Opening A Window

15 Apr

Life is long and filled with all kinds of experiences. We never know what will happen next or how things will develop. Sometimes we sail along with hardly a care or worry, and other times we may feel beset by trouble and turmoil. Things may go wrong because of decisions we’ve made or the decisions or actions of someone else. And sometimes crap just happens. When we’re struggling, if we get overwhelmed with stress and complications, and have been pushing hard for a long time, we may tire and begin to feel hopeless. It may seem like nothing we do changes anything and there is no end to the grief and despair. We may be convinced this is it, this is as good as it’s ever going to be and our lives are ruined. Once we lose hope in any chance of change, we may give up and surrender to our darkest fears and emotions. If we’re in a dark, stuffy room, it can feel like there is no air. But if we open a window, the cool air will stream through, and refresh and lift us. Hard times come to us all but no matter how bad the situation seems, there will always be hope. We can open a window in our hearts, trust in ourselves, and be sure that nothing will overcome us and hold us down forever. The situation may be dire, and we may be consumed with concern, but change is constant and cannot be held back. Tomorrow will come, the sun will rise and in time, however long that takes, things will improve. We will learn to adjust and overcome whatever we must to find peace again. Happiness and success will always be possible. We are wise and strong, and can do what is needed to get through and reach them both.

Running a marathon is hard. It takes lots of training, endurance and stamina. Sometimes it may seem we’re running a marathon in our lives. Lots of things are trying us and we may have to push hard against obstacles to make any headway. Just when we think we can see the finish line, things change and there are miles yet to go. Big, intense trials are hard to get through. They test our patience, our strength, and sometimes our sanity. But we are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and every answer we need is always there for us. By taking things one step at a time and keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will prevail.

If we must face a difficult health situation, a sudden unexpected death of a loved one, an unforeseen loss of a job, or a dozen other difficult scenarios, we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. At first we may feel lost about our next steps. What do we do now? How can we face this? It may seem there is no way to survive, but that will never be true. There will always be a way ahead. We can stop and stand still, and take time to determine how we want to proceed. We are powerful and highly capable, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with worry and trouble, and it seems nothing you do moves you forward, remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious and difficult challenges. You are wise and powerful, and even if the road is long and hard, you will prevail. Nothing can keep you from moving ahead, and every destination is still there for you. Be confident and stand strong. Every dream is waiting, and you will reach them all.

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Cart First

13 Apr

Nature is amazing and orderly. Everything happens at the right time. Fall never comes just before summer, harvests don’t come in winter, and the sun doesn’t rise at night. There is timeliness and order to everything. We can count on this to continue and often predict what will come next. Our lives are ours to design, and since we have free will, can do anything we like. There is no set schedule for when things must happen, and timing doesn’t count for a lot of things. But there are some that may bring us hardship if we do them out of order. If we buy a car before we have the money to make the payments, we will struggle. If we take a job we’re unprepared for we may go down in flames. If we attempt an advanced course before taking the pre-requisites, we may fail. It’s like the old saying about putting the cart before the horse. If the horse isn’t in the front, it can’t pull the cart, and so we’re stuck. There are all kinds of ways to succeed at what we want to accomplish, and if we skip the preparation, or try to jump ahead, we might get there, but we won’t have all the tools we could have acquired along the way. We are intelligent and can see what is needed to reach success. Doing things in order will help pave the road ahead. Every goal is possible, and we can achieve anything we desire if we’re mindful and focus on what is required to win. We have all the wisdom we need to reach any destination.

Life is full of complications and unforeseen developments, and will bring us lots of challenges. Even if we make every single decision perfectly, there will still be tangles and trouble from time to time. There are lots of forces and people we may be unaware of who may be doing things that make our journey more difficult. We can’t control what life will bring us but we can control what we do. By taking our time and clearly looking at all the options possible before making a decision, we can move forward more easily and reach success.

Everyone wants to get to their goals with as little hassle as possible. We all want to lose ten pounds yesterday, or get that promotion we think we deserve immediately. Nothing worth having comes without effort. Wishing and hoping and dreaming of how things could be is just a distraction. Once we decide what we want, we can determine what is needed to make it ours, and then step forward to accomplish it. We are strong and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Every dream is possible, and we will make them ours.

Today think about putting things in order. Decide what you want and make a plan to achieve it. You are incredibly capable and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Stand strong and step forward with wisdom and focus. There is great success ahead just waiting for you. Be confident. You will win.

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Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

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Another Let Down

8 Apr

Everyone makes their own decisions and we’re all accountable for each choice we make. If we make commitments and honor them, people will learn to trust us. If we give our word and then just forget about it because we really didn’t mean it, others will understand we are not reliable. Life is complicated and we will face all kinds of dicey and uncomfortable situations. If we’re pressed against something we don’t think we can manage, we might say anything just to escape. We may agree to do what someone else wants, or say we’ll take care of the issue, when in fact we have no intention of doing either. We may focus on simply looking good for the moment and getting away, and push off any responsibility we have for following through. We can do anything we like, but one thing is certain – every decision we make will have a result. Dodging our accountability doesn’t eliminate it. We own every choice, good or bad. If we can’t do something, or don’t understand how to proceed, instead of making up stories to get through, it’s far better to be completely honest about what’s happening. Nobody knows everything and we’re all going to be in situations that confound us and tangle the way forward. If we’re open about our true feelings and refuse to agree to something we cannot do, we can stand strong and step forward with confidence. Our lives are what we make them. By being truthful and clear, we can pave the road ahead and reach success.

It’s good to trust others, but we may face a situation when that trust is abused and broken. Maybe someone makes a date with us, but then fails to show. They may have a very convincing excuse, and we may forgive them and try again. If they stand us up a second time, it will be harder to believe them when they try to explain. Some people don’t care how their decisions affect others. They may make all kinds of commitments they never intend to keep, and if we care for them, their irresponsibility may hurt us deeply. We know who we are and what we want. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and go in a new direction

There is an old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn be twice, shame on me.” Continually trusting someone who constantly lets us down will never take us where we want to go. There is no way to change anyone else or control their decisions. Once we see who they are and how they act, it’s up to us to decide what our relationship with them will be. We never have to stay in any relationship that brings pain or discomfort. There will always be another road and a new way forward. By trusting ourselves, and choosing what’s best for us, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been let down again by someone, think about what you want the most. You are more precious and powerful than you imagine, and deserve complete happiness. There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place. Choose the roads that will lead you to success and step forward confident and sure. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself. The best is just ahead.

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Zero Resistance

6 Apr

Everyone is different and we all have ideas about how things should go and what we should do. We decide what goals we want, where we’ll go and choose every aspect of our own lives. We’re entitled to our own choices and can do anything we like. Some people think they have all the answers and know more than the rest of us. They may think their ideas are better than anyone else’s and may try to make us comply with their desires. If they will not tolerate any resistance, we may struggle when we must deal with them. Unless they have authority over us, we need never do anything we don’t want to do. It doesn’t matter if they insist, if they scream and holler or try to muscle us into compliance. We are in control of our lives and may live them according to our own desires – not somebody else’s. We can listen to any advice or direction we’re given, and then decide what we’ll do. If we’re intimidated or threatened by someone, we might go along with what they want, but control over our lives is ours alone. We need never give it up to go along. We don’t need anyone’s permission or agreement to do anything we like. Every destination and goal are possible, and if we keep our eyes looking forward, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s always easier if everyone is doing the same things. If we’re all going in the same direction there are often fewer complications and tangles along the way. Being the same as everyone else might be easier, but we’re all unique and have our own perspectives. Our ideas are valuable and important, and we have the courage and wisdom we need to express them clearly and effectively. We can change direction at any time and take a new road. We are intelligent and strong, and will find the way forward.

If there is something important we want to accomplish, and we feel strongly that we know the best way to get it done, we might try to make others involved do things our way. We may insist on compliance, sure that we have the only answer. No matter how confident we are, there are few times in life when only one way will work. Instead of forcing our views on others, we can be confident enough to listen to different ideas and allow everyone to participate in the decision. There are always many roads to every destination, and by keeping our minds open we will find the best way ahead.

Today if you’re being pushed to comply with something you don’t agree with, remember your decisions are yours to make. Listen to every perspective and choose the best road ahead. You never need to go along with anything you don’t want. You are smart and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Nothing is powerful enough to control you. Stand strong and be confident. The whole world is there for you and everything is possible.

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