that we did all we could. We are responsible for our own happiness and asking for what we want is the best we can do. We won’t always get it but speaking up empowers us to move forward.

Today if you have a situation that’s been bothering you that you haven’t addressed, do what is needed to resolve it. You have all the courage necessary to take care of it. Face whatever is keeping you from being happy and move forward. You deserve to be completely happy. Remove whatever pebble is in your shoe and you’ll find comfort.

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