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Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

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Reflection

10 Jan

Each day we make many decisions, and every decision we make takes us somewhere and tells the world who we are. We can say anything we like and act out in different ways, but our lives are the true reflection of the decisions we make. We can choose anything we like at every opportunity. If we’re rushed or desperate, we might make a bad choice simply to get out of a difficult situation. Bad decisions may bring immediate gratification and quick relief but they cannot provide lasting happiness. If we choose badly, chances are we’ll pay a big price for it. Sometimes, we may go the wrong way because we only consider ourselves and our own personal interests, and may not think of the impact the decision may create on those around us or what will happen next. We are responsible for the lives we have. If we find we’re continually tangled up in complications and distrust, odds are the decisions we’re making are putting us there. We are capable of living strong, noble, happy lives but we must create them. Nobody gets a paved road with all the answers provided in advance. We must weigh each situation carefully, look at all the options before us, consider where our choices will take us, and then decide. Our best decisions won’t always be the easiest to make but we are capable of choosing wisely and doing what is needed to live happily and peacefully. By making good, sound decisions that take us where we most want to go, we can have the lives we desire.

People lie for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it’s because the truth is hard to face, or because the lie will get them something they desire. Lies can camouflage facts for a time and may make the road ahead a little easier – at first anyway. The first time we tell a lie we may feel great remorse and disappointment but if we lie again, it’s easier to look the other way. Repetition relieves guilt and if we make lying a pattern, eventually we may do it without even thinking. But truth is powerful and no matter how we bend it or manipulate it, will always rise and become obvious. There is nothing worth sacrificing our integrity. There is no goal worth selling our honesty to achieve. If we are truthful in all things, we’ll have the lives we want the most and the trust and respect of those around us.

There is an old saying that “the ends justify the means.” If what we’re seeking is very important to us, we may be tempted to do anything or make any decision, even a bad one, to get it. The “ends” may seem critical but nothing is worth giving up our personal integrity to get it. We can achieve anything we desire by making excellent choices. Each decision we make defines who we are, and with patience and wisdom we can become the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re considering a bad decision to get out of a difficult situation, think carefully before you act. Every decision you make reflects on who you are. Make choices that show the world your personal integrity and honest principles. Embellish and augment every situation by choosing wisely. You are a blessing to us all. Share your best with us, move forward with confidence, and every success will follow.

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