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Unchanging

15 Oct

If someone hurts us and our lives are negatively impacted, we may very much want to find a way to make the other party involved aware of what they’ve done.  We may feel once our voice has been heard and we’ve been vindicated we can more easily let go of the pain we’ve suffered.  But sometimes it’s impossible to get a resolution to a situation no matter what we do.  The other party may not care that we’re hurt, or that they are the cause of distress.  When that happens we may carry the pain forward with us, sometimes indefinitely.  Since it will never change, it may continually prick us with the unfairness we feel and hold us in place as the years pass.  Unresolved conflict is hard to let go of.  It’s like a math equation we can’t solve.  It stays the same and never changes.  We can worry about it and fret over it until we’re willing to accept the fact that we can’t solve it and turn the page.  Carrying unsettled conflict along with us as we go through our lives will weigh us down and may keep us from complete happiness.  What is in the past can never be changed.  Holding onto it will never alter it or help us moving forward.  We can accept it as it is, set it down and let it go.  Our lives belong to us and when we hold onto hurt from the past we forfeit a portion of control going forward.  We deserve complete happiness and by letting go of what is holding us down we can achieve it.  We can be free of past pain and heartache.  We need only decide to set it down, and leave it behind.

If we’ve created a painful situation for someone else, either intentionally or accidentally, we can recognize our role in it and do what is needed to correct it.  We are all more connected than we think we are and everything we do affects the world around us in some way.  If we’ve been a negative influence, we can change our focus and direction toward something more positive.  We can resolve any conflict we’ve created and pave the way forward with friendship and cooperation.

Some people don’t care about others or who they hurt.  They storm through their lives doing as they please and let the chips fall where they may.  If we’re in their path of destruction we may get run over and chewed up.  There may be great disappointment and pain as their lives intersect with ours.  We are only responsible for the decisions we make.  If decisions made by others negatively impact us, we can find a way to navigate around them and move forward outside their influence.  Our happiness is our responsibility and if we get hurt we can find the way back toward the light.  This life is a great blessing.  We need not give up one moment to a painful situation we cannot change.  Instead, we can move forward with confidence and reach every goal we desire.  Everything is possible and we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been carrying around pain from something in the past and have been unable to let it go, look at all the attributes you possess.  Remember how wonderful you are.  There is greatness in you and we’re all blessed because you are here.  Let go of what is behind you and move forward with confidence.  The whole world is there for you and everything you desire is possible.

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Value in Disaster

10 May

In 1914 Thomas Edison’s factory in West Orange, New Jersey, was destroyed by fire. Everything was gone. The building was made mostly of concrete, and nobody thought it could burn so it was insured for a small fraction of the loss. The day after the fire, Mr. Edison went to survey the damage. As he stood there seeing the complete destruction, he said, “There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God we can start anew.” What an amazing man! What an incredible attitude! Someone else may have only seen the loss, but he saw the potential of starting again. What an great example.

We all suffer disasters of varying degrees in our lives. Some are enormous, and hard to face, and others are less destructive. Some wreck our belongings, as well as, our spirits. We may face devastating situations that take years to overcome, or we may have problems that seem disastrous at first but turn out to be workable. Whatever we face, our attitude decides how we will go forward. If we believe the situation is insurmountable, too horrible to face, and we hide from it, it may consume our lives. However, if we, like Mr. Edison, look at the other side of the coin, that it’s horrible now, but it’s also the beginning of something new, it will be easier for us to navigate it.

When we suffer through tragedies and disasters, our lives are changed permanently. We can never go back to how we were before the event happened. What was before is gone. We have to face a new reality. It may not be easy to face, but whether we face it or not, it’s still where we are. So, the best we can do is accept it, decide what we need to do to go forward, and direct our lives to accommodate the change. It’s easy to say these things, it’s easy to think about them, what isn’t easy, is to do them. But we have sufficient courage inside us, and we can handle the changes in our lives, no matter what they are.

This life has its pack of trials. People die, storms ravage, fires burn, floods invade, wars happen, and we all have our share of sorrow, and grief. In those horrible moments, we may feel that we can’t go on. We can’t face our lives now, they are too difficult. But a day goes by, and despite our intense unhappiness, we actually live through it. Then another day goes by. Then a month passes, and as it does, we being to heal. We can, with patience, and time face whatever comes to us. Some days perhaps the best we can do is just breathe in and out, and that is sufficient.

If we can try to think like Mr. Edison did when he faced utter destruction, and see a new beginning instead of just an ending, we will face our trials with more confidence, and peace. Remember that each end is the start of something new. Turn the page. It’s a new day.

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