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Bad to Worse

22 Aug

Nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes. Even when we’re trying our best, things go wrong sometimes and we may do something we regret or don’t want others to know about. The mistake we’ve made may be so difficult that we try to hide it from those around us. That may work sometimes, but if it doesn’t and someone finds out, in our embarrassment or shame, we may lie and say we didn’t do it, or don’t know anything about it. We may hope it’ll just fade away and no one will ever bring it up again – which again may work sometimes. However, if others get involved trying to find out what happened or who is responsible, and we keep lying to cover our tracks, our situation will only worsen. A mistake isn’t the end of the world and even if it’s bad, we can recover. But complicating matters further by lying and denying won’t solve anything. Instead our situation may deteriorate and we may find we’re in deeper than if we’d told the truth at the beginning. It’s like digging a hole. The first denial is the first shovelful of dirt out of the ground. Each additional lie or distraction digs us in further and before we know it, we’re in a hole we can’t get out of. One mistake is just that – one mistake. Even if it’s big and impacts others negatively, owning up to it at the beginning will make it possible for us to fix whatever has gone wrong, and start again. Wrong turns teach us a lot about the way forward. We discover what doesn’t work and can use that information to help us find the best roads ahead. Life is all about learning and we’re going to stumble from time to time. When we falter, admitting what we’ve done and gaining all we can from the experience, will help us find success as we move forward.

When we’re interacting with someone who wants us to do something difficult, it may not be easy to comply. If the task is hard and we’re struggling to get through, we may try to find a way around it. When asked about our progress, we may lie and say we’re doing fine, when in fact we’re no closer to completion than when we started. We never have to compromise our values in an effort to please someone else. If we can’t do what’s been requested, we can say so. Being honest in all our dealings, even those that are complicated and difficult, will bring us great confidence and satisfaction.

It’s possible to get tangled up in someone else’s problems. They may come to us for advice but then dump their issue onto us. We can always help but we never have to take ownership of anyone else’s trouble. We can be supportive and allow them to keep what is theirs. Our lives are important and we deserve to be happy and comfortable. We can make excellent decisions, and find our way with confidence and clarity.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to cover your tracks so others won’t know, think again. Be honest and own what’s yours. Then step forward and adjust your course until you find the best road ahead. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can hold you down. Be confident and trust yourself. All the answers are there for you and you will prevail.

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